Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Love them or not, the Kardashians and their show are an impactful part of pop culture. You probably know they aren’t the most healthy family in terms of their communication. You don’t necessarily think of them when you think of families that talk about their feelings in a way you’d probably want to emulate. 

That’s why in today’s minisode, I’m pulling two examples from the same episode on how NOT to communicate. 

This episode is for all the people out there who struggle with how to talk to their family, co-workers, friends, and many others. In it, you’ll hear: 

  • First up, a comment from yours truly on the leaked document from SCOTUS about Roe v. Wade. 
  • Both Kourtney and Rob hurt Kris’s (their mom) feelings, and what they do in response to hearing about it from her. 
  • WHY we typically fall short when someone tells us we’ve hurt their feelings. 
  • Examples on how to “clean up your mess” (aka apologize).

Lastly, if you’re interested in signing up for The Daring Way™ Retreat that's coming up in September but have some questions that aren't answered on the info page you can book a quick call with me to get your questions answered. Simply scroll down to the FAQ’s after reading THIS PAGE and book your call. 

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Kate Anthony returns to the show this week! She joins me in a conversation on how women can best maneuver relationships in today’s world. We also discuss making the difficult decision to stay in or leave your marriage. Kate’s passion is to empower women to find their strength and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances, and our conversation is a perfect example of her mission in action. Kate Anthony is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? 

We talk about:

  • How the patriarchy has affected women’s ability to find happiness and fulfillment in their long term relationships (9:39)
  • Narcissistic abuse vs. narcissism and relationships (15:30)
  • Why you shouldn’t stay in a relationship for your kids’ sake (21:09)
  • You can’t do the healing work or heal from trauma while you are still experiencing it (32:02)
  • Kate answers, “Should you be best friends with your ex?”  (38:54)
  • How to co-parent within a high conflict divorce (43:30)

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Today I have a special bonus episode to share! Ashley Stahl has been a guest on the podcast and she was here we talked about how to get unstuck and uncover your career direction. As host of You Turn Podcast (spelled Y O U ), Ashley helps you elevate your confidence, both in work and love. She speaks often on how to get clarity and fulfillment on what path will truly light you up in your career.

I am delighted to share my You Turn Podcast interview where we talked about money, power, and how to maximize your confidence. 

You’ll hear:

  • How to have a healthy relationship with money
  • How your childhood experiences shape your perspective with money and risk-taking 
  • Some tools to connect with your intuition

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In week two of our relationship theme, Dr. Akua Boateng joins me for a conversation about healing from breakups, overcoming co-dependency, and creating intimacy with a partner, beyond the bedroom. She also gives a 3-minute masterclass on navigating difficult conversations with a partner. When I say our conversation was enlightening, that’s an understatement. 

Dr. Akua K. Boateng is a sought-after mental health and relationship expert. With over 14 years of experience in clinical practice and education, she specializes in an integrative approach to treating anxiety, trauma, relationship issues and other emotional concerns.

We talk about:

  • Dr. Boateng offers her advice for having open and hard conversations with a partner (4:19)
  • On and off again relationships: why do people stay in them? (12:29)
  • The best way to navigate healing from a breakup (23:51)
  • Overcoming and healing from codependency (27:40)
  • The different ways to create intimacy in relationships (31:35)
  • Reparenting: what it looks like and how to get started (36:23)

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We are moving into our relationship theme on the podcast, yahoo! In this series, we’ll be talking about romantic relationships, friendships - all kinds of relationships. To kick things off, Laura Danger joins me for a conversation about the division of labor and invisible labor in relationships.

I first learned of Laura on TikTok, of course. She is an educator and an advocate and unapologetically champions for equitable division of labor at home and in the workplace. She raises awareness of the insidious undervaluing of care and empowers domestic engineers to fight back.  

Whether you are in a relationship or are single, don’t turn off this episode. Laura’s advice is helpful to everyone! 

We talk about:

  • The Fair Play method: what is it and how can it help couples or even people at work (5:09)
  • If you are uneasy about opening a discussion about fairness in domestic relationships or workplace responsibilities - Laura offers advice on a good place to start (17:25)
  • Everyone deserves rest, space, and time for their own fulfillment (24:19)
  • How to respond to or set boundaries with someone who makes a comment about the division of labor in your relationship (37:02)
  • How to address domestic labor and division of labor conversations when in a new relationship (46:15)

“You have 24-hours in a day. How much of that are you going to give away and for how long?”

