Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen (general)

Since we’re rounding out the theme of relationships, I’m hopping on a minisode talking about 

friendships! In this episode, I go over three common friendship scenarios/challenges as well as give you possible solutions. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • A simple (but sometimes vulnerable!) thing to do to make sure your friendships stay healthy. 
  • What to do if you have a friend who doesn’t seem to open up as much as you do
  • What to do if you have a friend that you’ve lost touch with 

If you haven’t already, make sure you check out the two episodes I recently aired with friendship experts Danielle Bayard Jackson and Shasta Nelson. As I mentioned before, our friendships with women are incredibly important, sometimes we have challenges in those relationships (which is normal!), and I always want to make sure you have some solutions. 

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We’re wrapping up the relationship theme this week with guest Carole Cullen. I specifically wanted to include a guest in this series who was trained from The Gottman Institute and Carole fit the bill and y’all— she is amazing! In this episode, we talk about the seven principles for making relationships work. I took lots of notes while I was interviewing her and I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this too  

Carole Cullen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AAMFT Clinical Supervisor and public speaker. She is a Certified Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapist specializing in working with couples in crisis. She has a group practice in Wake Forest, NC where she helps couples learn practical tools to reconnect with their partner and create a lasting love. 

We talked about:

  • Carole shares, in detail, the seven principles that make relationships work (4:24)
  • Emotionally focused therapy for couples in crisis (32:42)
  • Creating a secure attachment with your partner (and realizing your partner is not responsible for healing your childhood wounds) (35:23)

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Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is on the podcast this week!  She’s a therapist who helps women maneuver through life’s toughest transitions. Most of us have been through something life-changing, either a breakup or a loss of a job. These changes can kick up complex emotions, and Dr. Cohen joins me to discuss the array of feelings that surface, and how to process them, and eventually heal. 

Dr. Cohen received her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University. As part of her graduate training, she treated clients at the world-renowned Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders in Boston, MA.

We talk about:

  • Some ways a woman can process her anger following something life-changing like divorce, loss of job, etc (6:58)
  • What it means to live by design versus living by default (21:25)
  • Dr. Cohen answers, “What is the long-term impact of divorce?” (30:45)
  • How to believe in your ability to heal (39:52)
  • Letting go of resentment in a broken relationship (40:30)

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John and Julie Gottman are relationship experts that I often refer to. The Gottman's are famous for a term called The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and it's something that has helped me personally in my relationships a great deal. 

In this minisode I break down The Four Horsemen, give examples, as well as point to a resource that will help you and possibly your partner learn the antidotes for these common relationship behaviors. It’s simple, yet profound.

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As we round up the relationships theme here on the show, I wanted to re-air one of my most downloaded episodes of all time. It’s an interview with my friend and colleague, Britt Frank, on healing from traumatic romantic relationships. 

Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." Her work empowers people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • What is a narcissist and how does someone know they may be in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist? (7:16)
  • Britt’s goal is “dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK”. She shares what she means by that. (14:17)
  • Dealing with trauma: Some signs or patterns which signal someone should deal with their trauma. (14:45)
  • Why someone may get physically addicted to their narcissist and experience withdrawals. (23:10)
  • How someone can begin to heal from a narcissistic relationship. (27:45)
  • Mother wounds and grieving our childhoods (the things we didn’t get) or other parts of our lives. (33:06)
  • How COVID has affected Britt’s work, including the collective processing of COVID trauma. (40:11)

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We’re talking about friendships on the show this week! We often focus on partners or familial relationships, so I knew I had to dedicate more than one episode in this series on friendships. Danielle Bayard Jackson joins me to talk about how women can create and maintain meaningful female friendships. 

Danielle is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful female friendships. She has been featured on NBC News for her expertise, and her advice has been quoted in several other media outlets including Psychology Today, Well + Good, The Tampa Bay Times, and Insider.

“Making friends refers to cultivating something meaningful with another person.” Danielle Bayard Jackson

We talk about:

  • Some ways a woman can create (and maintain) friendships (7:18)
  • How to approach a friendship that feels one-sided when it comes to being vulnerable or trust (14:17)
  • Advice for women who have been hurt before in past female friendships (24:11)
  • How long does it take to make friends? (31:28)
  • What Danielle would say in response to someone saying, “Women are so catty…” (38:27)

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In March of 2009 I wrote a blog post that over the years has popped up in people’s Google searches a lot. Apparently, many people are searching for ways to get over their ex and how to heal their broken hearts. 

While I’ve changed a lot since the spring of 2009, (I hadn’t had my second baby yet, hadn’t officially launched my business, and sobriety was still two years away!) I do think what I wrote was helpful, but I would give that advice differently than I did back then. 

This mini-sode is a short and sweet one. Basically, I talk about two things that are imperative to know as you’re navigating a broken heart, whether your experience was last week or a decade ago (or more). 

Also, early-bird pricing goes up on June 10th for the Daring Way™ Retreat! Click here to learn more about it and to sign up. 

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We are deep in our theme of relationships and I didn’t want to forget about those of you who are single or dating. Lily Womble joins me to talk about relationship with self, your love life, and practicing self-compassion whether you are a single or partnered individual. She also shares how to tap into your own freedom and agency. 

Lily Womble is the founder of Date Brazen where she’s helped hundreds of women around the world build badass dating lives that lead to extraordinary relationships through unconventional coaching and transformative community.

We talk about:

  • How women play small in their dating and love lives (7:47)
  • What high-achieving women struggle with the most in their love lives (16:19)
  • Why Lily believes dating can be an act of self-care (27:28)
  • Advice for people who regularly deal with dating anxiety (33:22)
  • How self-compassion impacts your love life (33:37)

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When we talk about relationships, we sometimes tend to leave out friendships. But friends are such an important aspect of our lives. Shasta Nelson is back on the show to talk about how to deepen friendships, get to the heart of why friendships are important, and some ways to build meaningful connections. 

 

Shasta Nelson is a keynote speaker, author, and leading expert on friendship and healthy relationships at work. She is constantly teaching all of us how to create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in our lives.

 

We talk about:

 

  • Why friendship is important in women’s lives (5:00)
  • There are three requirements for a healthy relationship: positive emotions, consistency, and vulnerability (13:07)
  • How to be vulnerable within your friendships (14:16)
  • 49% of you feel even more distant from friends and family now than a year ago, due to the pandemic. Shasta shares how you can begin to foster and build connection with others (25:19)
  • How to repair a friendship that has drifted apart (37:29)

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Love them or not, the Kardashians and their show are an impactful part of pop culture. You probably know they aren’t the most healthy family in terms of their communication. You don’t necessarily think of them when you think of families that talk about their feelings in a way you’d probably want to emulate. 

That’s why in today’s minisode, I’m pulling two examples from the same episode on how NOT to communicate. 

This episode is for all the people out there who struggle with how to talk to their family, co-workers, friends, and many others. In it, you’ll hear: 

  • First up, a comment from yours truly on the leaked document from SCOTUS about Roe v. Wade. 
  • Both Kourtney and Rob hurt Kris’s (their mom) feelings, and what they do in response to hearing about it from her. 
  • WHY we typically fall short when someone tells us we’ve hurt their feelings. 
  • Examples on how to “clean up your mess” (aka apologize).

Lastly, if you’re interested in signing up for The Daring Way™ Retreat that's coming up in September but have some questions that aren't answered on the info page you can book a quick call with me to get your questions answered. Simply scroll down to the FAQ’s after reading THIS PAGE and book your call. 

