I am delighted for this week’s episode; for two reasons. First, we are back with an episode of Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. And second, the unqualified person joining me is none other than my bestie, Amy E. Smith. If this your first time hearing her, I know you will love her. And if this isn’t the first time hearing Amy, well, welcome back!  This week, we’re talking all about money. 

Everyone’s experience is different when it comes to money. Our stories vary, our circumstances might be different, but so many of us struggle in the same areas when it comes to money and our emotions. Amy has been on her own money journey for some time now and she even influenced me, gave me pause and helped me realize that I had a lot of money issues I needed to work on too. In this conversation, we share some of our own experiences with money, as well as some tips and tools with doing the work around money. We hope our conversation is hugely eye-opening and helpful. Let’s get on with it! 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Why we think women have a unique perspective around money hang-ups (6:06)
• Unpacking our money stories and our relationships with it (8:01)
• Doing the work and shifting our perspective about money (18:00)
• Comparing money and income to others and trying to make others comfortable with your circumstances, plus some other money hangups we are still working on today (35:00)
• We also share some of our most elaborate money dreams (45:00)

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Raise your hand if you said yes to something you really didn’t want to do. And in doing so, you are saying no to something you actually WANT to do. It’s another exciting day here over YKAL headquarters, because it’s another coaching session episode. 🎉I really enjoy sharing these episodes and I hope you enjoy them too! This week I speak with Colleen, a professional dog walker, who wants to work through saying ‘No’ and putting herself first. I’m sure you’ll be able to relate to what Colleen is struggling with. 

Sometimes in your life you do have sacrifice in order to survive, which was Colleen’s case. But once you make it, it’s time to enjoy and make sure you are putting yourself first.  When you are learning to say ‘No’, realize you are unlearning decades of conditioning. And this can be hard y’all. But at the end of the day, your life, your health matters. So, the hard work matters too.  And that’s what Colleen and I dig into this YKAL coaching session. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Colleen’s struggle with tremendous guilt when saying ‘No’ to her customers (4:58)
• Anytime we are saying ‘No’ to something, we are saying ‘Yes’ to something else (7:46)
• Colleen’s lists of core beliefs when it comes to saying ‘No’ and then challenging them (10:58)
• What core beliefs are and where they stem from (17:46)
• Negativity bias, shifting your focus and finding positive examples of people who set boundaries (19:42)
• A kick-ass update from Colleen following our coaching session (46:19)

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To finish up the summer archived episodes run, I bring to you my conversation with Kate Courageous. This episode originally aired in May of last year - but the content is very much still applicable today! If you already heard it, it is worth listening to again. Kate is a dear friend of mine, as well, and I am thrilled that I can share this episode with you again, as it includes her thoughts on fear, courage, and the inner-critic.  

Kate is also the author of The Courage Habit: How to Accept Your Fears, Release the Past, and Live Your Courageous Life.  I am so happy her book is available! Today, we cover the brain science behind courage habits, and identifying and then dealing with habits that are holding you back.  

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Four fear patterns that get people stuck 
• Some ways we try to deal with fear 
• The more you go into the things you fear, the wider your comfort zone becomes 
• Reaching out and creating a community, courage-based values, and being vulnerable 
• Fear is a wound and needs understanding and how to strike a balance with fear 

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We are back this week with another archived episode that is from a long time ago. In it, my friend and associate Amy Ahlers, author of, Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves and Reform Your Inner Mean Girl, talks about all things inner mean girl (aka inner critic)! 

Since the original airing of this episode, I have really gotten to know Amy. She has so much experience and tenure in the personal development industry, this woman knows her stuff, so I am happy to re-share this episode with you. 

We all love formulas and processes, right? Well, Amy has come up with a 3-step process for transforming your inner mean girl, which she talks about in the episode. 

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

• What exactly is inner-wisdom and what to do if we don’t know where to start when it comes to listening to it. 
• I ask Amy what is the most common big fat lie women tell themselves. (The answer doesn’t surprise me at all!) 
• Amy tells us what her biggest trigger is and what are the steps she actually takes to manage her own inner mean girl.
• I ask Amy about a blog post she wrote, “Is Your Need to Belong Sabotaging You?” and what do we do when we find ourselves changing who we are just to fit in and belong

I love that Amy and I have so much of a similar philosophy about the inner-critic and I hope this episode is helpful to you! 

http://yourkickasslife.com/293