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Today is a bit of a random minisode– I ended up sick on my birthday (not Covid, but it still sucked), and on a positive note, we got a new puppy! More on that introduction later (and after I start to get more sleep 😫) but today I wanted to share how Brené Brown’s work is impacting me both personally and professionally.  Also, if you live in or near Orlando, Florida, you definitely want to listen to this episode! I’m giving away TWO FREE TICKETS to the Think Better Live Better event that I’ll be speaking at in May. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Some behind the scenes! I share with you information I got as a Daring Way™ facilitator of some changes based on Brené’s research
  • A podcast I’ve been bingeing lately that you might like 
  • A giveaway! I’m giving away two tickets to an event I’m speaking at in Orlando next month! 

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We’ve come to the final episode in the series all about how we heal ourselves, next week we’ll begin a series on relationships, woohoo! But first, Dr. Shyamala Kiru is here to talk about emotional intelligence and communication skills. Together we talk about how to leverage your emotional intelligence and master every area of your life. 

Dr . Shyamala is an ex-therapist turned relationship and leadership expert with 20 years of experience. The EQ Code, her global coaching company, trains professional women to master their emotions, communicate fearlessly, and lead with confidence so they can execute their whole mission at a whole new level.

We talk about:

  • What emotional intelligence actually looks like (4:52)
  • Dr. Shyamala explains the connection between our emotional intelligence and our capacity for success, both personally and professionally  (6:58)
  • The four pillars of the EQ code and how each pillar helps women master every area of their life  (12:55)
  • Can your communication skills make or break success? (13:45)
  • Some ways a woman can leverage emotional intelligence in their life (43:50)

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I am so pumped for you to listen to my conversation with registered dietician Megan Hadley! We are talking all about how to recover from diet culture. Megan is a nutrition therapist and owner of Simple Nutrition, a nutrition counseling practice in Greensboro, NC and founder of Fork the Food Rules, a membership for people who have decided not to diet. 

Together we discuss Megan’s belief that all bodies are good bodies and that from cake to kale, all foods are good foods. We explore how to shift and transform your thoughts about food, how to determine what healthy means for you, and some ways to step towards a healthy relationship with your body and food.

We talk about:

  • The most common pitfalls of failed healthy habits with high-achieving women (3:53)
  • When you feel shame about the food you put into your body, it affects the way you show up in the world (6:21)
  • Helping women determine what is healthy for them (11:07)
  • Strategies to manage the guilt and shame that some women feel about not achieving health goals (13:47)
  • Intuitive eating and how it differs from the most popular eating plans (26:30)

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It’s my birthday! And I have some words of wisdom. 

 

I racked my brain with what to share on this week’s minisode, and decided to bring you what’s on my mind as I take another trip around the sun. In this minisode you’ll hear: 

  • What I keep telling myself when I find that I’m judging others, or even myself. 
  • My thoughts on aging in general. 
  • An update on the process of growing out my grey hair (did I change my mind?!)

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This week I am talking about emotional regulation with Eliah Prichard. This was such an insightful conversation around boundary setting and more. Eliah is an educator, coach, and founder of The Rebound Way. We also talk about emotional empowerment, how to speak your truth, and regulate emotions rather than mirror those around you.

Eliah helps people who are ready to feel epic in their bodies and confident in expressing their unique identity. Her hope is to equip people with the tools they need to adapt effectively to change in their lives. 

We talk about: 

  • Self-abandonment as a behavior: how it manifests and what it looks like (5:44)
  • The best place to start with boundary setting is learning how to regulate your emotions (12:33)
  • Eliah shares an experience from childhood where embarrassment trumped physical pain (19:10)
  • Using feelings an indicator for growth and change (22:31)
  • What to do if you break down or get emotional during a boundary-setting conversation (16:01)
  • “When you learn to be with your own emotions and have self-compassion for yourself, you are so much better being there for other people.” -Andrea (43:05)

“All you have control over is showing up. You can create the safety you crave and bring that to your relationships.” Eliah Prichard 

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This week’s guest, Christine Gibson caught my attention on TikTok. In several of her videos, she talks about two types of therapy, top-down and bottom-up therapy. In this episode, she joins me to talk about therapeutic modalities, like EFT, for healing trauma. We also explore the powerful ways our body responds in connection with our nervous system to trauma.