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Kate Anthony returns to the show this week! She joins me in a conversation on how women can best maneuver relationships in today’s world. We also discuss making the difficult decision to stay in or leave your marriage. Kate’s passion is to empower women to find their strength and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances, and our conversation is a perfect example of her mission in action. Kate Anthony is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? 

We talk about:

  • How the patriarchy has affected women’s ability to find happiness and fulfillment in their long term relationships (9:39)
  • Narcissistic abuse vs. narcissism and relationships (15:30)
  • Why you shouldn’t stay in a relationship for your kids’ sake (21:09)
  • You can’t do the healing work or heal from trauma while you are still experiencing it (32:02)
  • Kate answers, “Should you be best friends with your ex?”  (38:54)
  • How to co-parent within a high conflict divorce (43:30)

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Today I have a special bonus episode to share! Ashley Stahl has been a guest on the podcast and she was here we talked about how to get unstuck and uncover your career direction. As host of You Turn Podcast (spelled Y O U ), Ashley helps you elevate your confidence, both in work and love. She speaks often on how to get clarity and fulfillment on what path will truly light you up in your career.

I am delighted to share my You Turn Podcast interview where we talked about money, power, and how to maximize your confidence. 

You’ll hear:

  • How to have a healthy relationship with money
  • How your childhood experiences shape your perspective with money and risk-taking 
  • Some tools to connect with your intuition

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In week two of our relationship theme, Dr. Akua Boateng joins me for a conversation about healing from breakups, overcoming co-dependency, and creating intimacy with a partner, beyond the bedroom. She also gives a 3-minute masterclass on navigating difficult conversations with a partner. When I say our conversation was enlightening, that’s an understatement. 

Dr. Akua K. Boateng is a sought-after mental health and relationship expert. With over 14 years of experience in clinical practice and education, she specializes in an integrative approach to treating anxiety, trauma, relationship issues and other emotional concerns.

We talk about:

  • Dr. Boateng offers her advice for having open and hard conversations with a partner (4:19)
  • On and off again relationships: why do people stay in them? (12:29)
  • The best way to navigate healing from a breakup (23:51)
  • Overcoming and healing from codependency (27:40)
  • The different ways to create intimacy in relationships (31:35)
  • Reparenting: what it looks like and how to get started (36:23)

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We are moving into our relationship theme on the podcast, yahoo! In this series, we’ll be talking about romantic relationships, friendships - all kinds of relationships. To kick things off, Laura Danger joins me for a conversation about the division of labor and invisible labor in relationships.

I first learned of Laura on TikTok, of course. She is an educator and an advocate and unapologetically champions for equitable division of labor at home and in the workplace. She raises awareness of the insidious undervaluing of care and empowers domestic engineers to fight back.  

Whether you are in a relationship or are single, don’t turn off this episode. Laura’s advice is helpful to everyone! 

We talk about:

  • The Fair Play method: what is it and how can it help couples or even people at work (5:09)
  • If you are uneasy about opening a discussion about fairness in domestic relationships or workplace responsibilities - Laura offers advice on a good place to start (17:25)
  • Everyone deserves rest, space, and time for their own fulfillment (24:19)
  • How to respond to or set boundaries with someone who makes a comment about the division of labor in your relationship (37:02)
  • How to address domestic labor and division of labor conversations when in a new relationship (46:15)

“You have 24-hours in a day. How much of that are you going to give away and for how long?”

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Today is a bit of a random minisode– I ended up sick on my birthday (not Covid, but it still sucked), and on a positive note, we got a new puppy! More on that introduction later (and after I start to get more sleep 😫) but today I wanted to share how Brené Brown’s work is impacting me both personally and professionally.  Also, if you live in or near Orlando, Florida, you definitely want to listen to this episode! I’m giving away TWO FREE TICKETS to the Think Better Live Better event that I’ll be speaking at in May. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Some behind the scenes! I share with you information I got as a Daring Way™ facilitator of some changes based on Brené’s research
  • A podcast I’ve been bingeing lately that you might like 
  • A giveaway! I’m giving away two tickets to an event I’m speaking at in Orlando next month! 

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We’ve come to the final episode in the series all about how we heal ourselves, next week we’ll begin a series on relationships, woohoo! But first, Dr. Shyamala Kiru is here to talk about emotional intelligence and communication skills. Together we talk about how to leverage your emotional intelligence and master every area of your life. 

Dr . Shyamala is an ex-therapist turned relationship and leadership expert with 20 years of experience. The EQ Code, her global coaching company, trains professional women to master their emotions, communicate fearlessly, and lead with confidence so they can execute their whole mission at a whole new level.

We talk about:

  • What emotional intelligence actually looks like (4:52)
  • Dr. Shyamala explains the connection between our emotional intelligence and our capacity for success, both personally and professionally  (6:58)
  • The four pillars of the EQ code and how each pillar helps women master every area of their life  (12:55)
  • Can your communication skills make or break success? (13:45)
  • Some ways a woman can leverage emotional intelligence in their life (43:50)

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I am so pumped for you to listen to my conversation with registered dietician Megan Hadley! We are talking all about how to recover from diet culture. Megan is a nutrition therapist and owner of Simple Nutrition, a nutrition counseling practice in Greensboro, NC and founder of Fork the Food Rules, a membership for people who have decided not to diet. 

Together we discuss Megan’s belief that all bodies are good bodies and that from cake to kale, all foods are good foods. We explore how to shift and transform your thoughts about food, how to determine what healthy means for you, and some ways to step towards a healthy relationship with your body and food.

We talk about:

  • The most common pitfalls of failed healthy habits with high-achieving women (3:53)
  • When you feel shame about the food you put into your body, it affects the way you show up in the world (6:21)
  • Helping women determine what is healthy for them (11:07)
  • Strategies to manage the guilt and shame that some women feel about not achieving health goals (13:47)
  • Intuitive eating and how it differs from the most popular eating plans (26:30)

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It’s my birthday! And I have some words of wisdom. 

 

I racked my brain with what to share on this week’s minisode, and decided to bring you what’s on my mind as I take another trip around the sun. In this minisode you’ll hear: 

  • What I keep telling myself when I find that I’m judging others, or even myself. 
  • My thoughts on aging in general. 
  • An update on the process of growing out my grey hair (did I change my mind?!)

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This week I am talking about emotional regulation with Eliah Prichard. This was such an insightful conversation around boundary setting and more. Eliah is an educator, coach, and founder of The Rebound Way. We also talk about emotional empowerment, how to speak your truth, and regulate emotions rather than mirror those around you.

Eliah helps people who are ready to feel epic in their bodies and confident in expressing their unique identity. Her hope is to equip people with the tools they need to adapt effectively to change in their lives. 

We talk about: 

  • Self-abandonment as a behavior: how it manifests and what it looks like (5:44)
  • The best place to start with boundary setting is learning how to regulate your emotions (12:33)
  • Eliah shares an experience from childhood where embarrassment trumped physical pain (19:10)
  • Using feelings an indicator for growth and change (22:31)
  • What to do if you break down or get emotional during a boundary-setting conversation (16:01)
  • “When you learn to be with your own emotions and have self-compassion for yourself, you are so much better being there for other people.” -Andrea (43:05)

“All you have control over is showing up. You can create the safety you crave and bring that to your relationships.” Eliah Prichard 

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This week’s guest, Christine Gibson caught my attention on TikTok. In several of her videos, she talks about two types of therapy, top-down and bottom-up therapy. In this episode, she joins me to talk about therapeutic modalities, like EFT, for healing trauma. We also explore the powerful ways our body responds in connection with our nervous system to trauma.

