I have another Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People for you. This week my friend, Nicole Whiting, joins me to talk about some of the life lessons we’ve learned from challenging times (including divorce, suicide, and love addiction). By the way, Nicole is my lead facilitator for the next iteration of Mentorship Masterclass! 

I met Nicole last year and we became fast friends. During a road trip together, we opened up about some of our deepest, darkest secrets. Yeah, just your usual road trip conversational fare, right? 👀 

After that conversation with Nicole, I realized just how much she has been through and what an incredible human she is, now on the other side of it. So I thought she would be the perfect person to join me for a conversation about shit that matters, in this case, about the complexities of life.  

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Andrea shares her personal story of heartbreak, infidelity, and divorce and how she got through it (4:49)
• The traumatic event that changed the entire trajectory of Nicole’s life, and how she thought she had healed until she actually started doing the work (12:17)
• When Andrea’s self-work started, following her massive love addiction and finding her worth in relationships (21:02)
• Nicole’s experience with people-pleasing behaviors and finally deciding to take a stand and heal (26:07)
• Shit still happens to life coaches, so it is important to commit to grievances, practice resilience, and use the tools you have; all things we cover in The Mentorship (39:59)

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This week on the podcast I turned the mic on after a moment of feeling inspired and riffed for about 30 minutes or so about the fear of shining too bright. 

Every once in a while I feel like there’s a podcast episode I REALLY want you to hear, and this is one of them. 

Because I honest to goodness think we all struggle here. Our culture tells us not to shine too bright. Don’t draw too much attention to yourself, don’t brag, don’t take credit or praise or compliments, don’t take up too much space, don’t shine too much because you’ll make others uncomfortable and you’ll just look bad. 

Even if we don’t consciously think these things, these core beliefs can be embedded in our DNA. Our mothers and our mother’s mothers were taught this too. 

So, I break it down in the episode, plus give you some strategies to help you unlearn this and start shining. 

BECAUSE WE NEED MORE OF YOUR SHININESS. 🌟🔥🌟

P.S. If this episode speaks to you, I invite you to check out The Mentorship. Our fear of outshining comes from deep-rooted shame, more specifically our desire to avoid shame. The Mentorship teaches you the steps of shame resilience, among many other tools to implement in your life to be the best version of yourself you can be.

P. P. S. Podcast art this week is one of my favorite pictures of my daughter and me trying on hats. There she is in all her shiny glory. Multicolored skirt, striped leggings, and Hello Kitty cowboy boots.

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Jeanette LeBlanc is back on the YKAL podcast!  She is the author of You Are Not Too Much: Love Notes of Heartache, Redemption, and Reclamation. Through her work, her writing, and today’s conversation, she offers a different take on how to reclaim your wants, needs, and desires. 

(We’re doing a GIVEAWAY of Jeanette’s book, so make sure you listen to know how to win a copy!)

Women often will put up with suffering or bullshit before deciding to walk away from a crappy situation. It takes a wild amount of courage to step into a life transition. Jeanette believes, “Sometimes our stories are the only things that can save us.”

In this episode, we talk about acknowledging (and honoring) our deep revelations and having the willingness to step into them with radical honesty. Of course, there may be circumstances where you can’t step into your truth and Jeanette shares how her work gives voice to those who are unable to speak out. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Jeanette’s desire to be in a place of truth and transparency and her journey to get there (5:00)
• Sharing your truth for the first time is the first and most important step (14:03)
• Why it is important to acknowledge there is risk to speak your truth and why Jeanette sees her work as the voice for those who can’t (21:00)
• Jeanette shares an alter ego exercise to help you step into your truest self (31:16)

http://yourkickasslife.com/320

This week I have another coaching episode for you, on the topic of money. A few months ago Melanie joined me for a two-part coaching session on money and self-worth. But, the topic of money varies widely, from person to person.  In fact, the topic of money is always nuanced and deeply personal. 

In this episode, Erica, who was in my signature program, Mentorship Masterclass, joins me to talk about her beliefs about money.  I have a feeling many will relate to what she has to say about how she feels about money and how she wants to change her mindset about it. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Erica shares her issues with limiting beliefs around money, as well as her shopping and spending habits (7:00)
• Redirecting your thoughts and feelings about money (10:00)
• Some of the stories we make up about people whose finances appear to be in tip-top shape (13:20)
• We explore the question, “What if having the urge to spend is actually okay?” (19:00)
• Accepting the process, understanding behaviors and realizing that personal development work is almost never linear (27:00)
• A kick-ass update from Erica about shifting her beliefs around money, complete with a photo of her money crown project (see below)! (43:35)

http://yourkickasslife.com/319