Christine is a family doctor and trauma therapist in Calgary, Canada. She has studied systems thinking, the use of storytelling towards healing, and created a residency training program in health equity.

We talk about:

  • Christine shares how the EFT modality can help with healing trauma. (5:59)
  • The 2 types of trauma therapy: top-down (talk-based work) and bottom-up (body-based work). (9:00)
  • Christine explains the Polyvagal Theory and how the different parts of the nervous system respond to stress. (18:31)
  • We explore just how deeply the body and the brain are connected. (31:54)
  • If someone is certain they have experienced trauma, Christine offers some thoughts on how to start healing. (39:21)
  • Feeling heard and being seen is one of the goals of therapy. Validation of your feelings is what helps you heal. (51:48)

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Recently I received an email from a woman, let’s call her Jennifer, who’d read How To Stop Feeling Like Shit and had a question; specifically about how to know when it’s your inner-critic speaking about a new endeavor, or when it’s actually factual. Here’s her question: 

So, how do you know if it’s just you berating yourself or the possibility that you’re just not good enough? I mean, in reality, we have things that we are not meant to do no matter how much effort we put in.  So how do we know? When will we know? 

I am originally from the theatre industry. The pandemic gave me the chance to try out new things besides acting. So now, I’m in the marketing field, totally different from what I usually do, and trying my best to work my way up. There are doubts and failures along the way. So how do I know that they are just doubts and negative thoughts or that I’m just not fit for the job? How do I know when to give up? When to accept the fact that this isn’t for me? How do I know that something is just a fact and not a negative thought?

This is such a great question, one that I’ve struggled with myself and I’m sure many of you have as well. In this minisode, I’ll cover: 

  • Seth Godin’s book, The Dip: A little book that teaches you when to quit (and when to stick). Seth has a great metaphor of a Dip and a cul-de-sac and explains what each is and how that can help you decide when to quit or stick it out. 
  • A plethora of questions to ask yourself to get curious about your situation to hopefully get yourself to an answer. 
  • The one question I ask myself whenever I want something big, and am not sure if I want to stick it out or not (it’s the question that led me to not continuing my college education to go to medical school). 

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We have talked about EMDR on the show previously as a treatment for trauma. This week, Vanessa Pezo joins me to discuss how EMDR can be used for the treatment of other types of distress like performance anxiety or even common fears, like the fear of flying. We also discuss narrative exposure therapy, creativity as a tool for healing, and the complexity of trauma therapy for crime victims.  

Vanessa Pezo, LCSW (she/her) is a licensed therapist and trauma specialist based in Long Beach, CA. In her private practice, Vanessa specializes in serving diverse survivors of complex trauma using EMDR, cognitive behavioral therapy, narrative exposure therapy, and somatic techniques to help survivors of trauma find healing and recovery. 

We talk about:

  • How EMDR can help with the treatment of other types of distress. (5:59)
  • Narrative exposure therapy (NET): what it is and how it helps. (15:25)
  • NET often uses writing as a way to reflect on past experiences. Vanessa speaks about using creativity as a tool for healing. (19:31)
  • On Vanessa’s website she writes “After a trauma, we can sometimes fall into unhelpful patterns of thinking that change the way we view ourselves, others, and the world.” She explains what she means by that. (25:01)
  • One modality isn’t going to work for everyone. (31:47)
  • Trauma therapy for crime victims: navigating trauma while also navigating the criminal justice system can be a complex and long journey. (32:53)

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This week I am talking to Bethany Webster about the mother wound. Bethany says, “When we are children and our mothers harm us, they are to blame. They are adults and are responsible for us. But as we grow up and turn into adults, it then becomes our responsibility to do the healing within ourselves. If you can walk the path of healing the mother wound and inner mothering, the rewards are so rich.” 

Bethany is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing.