Christine is a family doctor and trauma therapist in Calgary, Canada. She has studied systems thinking, the use of storytelling towards healing, and created a residency training program in health equity.

We talk about:

  • Christine shares how the EFT modality can help with healing trauma. (5:59)
  • The 2 types of trauma therapy: top-down (talk-based work) and bottom-up (body-based work). (9:00)
  • Christine explains the Polyvagal Theory and how the different parts of the nervous system respond to stress. (18:31)
  • We explore just how deeply the body and the brain are connected. (31:54)
  • If someone is certain they have experienced trauma, Christine offers some thoughts on how to start healing. (39:21)
  • Feeling heard and being seen is one of the goals of therapy. Validation of your feelings is what helps you heal. (51:48)

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Recently I received an email from a woman, let’s call her Jennifer, who’d read How To Stop Feeling Like Shit and had a question; specifically about how to know when it’s your inner-critic speaking about a new endeavor, or when it’s actually factual. Here’s her question: 

So, how do you know if it’s just you berating yourself or the possibility that you’re just not good enough? I mean, in reality, we have things that we are not meant to do no matter how much effort we put in.  So how do we know? When will we know? 

I am originally from the theatre industry. The pandemic gave me the chance to try out new things besides acting. So now, I’m in the marketing field, totally different from what I usually do, and trying my best to work my way up. There are doubts and failures along the way. So how do I know that they are just doubts and negative thoughts or that I’m just not fit for the job? How do I know when to give up? When to accept the fact that this isn’t for me? How do I know that something is just a fact and not a negative thought?

This is such a great question, one that I’ve struggled with myself and I’m sure many of you have as well. In this minisode, I’ll cover: 

  • Seth Godin’s book, The Dip: A little book that teaches you when to quit (and when to stick). Seth has a great metaphor of a Dip and a cul-de-sac and explains what each is and how that can help you decide when to quit or stick it out. 
  • A plethora of questions to ask yourself to get curious about your situation to hopefully get yourself to an answer. 
  • The one question I ask myself whenever I want something big, and am not sure if I want to stick it out or not (it’s the question that led me to not continuing my college education to go to medical school). 

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We have talked about EMDR on the show previously as a treatment for trauma. This week, Vanessa Pezo joins me to discuss how EMDR can be used for the treatment of other types of distress like performance anxiety or even common fears, like the fear of flying. We also discuss narrative exposure therapy, creativity as a tool for healing, and the complexity of trauma therapy for crime victims.  

Vanessa Pezo, LCSW (she/her) is a licensed therapist and trauma specialist based in Long Beach, CA. In her private practice, Vanessa specializes in serving diverse survivors of complex trauma using EMDR, cognitive behavioral therapy, narrative exposure therapy, and somatic techniques to help survivors of trauma find healing and recovery. 

We talk about:

  • How EMDR can help with the treatment of other types of distress. (5:59)
  • Narrative exposure therapy (NET): what it is and how it helps. (15:25)
  • NET often uses writing as a way to reflect on past experiences. Vanessa speaks about using creativity as a tool for healing. (19:31)
  • On Vanessa’s website she writes “After a trauma, we can sometimes fall into unhelpful patterns of thinking that change the way we view ourselves, others, and the world.” She explains what she means by that. (25:01)
  • One modality isn’t going to work for everyone. (31:47)
  • Trauma therapy for crime victims: navigating trauma while also navigating the criminal justice system can be a complex and long journey. (32:53)

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This week I am talking to Bethany Webster about the mother wound. Bethany says, “When we are children and our mothers harm us, they are to blame. They are adults and are responsible for us. But as we grow up and turn into adults, it then becomes our responsibility to do the healing within ourselves. If you can walk the path of healing the mother wound and inner mothering, the rewards are so rich.” 

Bethany is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing.

If you have a great relationship with your mother, don’t turn this episode off! Even if you have or had a good relationship with her, we can still struggle with some mother-wounding. Tune into this episode to hear about what the mother wound is and how to begin to heal from it. 

We talk about: 

  • Bethany explains what the mother wound is and where it comes from. (5:06)
  • Healing the four layers of the mother wound. (7:25)
  • The cost of avoiding the mother wound and what prevents women from healing it. (13:47)
  • How to heal the mother wound without mother-blaming. (20:14)
  • What to do if/when your mother responds with “Oh, so it’s always my fault?” (36:53)
  • Bethany’s experience with estrangement from her mother. (39:24)

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Today’s minisode revolves around codependency. Many years ago, when I was in my 20s and in a difficult relationship, my therapist told me I was codependent. I read Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More and saw so much of myself in it. I highlighted all the symptoms and to be honest, at the time, I wasn’t totally clear on what I had to do to solve the problem. In this minisode, I’ll talk about: 

  • Some common symptoms of codependency, as well as how it looked in my life when I was deep in it. 
  • A quote from my friend and therapist Britt Frank about why she’s not a fan of the current narrative that surrounds codependency 
  • What I wish I would have learned early on that would have helped me get better help 
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Britt Frank is back on the show! Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She is one of my favorite therapists who offers another perspective on personal development.   In this episode we discuss what Britt believes to be some of the inaccurate information the mental health and wellness world teaches us and how that information impacts our personal development journey. Britt’s goal is to educate, empower, and equip people to transform even their most persistent and long-standing patterns of thinking and doing. You’re going to love this conversation, I have no doubt. 

You’ll hear: 

  • The parts of us that people typically hate are the parts that are trying to protect us. (7:17)
  • Why Britt says, “Depression is debilitating but it is NOT a chemical imbalance.” (11:38)
  • Why addiction is NOT a disease. (15:35)
  • We need to understand behavior function in order to get to behavior change. (19:29)
  • If we could change our inner monologue to an inner dialogue we can calm the nervous system down. (23:19)
  • Anxiety is as necessary to your health as the check-engine light is to your car. (29:49)
  • If a medication or modality isn’t working for you, you’re not broken. Healing is complex. (39:27)
  • Therapy is not about blaming your parents, it’s about becoming a parent to yourself. (43:21)
  • Trauma is not always about the things that happened to you. It is also about the things that didn’t happen to you, but should have. (44:20)

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I love learning about different trauma therapies and giving you options to find specialists who can help you heal. TikTok is rife with mental health professionals giving sound advice. I first came to know this week’s guest, Simone Saunders, when I saw her Tiktok video about a symptom of trauma: a sense of a foreshortened future. 

Simone is a mental health and wellness-based content creator and licensed therapist. She is known for creating content that breaks down psychoeducational topics into digestible pieces, normalizing mental health issues, and giving an inside look at the therapy process.

Together, Simone and I have a conversation about Accelerated Resolution Therapy, understanding internal family systems, and unpacking the various symptoms of trauma and failed attachment in childhood. 

