Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Today’s podcast episode comes from a podcast listener. She asks: 

I am wondering if you have any strategies for how to help move people to a place of readiness to change?

I have been doing a lot of work on myself over the past two years and am feeling so much better in my life and I notice myself wanting to spread this joy to others and show them they too can feel better!

There is one person in particular in my life who I am very close to who is raising two daughters who I am even closer to. I find it very hard to sit back and watch her suffer due to her lack of skills with dealing with difficult emotions, social anxiety, and control issues. I know she is definitely not ready to change from previous conversations. She immediately shuts down any time someone tries to hold her accountable for her part in problems, uses silent treatment with them, takes no ownership for her actions and shows no awareness that all signs point to her having significant social anxiety. My heart SO wants to help this person. It is more difficult watching the pattern begin to repeat itself in her daughters. 

I know logically that there is nothing I can do because people have to be ready to change. And I have to let go of the attachment that I can "change someone". But I guess I am hopeful there are ways to support someone in moving towards being ready to change. 

How does one gently increase a person’s awareness? 

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in a situation where you KNOW you can help someone or at least point them in the direction of helping them out. 🙋🙋🙋

I have much to say about this-- the do’s and don’t’s and everything in between. Listen in as I also tell you HOW to say what can be helpful for your friend or loved one, as well as how to take care of yourself. 

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I am especially pumped for today's episode because it is the first time I am coaching someone on the podcast. I am so excited! But, before I dive into the content of today’s episode, I wanted to give a crash course in life coaching (for anyone new to the concept) and share how I actually coach my clients.

Traditionally, life coaches act as a guide when working with clients. They ask the right questions or offer clients different perspectives. One important item to note: life coaches don't give advice nor do they give their opinion. The way I work with clients is a mix between life coaching and consulting or advising. Because I've been doing this work for so long and with the same type of woman, I see patterns over and over and over again, which helps me better help those I work with. I also get really curious. You will hear this as you listen to my session with Rachel.

Speaking of Rachel, she is one of my past group coaching participants and kindly agreed to do this special podcast coaching session episode. During the session, we discussed her fear of advancing in her career, which we identified as an upper limit problem (which I KNOW is a common struggle!). We also uncovered a quiet, yet powerful inner voice that says, “Yes, you can do this.” The session is thought-provoking, empowering and engaging. I have been thinking about doing this kind of podcast episode for so long. The day has finally arrived and I hope you enjoy it!

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

  • Uncovering Rachel’s upper limit problem and discussing aspired values (20:04)
  • Explanation of an upper limit problem, what it is and how to address it (24:26)
  • An exercise in talking through the worst case scenario when it comes perceptions by people in the workplace (30:54)
  • Uncovering a quiet yet powerful inner voice or what Rachel refers to as a vibration or wave (42:46)
  • A kick-ass update from Rachel (1:04:04)
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This week’s episode has been a long time coming. It all started back in 2016, following the presidential election. At the time, I realized I needed to take a step back and unlearn a lot of the things that I had learned as a young adult. I needed to look at many important things through a new lens and figure out what I could do with my platform that's helpful to those that follow me. The thing is, if you’re “doing” personal development (whether you’re a student, teacher, or both), the topic of social justice matters. The end.  

I spent a decent amount of time conversing with people, reading, and listening to podcasts about societal justice, the patriarchy, and race relations, all in an attempt to understand, at a deeper level, the world that surrounds me. One of the people I’ve been learning from is Dr. Tee Williams. Dr. Tee is an educator, consultant, and writer residing in Los Angeles. His passion is helping people and organizations transform themselves so that together we can collectively transform the world.

The online world of social justice can be very confusing and overwhelming, am I right?

What can we do?

Who do we learn from?

Where do we start?

What does social justice mean?

And, what does liberation mean?

These words and phrases get thrown around so much. And the reality is, a lot of us don't know what they actually mean or look like. Dr. Tee is here this week to help us sort it out and make sense of it all. And y’all, he teaches with such grace and a great sense of humor. He is a great pleasure, I am sure you will agree!

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • What we can do and why should we do it when it comes to standing up for social justice (6:57)
  • The importance of using your brilliance and critical thinking in the evaluation and the incorporation of information being shared in media, online and in the world around you (10:30)
  • What liberation means, the critical liberation theory, and liberation as a framework and philosophy (15:09)
  • The difference between calling in versus calling out (46:45)
  • Doing the work to come back from saying or doing homophobic, heterosexist or racist comments or acts (47:16)
  • Unpacking feelings of hurt, oppression and injustice so you can learn and move forward (51:26)

http://yourkickasslife.com/285

 

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Hey ass kickers! I'm happy to bring you today’s podcast episode with guest, Kira Sabin. Kira is a positive psychology practitioner and a certified life coach. She is obsessed with having bigger conversations around love and relationships; annnnd, Kira is a real life friend of mine, which means I am EXTRA excited to share this episode with you.

This week we are talking about relationships, Kira’s area of expertise. But wait, even if you aren’t partnered, stick with us. The conversation we're having today doesn't matter if you are partnered or if you are single. This episode is for everyone because all humans are in some kind of relationship and are deserving of love. In this episode we discussed love and what it actually is (or can be), the knowledge that love is for everyone and how to overcome feelings of unworthiness.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • What nobody teaches us about love and why Kira doesn’t believe in love at first sight (7:28)
  • The knowledge that love is for everyone, why many don’t feel worthy of love and how to shift that thinking (14:07)
  • How attached people can be wonderful for their single friends (20:05)
  • Life lessons from Kira: one of Kira’s biggest regrets and the best piece of advice she’s didn’t take and had to learn the hard way (23:56)
  • Family of origin and being taught how you learned to love (32:59)
  • Why the missing piece to relationships is vulnerability (40:02)

http://yourkickasslife.com/284

 

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