If you have a great relationship with your mother, don’t turn this episode off! Even if you have or had a good relationship with her, we can still struggle with some mother-wounding. Tune into this episode to hear about what the mother wound is and how to begin to heal from it. 

We talk about: 

  • Bethany explains what the mother wound is and where it comes from. (5:06)
  • Healing the four layers of the mother wound. (7:25)
  • The cost of avoiding the mother wound and what prevents women from healing it. (13:47)
  • How to heal the mother wound without mother-blaming. (20:14)
  • What to do if/when your mother responds with “Oh, so it’s always my fault?” (36:53)
  • Bethany’s experience with estrangement from her mother. (39:24)

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Today’s minisode revolves around codependency. Many years ago, when I was in my 20s and in a difficult relationship, my therapist told me I was codependent. I read Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More and saw so much of myself in it. I highlighted all the symptoms and to be honest, at the time, I wasn’t totally clear on what I had to do to solve the problem. In this minisode, I’ll talk about: 

  • Some common symptoms of codependency, as well as how it looked in my life when I was deep in it. 
  • A quote from my friend and therapist Britt Frank about why she’s not a fan of the current narrative that surrounds codependency 
  • What I wish I would have learned early on that would have helped me get better help 
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Britt Frank is back on the show! Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She is one of my favorite therapists who offers another perspective on personal development.   In this episode we discuss what Britt believes to be some of the inaccurate information the mental health and wellness world teaches us and how that information impacts our personal development journey. Britt’s goal is to educate, empower, and equip people to transform even their most persistent and long-standing patterns of thinking and doing. You’re going to love this conversation, I have no doubt. 

You’ll hear: 

  • The parts of us that people typically hate are the parts that are trying to protect us. (7:17)
  • Why Britt says, “Depression is debilitating but it is NOT a chemical imbalance.” (11:38)
  • Why addiction is NOT a disease. (15:35)
  • We need to understand behavior function in order to get to behavior change. (19:29)
  • If we could change our inner monologue to an inner dialogue we can calm the nervous system down. (23:19)
  • Anxiety is as necessary to your health as the check-engine light is to your car. (29:49)
  • If a medication or modality isn’t working for you, you’re not broken. Healing is complex. (39:27)
  • Therapy is not about blaming your parents, it’s about becoming a parent to yourself. (43:21)
  • Trauma is not always about the things that happened to you. It is also about the things that didn’t happen to you, but should have. (44:20)

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I love learning about different trauma therapies and giving you options to find specialists who can help you heal. TikTok is rife with mental health professionals giving sound advice. I first came to know this week’s guest, Simone Saunders, when I saw her Tiktok video about a symptom of trauma: a sense of a foreshortened future. 

Simone is a mental health and wellness-based content creator and licensed therapist. She is known for creating content that breaks down psychoeducational topics into digestible pieces, normalizing mental health issues, and giving an inside look at the therapy process.

Together, Simone and I have a conversation about Accelerated Resolution Therapy, understanding internal family systems, and unpacking the various symptoms of trauma and failed attachment in childhood. 

You’ll hear:

  • Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and how it helps reprogram the way in which traumatic memories and images are stored in the brain so that they no longer trigger strong physical and emotional reactions. (6:04)
  • How Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help individuals to heal. Simone shares some of the common categories of parts firefighters, managers, and exiles, as well.  (10:00)
  • A symptom of trauma that is not talked about enough is a sense of a foreshortened future. Simone explains what it is and how it shows up. (23:30)
  • Hyper-Independence and its relation to attachment. (25:30)
  • How to talk to your family about your mental health journey and experience with therapy. (31:15)
  • Simone answers, “Is therapy a life-long journey and should you take therapy breaks?” (40:38)

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Giselle Owen, mascot of the podcast, lover of her Dirty Baby and popcorn, my right-hand girl, my soul dog passed away peacefully in my arms on Wednesday, February 16th. Part of this episode is a tribute to her. 

I open the podcast with a little follow up to episode 432– the episode on humiliation with Amy Smith. I had the biggest vulnerability hangover after airing that show, I couldn’t believe I released an episode that had me break down in tears for y’all to hear. However, that was my fear talking, saying I should pull the episode, and I could see that pretty quickly. In this minisode I give you my thoughts on that. 