You’ll hear:

  • Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and how it helps reprogram the way in which traumatic memories and images are stored in the brain so that they no longer trigger strong physical and emotional reactions. (6:04)
  • How Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help individuals to heal. Simone shares some of the common categories of parts firefighters, managers, and exiles, as well.  (10:00)
  • A symptom of trauma that is not talked about enough is a sense of a foreshortened future. Simone explains what it is and how it shows up. (23:30)
  • Hyper-Independence and its relation to attachment. (25:30)
  • How to talk to your family about your mental health journey and experience with therapy. (31:15)
  • Simone answers, “Is therapy a life-long journey and should you take therapy breaks?” (40:38)

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Giselle Owen, mascot of the podcast, lover of her Dirty Baby and popcorn, my right-hand girl, my soul dog passed away peacefully in my arms on Wednesday, February 16th. Part of this episode is a tribute to her. 

I open the podcast with a little follow up to episode 432– the episode on humiliation with Amy Smith. I had the biggest vulnerability hangover after airing that show, I couldn’t believe I released an episode that had me break down in tears for y’all to hear. However, that was my fear talking, saying I should pull the episode, and I could see that pretty quickly. In this minisode I give you my thoughts on that. 

Lastly, I talk about dogs, a quick history on how we got Giselle, and the epiphany I had the day after she died about one of the reasons people love dogs so much. 

Thank you for listening, and thank you to those of you who have watched Giselle over the years on my Instagram stories and who even knew her toys names! She was such a good dog, and I am in the throes of grief without her. If you would have met her, she would have LOVED you. She loved people, a lot more than she cared about other dogs. 

And to anyone who’s lost a pet they loved dearly, I see you.

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I first met this week’s guest, Christie Tate, at a book festival last year. I quickly realized that since we are on the theme of therapy and healing ourselves, she would be an interesting addition to the series. Christie is a lawyer who wrote about her experience in group therapy and her debut memoir about her adventures in life transformation through group therapy is called Group--How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life

On paper, Christie explains that her life was great. But inward, she was depressed, lonely, and isolated. She eventually agreed to go to therapy. In this episode, she shares her experience with getting psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers—a psychotherapy group—and how in turn she found human connection, and ultimately, herself. 

You’ll hear:

  • Christie shares what led her to therapy in the first place and shares her journey to group therapy. (6:23)
  • Group therapy: what it’s really like. (8:41)
  • The highs and lows of group therapy. Christie shares one of highs, sharing a food secret with the group and one of her lows which have to do with jealousy about who is getting attention. (17:40)
  • Shining a light on the issue is where the healing begins. (36:00)
  • Insight and advice for those reluctant to go to group therapy. (40:55)

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This week I have a conversation about shit that matters with unqualified people to share with you. My bestie, Amy Green Smith, helps me unpack the emotional damage humiliation has caused me for so many years and let it be seen for what it is. 

I had been told by a well-meaning friend that humiliation wasn’t something I should feel. After all, the things that happened to me (my ex-husband cheating on me) weren't my fault. Together Amy and I unpack the weight of humiliation, shame, and self-worth.  By the end of this episode, I finally settled into the notion that healing is truly a one-day at a time journey. 

We explore:

How earth-shattering it is to actually feel seen. 
If it is painful to you, it is valid. 
My inner teenager is pissed. 
We are all navigating trauma, personally and generationally. 
Unpacking trauma is labor
There is a tremendous weight of being the one in the family to carry the emotional load. 

And finally, from Amy, “We all have our shit and we are never done doing the work. There is an element in grief in this knowledge. The work won’t be void of hardship. We can just engage it in a more powerful way.”

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Around 2013, I had a shoulder injury that turned into something called “Frozen Shoulder”, and later had to have surgery. I wanted to use this story as a metaphor for our emotional wounds and healing. In this minisode, I tell the story and you’ll also hear: 
  • What I had to do before surgery for months, that we all do in different ways when it comes to our emotional lives. 
  • How we all build up scar tissue and what we can do about it. 
  • What we do afterward; when it comes to both surgery for an injury and healing our internal emotional wounds. 

If you’re wanting to learn some amazing coping mechanisms, consider joining me and other like-minded women for one of my upcoming retreats. We’re gathering in May for a non-recovery retreat, and again in September, for a recovery-focused retreat. 

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If you’ve ever been interested in learning about Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS), genetic screening, and being diagnosed with ADHD - then you are in the right place! This week, Dr. Sasha Hamdani joins me to talk about all of those topics and more. 

Like several of the past guests in the series on healing, I found Dr. Hamdani on TikTok. Y’all, Mental Health is a big topic over there! Dr. Hamdani is a Board Certified psychiatrist and ADHD specialist. In addition to her private practice, she has a robust social media following across multiple platforms where she provides accessible and accurate information about ADHD. I am excited to introduce you to her and the work she does in the area of mental health and healing.

You’ll hear:

  • Dr. Hamdani and I both share our ADHD diagnosis stories and then discuss whether or not someone can someone have symptoms of ADHD but not have ADHD. (9:18)
  • Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS): what it is, who it can help, and how it helps. (16:44)
  • How you can prepare for your first meeting with a mental health medical professional. (34:21)
  • The benefits of genetic screening, what kind of data you can get from the testing, and who should use it. (39:42)
  • How the stigma of having ADHD is different for women. (49:28)

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We are continuing down our path answering the question, how do we heal. My friend, Sherianna Boyle is back on the show, this time to talk about emotions. We can’t have a theme around healing without talking specifically about our emotions, because they are so important to the healing process. 

Sherianna is the author of ten books including her latest Emotional Detox Now: 135 Self-Guided Practices to Renew Your Mind, Heart & Spirit. In this episode, we discuss the power of cleansing our emotions in order to get to a place of healing. Sherianna also offers her insight on the benefits of cleansing practices and how they can transform your attitude, focus, and energy.

You’ll hear:

  • What it means to cleanse challenging feelings and emotions. (5:48)
  • The difference between a feeling and a reaction to a feeling. (8:07)
  • The seven-step practice of emotional detox using the acronym CLEANSE. (18:51)
  • The benefits of a cleansing practice. (20:27)
  • How emotions can support a great life right now. (31:47)
  • Tell-tale signs you may be numbing out or avoiding your feelings. (33:51)

http://andreaowen.com/429

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Over the last few weeks, we’ve been hearing from some amazing therapists and experts in the field of inner work. We’ve heard about attachment styles, epigenetics, family roles, and more. And over this time I’ve been heavily pondering the question, Do we ever truly heal? 

In this minisode, you’ll hear: 

  • My opinion on healing– in other words, what does that actually mean? 
  • The one question you need to ask yourself and bring that answer to your therapist 
  • The steps necessary to take before you begin your healing journey

Don’t forget, if you’d like transcripts to this episode (and any episode!), simply go to the episode page. 

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We continue our conversation about healing ourselves with guest Melissa Parks! Melissa is a licensed therapist who specializes in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and trauma therapy. I learned about her work through TikTok when she kept appearing on my For You Page. I have since come to learn just how insightful she is around the topic of attachment styles and the modalities she uses in her practice.

In this episode, we explore some of the modalities, such as EMDR and Somatic therapy. Melissa also describes the four different attachment styles, anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure; and how they may manifest in our lives. She also explains how we can move through rigidity (avoidant or anxious, for example), to a place of security and healing.

You’ll hear:

  • EMDR: what it is and what symptoms it can help treat. Plus, it is not just a modality for treating trauma, it can be used for treating anxiety, depression or even lack of motivation. (6:47)
  • Melissa explains how attachment styles are like strategies, shares the four different kinds and explains how the goal is moving from rigidity to consistency. (18:55)
  • How someone can move into a secure attachment style. (27:39)
  • Examples of when unhealthy attachment styles can cause conflict in a relationship. (33:22)
  • Somatic tools and skills: what they are and when someone would use them. (40:32)

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Healing ourselves from past trauma can be done through different avenues and modalities. As we continue the theme of healing, author and neuroscience educator, Sarah Peyton, joins me for a conversation about epigenetics, disorganized attachment styles, and self-expression.

