Julie Parker is back on the show! We jump right into the deep end and talk about embracing the parts of yourself you don’t necessarily like, aka your shadow side, and why anyone would want to love their fears. Julie Parker is the Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy where she passionately trains heart-centered people to become life coaches. 

I had a list of questions prepared for Julie and we covered a few. However, when we recorded this conversation, it was in the midst of the Rachel Hollis debacle. So we veered off into a conversation about what it means to be a sacred leader and the role leadership plays within women empowerment and personal development. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Julie talks about “embracing your shadows,”  the parts of us that we don’t necessarily like and holding us back and looking at these parts compassionately and learning from them. (9:22)
• The importance of keeping a level of curiosity and tapping into it. (13:51)
• How to love your fears and why someone would want to love them. (20:53)
• Julie’s experience with people-pleasing and how she came to an understanding about it. (21:18)
• You can’t talk or think out of the way the stories you make up. (28:52)
• Julie’s book Priestess and the topic of sacred leadership. (33:58)
• What it means to be a sacred leader and the role sacred leadership plays within women's empowerment and personal development. (36:31)

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Terri Cole is back on the show! Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. And, has experience in many topics, including codependency and boundaries. In this episode, she joins me to talk about boundaries and her new book, Boundary Boss: The Essential to Talk True, And (Finally) Live Free.  

Terri busts common myths about boundaries, as well as the beliefs bestowed on us of what a woman should be and how it plays into having disordered boundaries: “It is more important to be perceived as nice, then perceived as authentic.” According to Terri, that is a setup for a boundary disaster.  

In this episode you’ll hear: 

• “You teach what you need to learn.” Why Terri decided to write a book about boundaries. (6:58)
• The art of drawing boundaries with ease and grace does not mean creating conflict. (9:50)
• Having a unique “Boundary Blueprint,” and common themes Terri sees in her work. (10:49)
• The biggest myths around setting and enforcing good boundaries. (15:09)
• How good boundaries can help enhance relationships. (19:09)
• How boundaries have been tested for people over the last year and how can we use this time to recalibrate. (35:00)
• A step you can take to stand in your boundary when someone is extremely unhappy with it. (42:30)

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People evolve and change, right? Well, guess what...this podcast is evolving and changing too! Your Kick-Ass Life has been my baby since 2010, and the name of this podcast since 2013. Because a lot has transpired since that time, I felt it was time to make a change. In this episode, I wanted to share a little bit about what the new name, Make Some Noise, means and why I decided to make the shift. 

Making noise is about speaking up, shining bright, and asking for what you want. It’s about disrupting the narrative about the “box” of conformity we were all taught to fit into. It’s about taking action BEFORE you’re ready in order to build your confidence muscle. All of this and women’s empowerment is an act of rebellion; an act of making noise. 

Now for those of you a bit uncomfortable with change - things will mostly remain the same around here. I’ll continue to bring you interviews, coaching sessions, conversations about shit that matters with unqualified people, and occasional solo episodes.

And here is a sneak peek of what is to come: 

🎉 The title and cover reveal of my new book is coming in May. 

🎉 A new special podcast series that is all about motivating you wherever you are in your life is coming in June. 

🎉 And finally, beginning August 11th I’m doing a special series with a select group of women who come on the show to talk specifically about what it means to make some noise and how to do more of it. 

I want to leave you with a question to think about, today:  How are you making noise in your life? Are you going after your goals and dreams? Are you looking at areas of your life you want to change? Are you setting boundaries? Choosing radical self-care? Disrupting systems of oppression? Interrupting things like misogyny and sexism? Using your voice by voting?  

The way you make noise in your life is yours, it’s unique to you, and I’m so happy to guide you in empowering yourself. Ready? Let’s go. 

This week I have one of the OG’s of the coaching industry on the show, Andrea J. Lee. Andrea joins me to discuss verbal abuse from the perspective of the abuser and being vulnerable enough to sit in that intensity in order to make a change. We also explore how to be bold and kind in a world full of injustice and misgivings. I am excited to share our conversation with you.

Plus, after 8 years and almost 400 episodes, the podcast is getting a new name! The unveiling is coming tomorrow. So keep an eye on the podcast feed for the official announcement. 🎉

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Andrea J. Lee explains what she means when she describes herself as a futurist with her finger on the pulse of the human spirit. She also explains her experience as “A Canadian-born Taiwanese, cis-gender woman (she/her) who has been brought up with white privilege inside the model minority myth.” (6:06)
• Andrea J. Lee offers a different perspective on emotional abuse through her digital newsletter - how do you not become the thing you suffered and not become an oppressor yourself. (10:15)
• How Andrea J. Lee realized she was being verbally abusive to her husband and why she decided to share publically about her experience. (17:35)
• Being vulnerable and why vulnerability might be held against someone. (19:57)
• If we are not willing to fully experience the pain we are going through, if we can’t sit in that intensity, we are not going to make a change. (28:53)
• “It’s possible to be fierce, outraged, bold, and go for your goals while also being kind.” Andrea J. Lee shares some ways to do this when you see injustices happening that anger you. (35:35)

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You may or may not have seen the latest incident on social media from mega influencer, Rachel Hollis. I made a video talking about my thoughts; mostly because this is an important piece of the women’s empowerment industry. 

If you’re unaware of what happened, there are links below, and I highly encourage you to watch the links posted, as there are women who’ve broken down why her actions are so harmful. 

You can either watch the video or listen to the podcast episode. *Please note that in the podcast episode, I do give a few minutes of my additional thoughts. 

Watch the video here: https://yourkickasslife.com/empowering-women/my-thoughts-on-rachel-hollis-and-womens-empowerment/

Important links:
The video I’m referencing
Trudi Lebron on RH, Leadership, and What We’re Really Doing: live podcast
Jam Gamble on Instagram
Austin Channing Brown on the problem with white feminism
Weeze Doran on Instagram
Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall

Coaching sessions are back! This week I am coaching Melissa, a production company owner from Southern California, about boundaries within her personal and professional life, as well as, knowing clearly what she wants and asking for it. 

If you are new to the coaching episode format, my style is a mix between traditional coaching and intuitive consulting. And yes, more coaching session episodes will be coming. Also, keep an eye out for some changes on the podcast too. Don’t worry, I am not going anywhere! But, the show is getting a new name and some other fun adjustments. Announcements will be coming next week!

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Clearly knowing what you want and asking for it. (6:48)
• Establishing boundaries at work and at home, and enforcing them. (8:35)
• Betting on yourself and not waiting for confidence to move forward. (24:15)
• Determining what you will or won’t tolerate in relationships. (31:36)
• A kick-ass update from Melissa, plus some of her biggest takeaways from our coaching session. (43:16)

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