Lastly, I talk about dogs, a quick history on how we got Giselle, and the epiphany I had the day after she died about one of the reasons people love dogs so much. 

Thank you for listening, and thank you to those of you who have watched Giselle over the years on my Instagram stories and who even knew her toys names! She was such a good dog, and I am in the throes of grief without her. If you would have met her, she would have LOVED you. She loved people, a lot more than she cared about other dogs. 

And to anyone who’s lost a pet they loved dearly, I see you.

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I first met this week’s guest, Christie Tate, at a book festival last year. I quickly realized that since we are on the theme of therapy and healing ourselves, she would be an interesting addition to the series. Christie is a lawyer who wrote about her experience in group therapy and her debut memoir about her adventures in life transformation through group therapy is called Group--How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life

On paper, Christie explains that her life was great. But inward, she was depressed, lonely, and isolated. She eventually agreed to go to therapy. In this episode, she shares her experience with getting psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers—a psychotherapy group—and how in turn she found human connection, and ultimately, herself. 

You’ll hear:

  • Christie shares what led her to therapy in the first place and shares her journey to group therapy. (6:23)
  • Group therapy: what it’s really like. (8:41)
  • The highs and lows of group therapy. Christie shares one of highs, sharing a food secret with the group and one of her lows which have to do with jealousy about who is getting attention. (17:40)
  • Shining a light on the issue is where the healing begins. (36:00)
  • Insight and advice for those reluctant to go to group therapy. (40:55)

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This week I have a conversation about shit that matters with unqualified people to share with you. My bestie, Amy Green Smith, helps me unpack the emotional damage humiliation has caused me for so many years and let it be seen for what it is. 

I had been told by a well-meaning friend that humiliation wasn’t something I should feel. After all, the things that happened to me (my ex-husband cheating on me) weren't my fault. Together Amy and I unpack the weight of humiliation, shame, and self-worth.  By the end of this episode, I finally settled into the notion that healing is truly a one-day at a time journey. 

We explore:

How earth-shattering it is to actually feel seen. 
If it is painful to you, it is valid. 
My inner teenager is pissed. 
We are all navigating trauma, personally and generationally. 
Unpacking trauma is labor
There is a tremendous weight of being the one in the family to carry the emotional load. 

And finally, from Amy, “We all have our shit and we are never done doing the work. There is an element in grief in this knowledge. The work won’t be void of hardship. We can just engage it in a more powerful way.”

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Around 2013, I had a shoulder injury that turned into something called “Frozen Shoulder”, and later had to have surgery. I wanted to use this story as a metaphor for our emotional wounds and healing. In this minisode, I tell the story and you’ll also hear: 
  • What I had to do before surgery for months, that we all do in different ways when it comes to our emotional lives. 
  • How we all build up scar tissue and what we can do about it. 
  • What we do afterward; when it comes to both surgery for an injury and healing our internal emotional wounds. 

If you’re wanting to learn some amazing coping mechanisms, consider joining me and other like-minded women for one of my upcoming retreats. We’re gathering in May for a non-recovery retreat, and again in September, for a recovery-focused retreat. 

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If you’ve ever been interested in learning about Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS), genetic screening, and being diagnosed with ADHD - then you are in the right place! This week, Dr. Sasha Hamdani joins me to talk about all of those topics and more. 

Like several of the past guests in the series on healing, I found Dr. Hamdani on TikTok. Y’all, Mental Health is a big topic over there! Dr. Hamdani is a Board Certified psychiatrist and ADHD specialist. In addition to her private practice, she has a robust social media following across multiple platforms where she provides accessible and accurate information about ADHD. I am excited to introduce you to her and the work she does in the area of mental health and healing.

You’ll hear:

  • Dr. Hamdani and I both share our ADHD diagnosis stories and then discuss whether or not someone can someone have symptoms of ADHD but not have ADHD. (9:18)
  • Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS): what it is, who it can help, and how it helps. (16:44)
  • How you can prepare for your first meeting with a mental health medical professional. (34:21)
  • The benefits of genetic screening, what kind of data you can get from the testing, and who should use it. (39:42)
  • How the stigma of having ADHD is different for women. (49:28)

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We are continuing down our path answering the question, how do we heal. My friend, Sherianna Boyle is back on the show, this time to talk about emotions. We can’t have a theme around healing without talking specifically about our emotions, because they are so important to the healing process. 