Sarah uses resonant language to heal trauma with exquisite and warm gentleness. In this episode, she helps us understand the effects of generational trauma and offers insight on how we can heal ourselves. And, y’all, her voice is so soothing and comforting. I know you are going to enjoy this episode.

You’ll hear:

  • Sarah’s time-travel empathy process and how it may help with the healing of generational trauma. (7:13)
  • Epigenetics, including what it is, and how it reveals itself in our lives. (11:59)
  • Attachment styles: disorganized, avoidant, etc. (25:50)
  • What stops us from easy self-expression. (29:52)
  • The unconscious contracts we make with ourselves. (33:19)

http://andreaowen.com/426

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Welcome to my first podcast minisode! I’ll be dropping these short episodes on the first and third Fridays of the month (in addition to the regular episodes every Wednesday). They’ll be about ten minutes long, ad-free, and it could be anything from a book I’m reading that I think you might like, or my hot take on something happening in pop culture. 

Since the theme we’re talking about over the next few months is all about healing; more specifically around trauma and different healing modalities, I wanted to take a moment to talk about something important, and that’s how we talk about trauma publicly. 

I wanted to give my opinion, as someone in the personal empowerment field. 

The good news is that trauma is talked about now more than it ever has been. Previously, the only “appropriate” time to talk about it would have been in a psychiatrist's office. If you spend any time in the self-help spaces on social media, you’ll see that the topic of trauma is having its time in the spotlight. Which is great, but does come with a drawback. 

In this minisode, I talk about: 

  • The difference between trauma-informed and trauma-responsive 
  • Why that should matter to you
  • What to look for in a practitioner/coach and what’s okay and not okay in terms of treating trauma 

Don't forget– if you’re interested in learning more and possibly signing up for my next Daring Way™ Retreat (the first one in almost three years!) hop on over to THIS page, read the details and sign up to be notified when we open registration.

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This show marks the kick-off of themed episodes, where we’re looking at the question, “How do we heal ourselves?” In the episodes coming up over the next couple of months I'm going to be talking to therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and others who have a different perspective or expertise around the topic of healing. To begin, I’ll be talking to experts who are sharing their wisdom about family roles, trauma responses, epigenetics, attachment styles, and even healing ancestral wounds. 

You know how much I love talking about the deeper stuff and the things that we talk about in counseling, therapy or even in the company of trusted friends. I'm kicking off this theme with  Elizabeth Kupferman. She is a woman that I met on TikTok. (Yes, the app is not just for kids!) Elizabeth is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is the author of The Irreverent Grief Guide and the Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Trauma F*cked You Up. 

In this episode, Elizabeth and I discuss Complex PTSD, the impact of familial roles on our lives, and explore the trauma responses and the importance of replacing the responses with personal development tools to help heal. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How trauma work helped Elizabeth heal her eating disorder and how it led her to the work she is doing today. (9:14)
  • The different “roles” children are put into in a family system, The Hero, Golden Child, Scapegoat, The Lost Child and Mascot; and how these roles impact us later in life. (11:49)
  • The four trauma responses: flight, fight, freeze, and fawn and the importance of learning to replace the trauma responses with tools. (22:43)
  • What Elizabeth means when she says, “Complex PTSD is the autoimmune disease of the psyche.” (40:37)

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“Change is one of the most creative forces in our life.” This week, Kristine Carlson joins me to talk about moving through change and how it allows for expansion and growth. We also discuss grief, including her journey through grief after the sudden passing of her husband. Finally, we discuss how to make empowered choices during times of hardship.

For those new to Kristine Carlson and her work, she is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and leader in the field of transformation. After collaborating with her late husband Dr. Richard Carlson created a publishing industry phenomenon with the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series—selling more than 25 million copies worldwide—today, Kris is emerging as a profound teacher in the areas that matter most to the human heart: how to heal and how to love. Join us for this powerful and enjoyable conversation.

 

In this episode you’ll hear:

 

  • Kristine shares her journey through grief and describes her star mantra, “Surrender, trust, accept, release and receive.” (12:31)
  • The willingness to give and receive support from others during the grieving process. (22:15)
  • During times of stress or hardship, how can we make empowered choices? (27:21)
  • Why we resist change and some ways we can embrace it. (31:27)
  • Out of all of her books, Kristine shares her favorite one to write and why. (37:38)
  • Action steps you can take to live with intention. (42:33)

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This week we are talking about adventure, starting new things, and how to be the CEO of your own life. Amber McCue joins me for this lively conversation! Amber is a business coach, podcast host, and founder of Right on Time Living.  In our conversation, she shares her “right on time,” mantra, being aligned with your values, and building resilience. 

From being a single mom at the age of 18 to owning two companies that allow her to work from anywhere. Today Amber runs her businesses anywhere around the world from Chicago to Africa. Through her books, speaking, and in her coaching programs, Amber partners with business owners around the world who want to get more done, realize their dreams and get freedom for themselves.

  • Amber moved 15 times in one year. She explains how she did it and some strategies she used to deal with change so often in a one-year timespan. (6:42)
  • The ‘right on time,’ mantra. (7:02)
  • The way that we act or speak reveals our values. Sometimes it is very clear when we are or not in line with them. (13:38)
  • A fresh start doesn’t always mean committing to a drastic new course of action. Amber shares ways you can start and move forward from your new beginning. “A small step can have a big impact.” (18:12)
  • Amber’s photography business shut down and grew during COVID, she explains how that was possible. (27:20)
  • The three habits of a Modern CEO to implement into your life. (42:03)

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This episode is for anyone who struggles with finding their strengths. With help from my guest, Kyle Elliott, we help you answer the question, “What am I great at?” We also explore the topic of job change and figuring out what is your specialty in order to advance yourself in your career.  

For those new to Kyle, he is the founder and career coach behind CaffeinatedKyle.com. As a result of working with Kyle, senior managers and executives have landed jobs at Facebook, LinkedIn, Amazon, Google, Microsoft, and nearly every other Fortune 100/500 company you can think of. Tune in to find out how to identify and own what makes you fabulous! 

  • Kyle shares how he became known at Caffeine Kyle and his journey to career coaching.
  • The biggest barrier people face when it comes to achieving happiness in their careers/lives.
  • If a lack of confidence is an issue for you - Kyle offers some strategies to boost confidence.
  • How to identify what makes you fabulous.
  • Owning your fabulousness once you pinpoint what it is. 
  • LinkedIn Profile strategies for individuals looking for a career change.

http://andreaowen.com/421

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Fear is one powerful emotion. This week’s episode focuses on how fear shows up in our lives (hello, there…imposter complex) and what we can do to move through it in order to open new doors. Joining me on the show is Judi Holler. Judi Holler is a keynote speaker, thought leader, podcaster, improviser, and author of the book, “Fear is My Homeboy.” Judi’s energy is contagious. I  believe her work will resonate with you. 

