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Welcome to episode 128 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today I’ve got another amazing guest for you, Susan Anderson. Susan is considered the founder of the Abandonment Recovery movement, and is a dedicated psychotherapist who has spent over 30 years helping those who struggle with abandonment trauma, grief, and loss. Naturally on this episode we discuss abandonment, and also how she came to write the book The Abandonment Recovery Workbook. She shares the neuroscience behind the deep wounds abandonment imprints on us, and we both share our personal abandonment experiences.

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Welcome to episode 127 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today I’ve got yet another special guest to share with you, Jenny Blake. Jenny is an internationally-known author, speaker and career and business strategist. She’s also a fellow podcaster and has been my friend for nearly a decade. On this episode, Jenny and I are talking about her latest book Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One, what pivots are and are not, and how she has learned so much from navigating pivot points in her own life. You’ll Also Hear:

● What inspired her to write this book?

● What are the four stages of a pivot?

● The three things to test when you are in pilot mode.

● Does your life contain the clues you need to discover your next pivot?

● Does all change involve loss?

● How to trust your emotional process when pivoting.

● What has she learned from meditation?

● Why she calls 2013 her apocalypse year, and what it taught her.

● Why Jenny believes our challenges are chosen for us.

● And much more!

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As the year comes to an end, I love thinking about not only my accomplishments,  but what I’ve learned. And this year I’ve made a list of the lessons I know to be true off the top of my head, 38 to be exact.There are loads more, but here’s a start:

1. Cleaning up my own messes is the best way to sleep at night. This means apologizing when I’ve been an asshole and just generally doing my best to fix things I’ve made a mess of.
2. Taking radical responsibility for my life is the only option.  No one else is responsible for my happiness. No one.
3. My children don’t define me.  I used to think becoming a mother would be my ultimate life purpose. It isn’t. I used to have a lot of guilt and shame about that. But, I don’t anymore.
4. No relationship will complete me. Not a single one.
5. My vagina looks the way it does, and I’m okay with that, I even love it. That also goes for my boobs, tummy, and every other body part I used to hate. I’m done listening to people that tell me I need to look different.
6. “Taking the edge off” really needed to be examined. For me, I was taking off all the edges. And sometimes edges just need to be dealt with.
7. Exercise really is the best medicine.
8. The voice in my head that tells me I’m not enough is a liar.
9. Progress, not perfection.
10. “Let it go” is 99% of the time, the best way to solve a problem.
11. “No” is a complete sentence.
12. If I listen, my body is usually trying to tell me something.
13. I only apologize when I really, truly can stand behind it.
14. There will always be people that don’t like me and it’s not my job to change their minds. (I admit this one is still tough. It’s a one-day-at-a-time lesson.)
15. My parents did the best they could, with what they had at that time.  And as parents, that’s all we can do.
16. Forgiveness is more about me, and not them.
17. Time really doesn’t heal all wounds—I’m in charge of that. Time helps, but being proactive is the catalyst.
18. All wisdom is created from healed pain.
19. Trying to control everything is my one-way ticket on the crazy train. Sometimes I forget this and get on board.
20. The comparison trap is basically made-up stories of what I think someone else’s life is like.
21. We’re all scared. We all have fear. The people that say they are fearless are just pretending.
22. None of us get out of this alive. And in the end, I want to be proud how I lived it.
23. If we all worked on our insides as much as we worked on our outsides, the world would change for the better.
24. You end up with what you put up with. Examine it and change what you don’t like.
25. At your funeral, no one will talk about your failures. So, keep failinguntil you get it right.
26. At that same funeral, no one will talk about how your body looked. Your heart and spirit matter more.
27. You really do catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. In other words, don’t be a dick.
28. Uncomfortable conversations are always hard. However, that elephant in the room isn’t going anywhere (and takes up a lot of space)—so you might as well call it out.
29. Most people really are too busy thinking about themselves to be obsessing about you like you think they are.
30. It’s usually never, ever as big a deal as we think it is. Ever.
31. That person that treats you like shit is a giant invitation to not be around that person ever.
32. If you spend time nosing in other people’s business, there’s probably something important in your life you’re purposely avoiding dealing with.
33. God always has your back.
34. Kindness really always does win.
35. Love is always the answer.
36. Having an open mind can many times blow your mind.
37. None of us are broken or need fixing. Improvement, yes.
38. Whatever you think you are, will be your truth. And you are completely in charge of that, babe.

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This is a re-broadcast with Sally Hope, one of my favorite podcast guests. As many of you know my father passed away last month and I’m taking a break for a few weeks and re-airing archived episodes. I thank you for your patience during this time. Next week is a brand new episode!

Another amazing edition of the YKAL podcast is upon us! I’m here with Sally Hope, founder of The Wildheart Revolution. I love Sally’s take on life and I’m sure you will too. In this episode we talk about several different important topics...

• In a recent blog post Sally talks about trying to please everyone and how to stop doing this. We discuss the gist of her post, how we’ve both learned to do our best of NOT caring so much if other people like us.
  
• Next we talk about LIFE PURPOSE and how to actually take the pressure off ourselves in our quest to finding it. (Because in actuality that pressure is keeping you from finding it!)
  
  
• Sally’s message screams to not apologize for who you are.We discuss that being your biggest self might mean having to leave some people behind and how to go about dealing with that. 

• One of Sally’s big things is going on adventures! I ask her where would someone start that doesn’t have a ton of time or money? This conversation segues into talking about friends (aka your tribe) and how to create that in your life. Sally has NEW ideas for you!

 I’m just certain you’ll love Sally Hope as much as I do! She’s such a great inspiration full of love and authenticity. And get ready for next week for an all new episode!

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Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to another episode of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! My friend Randi joins us to talk about the all-important topic of boundaries and how nice people set ‘em. Randi is THE expert of experts! She’s a life coach, hard truth-talker and creative producer of products that encourage women to step into their truth, and transform their inner and interpersonal struggles. Trust me, I KNOW boundaries are difficult and we ALL struggle with them-- whether it’s family members, co-workers, or our neighbors, we could all use some help in this area, right? On today’s show she shares with us how creating our own container of what we want in our lives sets our boundaries, what gardens have to do with boundaries and ultimately why we struggle with boundaries so much.