Sherianna is the author of ten books including her latest Emotional Detox Now: 135 Self-Guided Practices to Renew Your Mind, Heart & Spirit. In this episode, we discuss the power of cleansing our emotions in order to get to a place of healing. Sherianna also offers her insight on the benefits of cleansing practices and how they can transform your attitude, focus, and energy.

You’ll hear:

  • What it means to cleanse challenging feelings and emotions. (5:48)
  • The difference between a feeling and a reaction to a feeling. (8:07)
  • The seven-step practice of emotional detox using the acronym CLEANSE. (18:51)
  • The benefits of a cleansing practice. (20:27)
  • How emotions can support a great life right now. (31:47)
  • Tell-tale signs you may be numbing out or avoiding your feelings. (33:51)

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Over the last few weeks, we’ve been hearing from some amazing therapists and experts in the field of inner work. We’ve heard about attachment styles, epigenetics, family roles, and more. And over this time I’ve been heavily pondering the question, Do we ever truly heal? 

In this minisode, you’ll hear: 

  • My opinion on healing– in other words, what does that actually mean? 
  • The one question you need to ask yourself and bring that answer to your therapist 
  • The steps necessary to take before you begin your healing journey

Don’t forget, if you’d like transcripts to this episode (and any episode!), simply go to the episode page. 

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We continue our conversation about healing ourselves with guest Melissa Parks! Melissa is a licensed therapist who specializes in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and trauma therapy. I learned about her work through TikTok when she kept appearing on my For You Page. I have since come to learn just how insightful she is around the topic of attachment styles and the modalities she uses in her practice.

In this episode, we explore some of the modalities, such as EMDR and Somatic therapy. Melissa also describes the four different attachment styles, anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure; and how they may manifest in our lives. She also explains how we can move through rigidity (avoidant or anxious, for example), to a place of security and healing.

You’ll hear:

  • EMDR: what it is and what symptoms it can help treat. Plus, it is not just a modality for treating trauma, it can be used for treating anxiety, depression or even lack of motivation. (6:47)
  • Melissa explains how attachment styles are like strategies, shares the four different kinds and explains how the goal is moving from rigidity to consistency. (18:55)
  • How someone can move into a secure attachment style. (27:39)
  • Examples of when unhealthy attachment styles can cause conflict in a relationship. (33:22)
  • Somatic tools and skills: what they are and when someone would use them. (40:32)

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Healing ourselves from past trauma can be done through different avenues and modalities. As we continue the theme of healing, author and neuroscience educator, Sarah Peyton, joins me for a conversation about epigenetics, disorganized attachment styles, and self-expression.

Sarah uses resonant language to heal trauma with exquisite and warm gentleness. In this episode, she helps us understand the effects of generational trauma and offers insight on how we can heal ourselves. And, y’all, her voice is so soothing and comforting. I know you are going to enjoy this episode.

You’ll hear:

  • Sarah’s time-travel empathy process and how it may help with the healing of generational trauma. (7:13)
  • Epigenetics, including what it is, and how it reveals itself in our lives. (11:59)
  • Attachment styles: disorganized, avoidant, etc. (25:50)
  • What stops us from easy self-expression. (29:52)
  • The unconscious contracts we make with ourselves. (33:19)

http://andreaowen.com/426

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Welcome to my first podcast minisode! I’ll be dropping these short episodes on the first and third Fridays of the month (in addition to the regular episodes every Wednesday). They’ll be about ten minutes long, ad-free, and it could be anything from a book I’m reading that I think you might like, or my hot take on something happening in pop culture. 

Since the theme we’re talking about over the next few months is all about healing; more specifically around trauma and different healing modalities, I wanted to take a moment to talk about something important, and that’s how we talk about trauma publicly. 

I wanted to give my opinion, as someone in the personal empowerment field. 

The good news is that trauma is talked about now more than it ever has been. Previously, the only “appropriate” time to talk about it would have been in a psychiatrist's office. If you spend any time in the self-help spaces on social media, you’ll see that the topic of trauma is having its time in the spotlight. Which is great, but does come with a drawback. 