Together, we explore the everyday things that happen to us and the blocks that get in our way. Judi walks us through some improv exercises to help open new doors and keep you moving forward. And as Judi likes to say, “Old keys don’t open new doors.” 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Judi’s view of the imposter complex and some ways she teaches people to combat it.
  • The improv mindset and how it can help build confidence.
  • How to turn obstacles into opportunities and tools to help navigate even the worst of life’s storms.
  • The fear-setting roadmap and how to keep your emotions in check in stressful situations. 
  • Judi takes me through an improv exercise to showcase the true magic of the word, “and.”

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This week we are exploring the spiritual side of personal development. Kimberly Snyder joins me to talk about the various practices and teachings she shares in her upcoming book, You Are More Than You Think You Are: Practical Enlightenment for Everyday Life.

We discuss the benefits of working with your energy to enlighten your whole life, creativity, confidence, and more. Kimberly also shares her story of religious deconstruction and her spiritual awakening, learning universal principles, and working with a deeper connection.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Kimberly’s turning point inspired her spiritual awakening and subsequent writing of her books. 
  • What True Self is and tapping into your True Self potential.
  • How to tune into the source and your intuition. 
  • Yogananda and why is he important to people today.
  • Why practices and techniques are important to helping us move into our highest potential.

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This week, Kerra Bolton joins me to discuss her intriguing story to learn to swim, dive, and map sunken slave ships and overcome her fear of swimming in open water. As she shares her story, you’ll hear her explain the process of working through her fears and learning to respect the water and trust herself. We also dive into the layers and history of epigenetics and mtDNA and how our past can help us to understand our current state of being.

Kerra is a writer, filmmaker, and CEO of Woodbine Films. She specializes in first-person, personal narratives that excavate joy from trauma. Currently, she is directing her first feature documentary, Return of the Black Madonna, and writing a book, Water in My Bones, about her epic quest.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Kerra shares her experience of learning to swim, dive, and map sunken slave ships; as someone who is fearful of water and swimming. (9:14)
  • Kerra’s passion with diving for sunken slave ships. (15:31)
  • Restorative practices: what they are and how they can help strengthen relationships within communities. Plus, how Kerra became a filmmaker in her 40s and the challenges of bringing stories to screen (31:50)

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The word “wonder,” gets used a lot around the holiday season. But have you ever stopped to think about how wonder shows up in your everyday life? Andrea Scher joins me this week for a conversation about how to live a more vibrant life full of wonder, presence, and connection.

Andrea is an artist, author, and life coach whose work is driven by her belief in the transformative power of creativity. She is also the author of Wonder Seeker: 52 Ways to Wake up Your Creativity and Find Your Joy. After having this conversation with Andrea, I am looking at the world a little bit differently.

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Andrea defines wonder and how it shapes her work and her life. (5:26)
  • We explore some of the memories of wonder that are potent in our lives. (7:08)
  • How wonder can be an antidote to anxiety. (14:22)
  • The difference between wonder and joy. (26:26)
  • The wonder of connection with others. (27:52)
  • What it means to be a wonder seeker and how we can grow our sense of wonder in our everyday life. (32:03)
  • Wonder is not about stepping over what is hard, it is being present with what is in front of you with compassion. (37:17)

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This week I am exploring a new modality for personal development with guest Laura Gevanter. Laura is a PSYCH-K® Facilitator, an Intuitive Alignment Coach, Pendulum Healing Practitioner and Home Space/Energy Clearer. In this episode, she explains what PSYCH-K is and how it can be used to energetically align your mind, body, and soul into a version you’ve always desired. 

Laura has been studying brain science, quantum physics, spirituality, and the law of attraction for most of her life. She is innately curious about people, nature, life and how it's all connected.
I love learning about different modalities for personal development (and I’m sure you do too!) and the work that Laura does is fascinating.  

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • PSYCH-K: what it is and how it works. (5:49)
  • Why PSYCH-K is unique and how is it different from other transformational modalities. (10:04)
  • Benefits to health issues and healing. (27:15)
  • How PSYCH-K helps with worthiness and money issues. (30:19)
  • It takes courage to decide to make changes in your life. (32:26)
  • Home-space clearing and energy alignment: what it is and why it matters. (35:54)

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Today I am sharing the final two Make Some Noise listener stories, from Gail and Nancy. Their stories offer lessons around resilience, setting boundaries (and enforcing them), and breaking family patterns that no longer serve us. 

Gail shares her story of reinventing herself after 20 years of motherhood. Her story is one of resilience. Of falling down and getting back up, over and over again. Gail summed up her experience profoundly, “I found myself again. I do have worth, compassion, and knowledge that I thought I had lost forever.” Yes, Gail, yes! 

Nancy then shares her story of setting boundaries, having hard conversations, and breaking family patterns. Y’all, boundaries are hard enough, but when we have to set boundaries with our family - that is Ph.D. level work. And, Nancy is doing the work. Her story is a testament that we can do hard things and move past familial patterns that have been so ingrained in our lives since we were children.

Thank you to Nancy and Gail, and all of the women who shared stories of how they are making noise in their lives! I’ll be doing this again in the new year - so keep an eye (and ear) out on how you can share your story in a future episode. 

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Laura McKowen returns to the show! Laura says, “Much of recovery is about accepting the good and the bad, as well as accepting the contradictions.” She joins me to talk about her sobriety story, how she processed the emotions of sobriety, and how she works with people now to inspire them to say yes to a bigger life. 

Laura is the author of the bestselling memoir, We Are The Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life, and the Founder and CEO of The Luckiest Club, a global sobriety support program.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Laura shares her sobriety story and how she went from working in advertising and drinking to sober, teacher, coach, and speaker. (3:58)
  • What inspired Laura to write her book, We Are The Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life. (15:08)
    Sober Curiosity: We all have something that shatters the concept of self as we know it. (18:31)
  • Some ways in which a newly sober person can learn to hear and speak their truth, and renew their sense of meaning and purpose. (36:38)

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Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in a situation where you decided to make noise in your life; you speak up, you have a hard conversation, or you ask for a raise, and...it backfires. Inevitably, chances are, that is going to happen. 

Alright, now raise your hand if you’ve had a time in your life where you hit rock bottom and really needed help. Yet, reaching out for help felt like the hardest thing in the world.

Today Emily and Erin, Make Some Noise Podcast Listeners, share their experiences on worthiness, asking for help, and healing. Emily shares how she confidently asked for a raise only for it to backfire; and how that led to her evaluating and understanding her worth. She is now making much more than she did at her previous job and is happy about how things turned out. 

Next, Erin opens up about her struggle with thoughts of suicidal ideation and how she found support from her best friend. It was through that support Erin was able to utilize writing as a creative outlet for healing. Erin said,” It took hitting close to rock bottom in order for me to realize my voice needed to be heard.”

And yes, Erin’s voice, Emily’s voice, and all women’s voices need to be heard. They deserve to be heard. The world needs more women’s stories. I am so grateful Erin and Emily shared their stories with us this week.

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This week, twin sisters Dr. Lexie Kite and Dr. Lindsay Kite join me for a discussion on body image resilience. As women, we've been conditioned to care about how we look and as such, become fixated on our beauty and body. And for many women, only when we feel we have conformed, do we feel confident. In addition to informing us how to step into body image resilience and away from body shame, Lexie and Lindsay offer their insight about topics such as self-objectification, body shame, and how internalized misogyny is central to our self-perceptions. 

