Hey Ass Kickers! I hope you are having a happy summer. This week on the podcast, Rebekah “Bex” Borucki is back! For those of you who are new to Rebekah, she is a mother of five, TV host, a meditation and yoga guide, and, a birth Doula. She is also the author of two books, You Have 4 Minutes to Change Your Life and her newest book, Managing the Motherload.  

Rebekah’s mission is to make mental health support and stress management tools accessible to all, especially black and indigenous people of Color, LGBTQ plus folks and other marginalized communities. And I am super pumped to bring my conversation with Rebekah to you today. 

We discuss her new book, including some of the lessons she’s learned over the years from being a mother. But let’s be clear, before you check out of this episode, Rebekah states both in her book and in this episode, Managing the Motherload is not a parenting book. So if you aren’t a parent, today’s episode still applies to you. We discuss topics related to being a parent, but the same topics can be applied to supporting, caring and understanding anyone in your life. For instance, we discuss being a parent of a child that comes out as transgender and unrelated, why bragging can be important for your self-esteem. 

Be sure to tune in until the end to hear how you can enter to win a copy of Rebekah’s book! 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The whole idea behind her Rebekah, Managing the Motherload (8:14)
• How Rebekah has changed as a mother over the years (12:10)
• Understanding what really matters and what doesn’t (14:46)
• We talk about what Rebekah means when she says, “She was a mother before being a woman.” (14:58)
• The story of Rebekah’s son coming out as a transgender male and some advice from Rebekah for supporting your child who comes out (20:06)
• Bragging: why it’s important to do so and the best way to brag (31:35)

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This week I am sharing an archived episode, because ALL of us, including me, need to take a break every now and again. And I vowed to do just that this July. Today, I welcome you to listen to an oldie but goodie, my conversation with long-time friend, master certified life coach and as of this year, my coach, Susan Hyatt! Susan has been coaching for well over a decade and has thousands of fans, including Dr. Martha Beck and Maria Shriver! 

One of the things that has won her many fans is the fact that this woman walks her talk. She’s used coaching techniques to drop 35 pounds, revitalize her marriage and uplevel her career.

We discuss a mishmash of topics including why body issues are holding women back from leading big lives, what we can do right now to make peace with our bodies, and why it’s so important to take big risks!

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

• Pay gap, not thigh gap: why body concerns are distracting us from our real work.
• Why you’ll only reap big rewards if you risk something.
• What's the #1 way to be successful in career and relationships?
• What does Susan mean when she says “make a scene”?
• What are the three shame shields?
• What is the antidote to shame?
• What's the one thing comes up over and over that stops us from playing big?
• If you want the best worthiness workshop what should you do?

Susan and I also touch on the necessity of feeling your feelings, even when it’s vulnerable and painful to do so and how to make a scene in your life. The subjects are deep, powerful and real but you’ll laugh along with us too. Enjoy!

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This week we are back with part two of my coaching session around money with Melanie. The last time we left Melanie, she was going to be diving into some big work around money stories, core beliefs and self-worth. Today we are jumping right back into some big topics around money such as resentment, healing from the patriarchy, and getting to the bottom of unwanted identities. If you missed the first part of our conversation, you definitely want to listen to before checking out today’s episode. 

In this session, Melanie shares how she has been doing with some of the personal development homework assignments I gave her, including what has been working and what she has been resisting (and why). Oh and hey, I would love to know if you are liking these coaching episodes. It’s important for me to know which kind of episodes you love (or don’t), so I can continue to bring you the content you enjoy most! Thank you for joining us for this conclusion of Melanie’s coaching session on self-worth and money issues. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Melanie shares how the personal development homework went including some resistance she was experiencing (5:06)
• Dispelling what journaling actually needs to be (5:59)
• Recognizing comparison issues with others when it comes to money (7:54)
• Shame as it relates to economic class, plus getting to the bottom of unwanted identities (14:02)
• Breaking down the belief that women need to be saved when it comes to money (14:46)
• There’s no such thing as consistency and that’s okay (22:28)
• Melanie’s hope for the future when it comes to working through issues around self-worth and money (32:10)

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Hi Ass Kickers! We have another YKAL Coaching session episode this week. We received a lot of great feedback last month when I coached Rachel on the show. I am excited to be back again, this time with a two-part coaching episode featuring Melanie. 

If you can walk away from this culture without having any hangups around money, sex, or body image, you’re a-okay. But that’s the trifecta of women’s issues and most of us are feeling “meh”, or at least trying to do the work to resolve these issues. Such is the case with this week’s client, Melanie; a dog mom, working in the dental industry in Colorado. 

During today’s session, she opens up about some issues she has been having around money, including managing money, self-worth, and her core beliefs about what it means to be wealthy. I am so appreciative of women like Melanie for coming on the podcast and sharing their lives with us. At the end of the day, we are having conversations around the big topics that are hard for all of us. So, thank you, Melanie, for sharing and thank you, ass kickers, for listening.  

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Uncovering Melanie’s issues around money (4:40)
• The role gender plays for Melanie when it comes to money (5:59)
• How and why self-worth is so tied up with our beliefs about money (6:41)
• The stories we make up about money and an exercise to help identify when you are making up a story (10:24)

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This week on the podcast I welcome, Danny-J, an award-winning entrepreneur, keynote speaker, podcast host and storyteller. Danny-J's work can be heard in her weekly show, The Best Life Podcast and can be followed in real time on all the social media platforms. She uses her real "Jerry Springer Life" stories to engage with her audience, teach life lessons and inspire others to rewrite their stories. And y’all, just wait until you hear some of her stories in this episode!  

Danny-J shares her story of teen pregnancy and the decision to place her daughter for adoption, plus she details how she learned she had a biological father and met him many years later as an adult. It is so refreshing to hear honest and open stories of those in the personal development field.  Danny-J shares how she processed everything and made it through to the other side. Plus, we talk about core beliefs and letting go of the ones that no longer serve you, changing negative self-talk and affirmations (are they actually bullshit or not?). Danny-J is totally, “my people” and I am excited to share our conversation with you today. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Danny-J’s teen pregnancy, the decision to place her child for adoption and reuniting with her many years later (7:13)
• Knowing when it’s time to rewrite your story and some steps to take to get there (20:04)
• Affirmations: are they really bullshit and how you may be able to use them, but don’t work by themselves (24:56)
• Finding the tools that work for you when life gets really messy (31:07)
• Danny-J’s story of finding out she had biological father, meeting him years later and how it has affected her life, her  identity piece and the world around her (38:14)

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