In this minisode, I talk about: 

  • The difference between trauma-informed and trauma-responsive 
  • Why that should matter to you
  • What to look for in a practitioner/coach and what’s okay and not okay in terms of treating trauma 

Don't forget– if you’re interested in learning more and possibly signing up for my next Daring Way™ Retreat (the first one in almost three years!) hop on over to THIS page, read the details and sign up to be notified when we open registration.

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This show marks the kick-off of themed episodes, where we’re looking at the question, “How do we heal ourselves?” In the episodes coming up over the next couple of months I'm going to be talking to therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and others who have a different perspective or expertise around the topic of healing. To begin, I’ll be talking to experts who are sharing their wisdom about family roles, trauma responses, epigenetics, attachment styles, and even healing ancestral wounds. 

You know how much I love talking about the deeper stuff and the things that we talk about in counseling, therapy or even in the company of trusted friends. I'm kicking off this theme with  Elizabeth Kupferman. She is a woman that I met on TikTok. (Yes, the app is not just for kids!) Elizabeth is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is the author of The Irreverent Grief Guide and the Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Trauma F*cked You Up. 

In this episode, Elizabeth and I discuss Complex PTSD, the impact of familial roles on our lives, and explore the trauma responses and the importance of replacing the responses with personal development tools to help heal. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How trauma work helped Elizabeth heal her eating disorder and how it led her to the work she is doing today. (9:14)
  • The different “roles” children are put into in a family system, The Hero, Golden Child, Scapegoat, The Lost Child and Mascot; and how these roles impact us later in life. (11:49)
  • The four trauma responses: flight, fight, freeze, and fawn and the importance of learning to replace the trauma responses with tools. (22:43)
  • What Elizabeth means when she says, “Complex PTSD is the autoimmune disease of the psyche.” (40:37)

http://andreaowen.com/424

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“Change is one of the most creative forces in our life.” This week, Kristine Carlson joins me to talk about moving through change and how it allows for expansion and growth. We also discuss grief, including her journey through grief after the sudden passing of her husband. Finally, we discuss how to make empowered choices during times of hardship.

For those new to Kristine Carlson and her work, she is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and leader in the field of transformation. After collaborating with her late husband Dr. Richard Carlson created a publishing industry phenomenon with the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series—selling more than 25 million copies worldwide—today, Kris is emerging as a profound teacher in the areas that matter most to the human heart: how to heal and how to love. Join us for this powerful and enjoyable conversation.

 

In this episode you’ll hear:

 

  • Kristine shares her journey through grief and describes her star mantra, “Surrender, trust, accept, release and receive.” (12:31)
  • The willingness to give and receive support from others during the grieving process. (22:15)
  • During times of stress or hardship, how can we make empowered choices? (27:21)
  • Why we resist change and some ways we can embrace it. (31:27)
  • Out of all of her books, Kristine shares her favorite one to write and why. (37:38)
  • Action steps you can take to live with intention. (42:33)

http://andreaowen.com/423

 

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This week we are talking about adventure, starting new things, and how to be the CEO of your own life. Amber McCue joins me for this lively conversation! Amber is a business coach, podcast host, and founder of Right on Time Living.  In our conversation, she shares her “right on time,” mantra, being aligned with your values, and building resilience. 

From being a single mom at the age of 18 to owning two companies that allow her to work from anywhere. Today Amber runs her businesses anywhere around the world from Chicago to Africa. Through her books, speaking, and in her coaching programs, Amber partners with business owners around the world who want to get more done, realize their dreams and get freedom for themselves.

  • Amber moved 15 times in one year. She explains how she did it and some strategies she used to deal with change so often in a one-year timespan. (6:42)
  • The ‘right on time,’ mantra. (7:02)
  • The way that we act or speak reveals our values. Sometimes it is very clear when we are or not in line with them. (13:38)
  • A fresh start doesn’t always mean committing to a drastic new course of action. Amber shares ways you can start and move forward from your new beginning. “A small step can have a big impact.” (18:12)
  • Amber’s photography business shut down and grew during COVID, she explains how that was possible. (27:20)
  • The three habits of a Modern CEO to implement into your life. (42:03)

http://andreaowen.com/422

 

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