“Body image resilience provides the opportunity to see the trigger as a stepping stone instead of a burden you carry around the rest of your life and cope in the same ways you’ve always had.” Dr. Lexie Kite

Lexie and Lindsay received their PhDs from the University of Utah. Their academic research on media studies and body image inspired them to establish the non-profit Beauty Redefined in 2009 (while concluding their co-written master’s thesis and beginning their doctoral research) to help women recognize and reject harmful messages about their bodies, worth, and potential, and redefine the meaning and value of beauty in their lives.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Lexie and Lindsay’s book, More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament, takes on the topics of body image positivity and a reclamation of a woman's body. They share what inspired them to write this book. (6:30)
  • Body image resilience: what it is and why it is important for women to work to raise theirs. (8:35)
  • Why it is important to normalize the diversity of all bodies. (28:25)
  • Many of us are disordered eaters and we don’t know it because it has been normalized in our culture. (36:12)
  • We can prove the worst fears about ourselves are wrong. (39:44)
  • The first step towards body image resilience includes taking inventory of your environment. (51:41)

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It’s listener storytime! A few months ago I put out a call to share a personal story about making noise in your life. Several listeners answered the call; I am so excited that the time has come to share their experiences with you! This episode focuses on the topic of drinking and sobriety, coping with loss, and upholding boundaries.

Making noise is not necessarily about shouting from rooftops. It’s about pushing up against conditioning and social programming that tells you, you should not do something. You’ll hear how both Jill and Amy are making noise in their lives. 

Jill shares how a 90-day sobriety challenge turned into two years of sobriety (and still going). Following her sobriety, her life saw many major shifts and has allowed her to make and uphold boundaries in her life. Later, Amy bravely opens up about using alcohol to cope with a stroke she suffered in 2019. Making noise is also about speaking courageously and vulnerably in order to make a change in your life, much like Amy does here. Her story is one that also brings up the question, “How can you keep rising when you have evidence that sometimes things don’t work out?” I share some of my thoughts and lessons from Dr. Brené Brown’s Rising Strong curriculum to help Amy work through some of the reasons for her coping mechanisms.

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Kacia Fitzgerald, host of the popular EmpowerHER podcast, joins me this week for a discussion about betting on yourself and going after whatever it is you want in life. 

 

Kacia is the Founder & CEO of She Goes company which is designed to empower women with the tools and community so they never have to GO alone.  In this episode, we also talk about trusting yourself, why it is important to show up for the, “why,” as opposed to getting caught up in the, “how,” and so much more. I love Kacia’s energy and know you will too. 

 

“When you trust yourself enough, then you can hear other people’s feedback but still do what feels aligned.” Kacia Fitzgerald

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The story behind Kacia’s Instagram post that said, “Worrying is literally betting against yourself.” (6:14)
  • Why it’s important to not confuse inexperience with inability. (9:12)
  • Some routines and rituals Kacia turns to in her daily life, which helps her to manage anxiety, reconnect, and decompress. (12:36)
  • Kacia wants women to write their own damn permission slip. (21:49)

Instead of getting stuck on the” how,”, show up for the, “why.”(39:26)

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I recorded this episode on September 27th, 2021. That day is of significance because it was my 10-year anniversary of sobriety. There’s a part of me that thinks, “I can't believe I've survived this long without drinking.” And another part of me that says, “Well, yes, it does feel like 10 years.”

10 years of clarity.
10 years of wisdom.
10 years of groundedness and feeling anchored in who I am. 

So, I wanted to take this opportunity to share my recovery and sobriety story with you. While I’ve shared my story before, it’s now many years out; therefore, I'll probably tell it a little bit differently than I did when I was a year out, which was the first time I talked about it publicly.

If you don't have a problem with alcohol maybe you have a loved one who does or maybe you are struggling with something else. I believe we all are recovering from something. Recovery is a lifelong journey. I hope you find some insight, clarity, support, or wisdom from this episode.

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Today’s episode closes out the eight-episode series where I speak with women making noise in their lives. My final guest is Angela Chee, who joined me to talk about stepping into your power, owning your voice, and breaking through personal and professional barriers. 

Angela is media/communication coach, keynote speaker/emcee, creator of  YOU, Amplified!®, and host of “The Power Of The Only" podcast. A former TV news anchor and reporter with more than 20 years of media experience, she now works with visionary leaders, executives, and entrepreneurs who are ready to own their power and their voice and amplify their message and mission through speaking, video, and media.

Remember - all eight episodes are available in both audio and video format. To watch today’s interview and/or the previously aired episodes, you can find them on YouTube. I really hope you enjoyed this series as much as I did create it for you!

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • What power means to Angela as a woman “Power is about owning all parts of you.”  (9:32)
  • The biggest obstacle women face when they are stepping into their power. (11:19)
  • Angela shares her experience in the power of being the only and the barriers she broke through in her career. (23:16)
  • The importance of owning your voice. (30:00)
  • How to speak up at work: Ask, “What value can I provide at this moment?” Then let the words come out. (36:04)
  • Money is an expression of owning your voice and power. We talk about money and negotiating pay or raising rates. (43:34)

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Returning to the show this week is Rachel Luna. We are talking all about what it means to have resilience, practicing self-compassion, and managing imposter syndrome. I asked Rachel to be a part of the Make Some Noise series because she is simply one of the best hype women I have in my corner and is an equally amazing life coach. 

Rachel is a highly sought-after international speaker, Certified Master Neuroscience & Life Coach to 7 + 8-figure earning entrepreneurs, and host of the popular podcast, Permission to Offend which has listeners in over 90 countries around the world.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Rachel shares her perspective on what it means when a woman is taking up space. (6:51)
  • Find out what Rachel thinks about confidence; plus why confidence always leads back to identity, and staying in integrity. (9:14)
  • Self-confidence vs. confidence, and the biggest mistake people make when they are working on self-confidence. (10:59)
  • Navigating imposter syndrome, “None of us are immune from imposter syndrome, it’s just something we learn to manage over time.” (16:27)
  • Rachel shares her experience with breast cancer and how that led her to practice self-compassion. (24:39)
  • Resilience: knowing and believing that you can get back up. “You can start over any second of the day.” (43:33)
  • “Allowing oneself to make some noise helps us to get to the next level of understanding and growth with one another.” (55:37)

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This week’s guest is Sekeithia, and she is the epitome of “making noise.” I came to know her through TikTok and was immediately drawn to her way of being herself on social media and encouraging others to do the same. She often shares openly about her mental health journey, sobriety, self-care, and is a motivator to her community of followers.  

Making noise is about a lot of different things, and it is often about looking at life’s challenges as invitations to show up in your life. In this episode we discuss shining bright when others are trying to dim your light, mental health and self-care, and learning to trust yourself.  Be sure to follow Sekeithia over on TikTok. And remember, this episode (and all of the others in this series) are on video. Head over to YouTube to watch!

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Sekeithia shares about her mental health journey with bipolar disorder, suicide attempts, and drug abuse. “Mental health was not a conversation we had around the dinner table.”  (4:20)
  • What her mental health self-care looks like today. (10:21)
  • Sekeithia shares about a time she ignored her intuition and had to learn a hard lesson, and how that changed going forward. “Intuition is about trusting yourself.” (14:30)
  • How the question, “Why do you always feel the need to be the brightest in the room?,” dimmed her light and how she began to shine again. (24:35)
  • How Sekeithia defines self-confidence. (29:10)
  • We dive into shadow work: what it is and how it helps. (32:40)

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Rachel DeAlto returns to the show this week, as part of the 8-episode special series, to talk about communicating, even if it scares you. I’m convinced that life is a series of awkward conversations and situations after another. However, armed with strategies and knowledge, it can be a little bit less scary. 

Rachel DeAlto is a relationship expert, coach, media personality, and speaker. She is the author of “relatable: How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere (Even if It Scares You).”  Rachel has also been featured on a multitude of media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood Live, and Fox News. She has also given three TEDx talks including Being Authentic in a Filtered World which is featured on TED.com.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Rachel describes the difference between nervousness and social anxiety. [7:34]
  • She shares some of what is wrong with the way we are communicating. [12:01]
  • How you can begin to feel less socially awkward. [19:49]
  • Some ways to approach building self-confidence. [21:46]
  • Rachel shares how she sees women making themselves small (figuratively, not literally). [28:16]

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We’re halfway through the Make Some Noise special series! I’m speaking with some amazing women about how they make noise in their life. Sara Dean joins me this week to discuss our definitions of self-confidence, the importance of self-trust, and the role intuition plays in decision-making. 

Sara is a friend and colleague; and I admire her self-confidence, tenacity, and resilience. Her biggest passion is helping women own their space. She is the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast, which has been featured in 5 categories of iTunes New & Noteworthy for almost 2 years now and is rapidly approaching one million downloads.

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Sara talks about confidence, how she defines it, and how she might instill confidence in another woman. (6:30)
  • Self-trust is a big part of self-confidence. Sara shares how she determined self-trust was important to focus on. (24:15)
  • The role intuition plays when making big decisions. (35:12)
  • I talk about mindset in Make Some Noise, more specifically about creating stories in our minds that serve us instead of narratives that bring us down. Sara shares the type of mindset work that has helped her. [44:04] 
  • Using life's challenges as invitations to show up. [48:44]

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I have a very special bonus episode for you today because today is the publication day (aka birthday) of my third book, Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength. 🎉

As my book is released to the world, I've been thinking a lot about legacy. As an author and with this book in particular, the dedication is to my daughter, Sydney and my mother and to her mother and her mother and her mother.

I dedicated it to them because they are the most important women in my life and part of my legacy. And I’ve been thinking about what I am going to leave behind when I’m no longer earthside.

The biggest, most important thing that we put meaning on is our own life. What's it all for? I think that the reason that we are here and the biggest part of our legacy is the relationships that we have with the people in our life.

I've told you all the story about when my life completely fell apart in 2006. And it was the first time I had so much clarity amidst all the drama. And I thought, how did I get here? And then a realization that this was not where I was meant to be. 

That was the moment I decided to change my life. It was not linear. It was not perfect. It was 15 years ago and there's been a lot of ups and downs. There's been a lot of hard conversations with myself and with other people. And I can tell you most definitely that I've truly never been more grateful for anything in my life because it takes intention and total consciousness to make changes.

It is things like speaking your mind, owning your strength, making noise, speaking up for yourself. 

It’s giving an opinion and learning how to set boundaries. 

Making noise is understanding what your values are and acting on them. 

It’s getting help for any addictions that you have.

It’s going to therapy and getting really honest with yourself and your therapist. 

Making noise is doing any kind of trauma therapy that you might need digging into your family of origin, looking at the habits and behaviors that you have, and getting really curious about them, instead of beating yourself up about them.

I mostly talk to women and write books for them, so all of that is an act of making noise. Women's empowerment is an act of rebellion because we are pushing up against the cultural norms, standards, programming, and socialization that we've all received. Learning, growing, and the relationships we create along the way are part of the legacy we leave. 

I am so excited to share the release of Make Some Noise with this wonderful community. It’s time to make some noise, speak your mind, and own your strength. 

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When I decided to create a special series to celebrate my third book, Make Some Noise, I knew Jess King needed to be a part of it. And, y’all I had so many questions to ask Jess, based around topics in my book. Her answers did not disappoint! So yes, this week, Jess King, joins me to talk about asking for what you want, making pleasure a priority, and resilience.

Jess is a charismatic Peloton instructor with boundless energy and a passion for movement. With a background in dance, performance and fitness, Jess grew up down South and moved to NYC to commit to a career in wellness. Jess’s self-proclaimed sassy and spicy personality make her Bike and Tread classes uplifting and full of exciting surprises. Jess is committed to helping people heal from the inside out, and she believes that this community is the perfect place to start that journey. Her focus is to partner with motivated individuals looking to transform their lives — and together, they burn.

✨ By the way, you can watch this episode on YouTube. Head over here to check it out! Or if audio is your preference, listen on this page or on your favorite podcast listening app. I’d love to hear what you think about this series so far - let me know over on Instagram @heyandreaowen.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Asking for what you want as a woman, and Jess’s take on the topic. How Jess makes pleasure a priority in her life. (8:15)
  • Self-confidence and the knowledge that you are not going to get what you want by being a “Yes,” person. (26:46)
  • Jess shares her experience with being shamed by men in her life for her free and expressive behavior as a teenager in the South. (28:47)
  • An exercise that will help women take up space physically. (41:38)

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Kat Kim joins me this week to talk about personal power and divine confidence, how to discover your secret desires, and how to reclaim your self-confidence. I am thrilled to have her as part of the Make Some Noise celebratory series! Kat is a Spiritual Teacher, Leadership Coach, and founder of The School of Divine Confidence, an online school that offers spiritual training and confidence coaching to rising women leaders and change-makers across the world.

By the way, all eight episodes in this special series are on video too! Head on over to YouTube to watch my interview with Kat. Subscribe to my YouTube channel to be notified when the next interview airs. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Kat shares her journey from a crack addict, convicted drug offender to spiritual teacher and leadership coach.
  • Why Kat defines personal power as divine confidence.
  • Advice for women who are struggling with self-confidence and spiritual work. 
  • Internalized patriarchal myths about what it means to be a “good woman” and how Kat worked to untangle them like “I have to be thin to be accepted.” 
  • How Kat helps women find their secret, burning desires. 
  • Shame can help you find self-confidence. 

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Welcome to the first episode in a special Make Some Noise series where I speak with eight, handpicked women who are making noise in their lives, taking up space, and shining brightly. I created this series as a way to celebrate the release of my third book, Make Some Noise (coming out August 31st...BUT you can pre-order now!), and a celebration of women. I am ready to share these conversations with you to help empower you to make some noise in your life.  

Susan Hyatt helps me kick off the series with a conversation about women’s empowerment through economic means, owning your power, and asking for what you want. Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life & Business Coach, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and the queen of helping women create what they crave in life.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Susan answers the question, “Was there a time in your life where you realized you weren’t asking for what you wanted, and if so, how did you change that?” (9:54)
  • What happens when women start to push back on the invisible workload. (15:09)
  • We talk about money and power, including Susan’s definition of power, and how women can help themselves be more comfortable with their own power. (18:57)
  • How women hold themselves back from making more money.  (23:59)
  • Susan has dealt with a lot of mean girls since she put herself out there so much, and we know this is due to women’s insecurities and internalized misogyny. Susan shares her thoughts on her experience and talks about what we can do to disrupt our own internalized sexism and misogyny. (33:49)
  • Last, but certainly not least, we talk about pleasure, specifically what stands in the way the most for women to embrace their pleasure more. (42:53)

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I have a fun and fascinating topic this week: Cosmic Health. Jennifer Racioppi joins me to share her knowledge on this topic and share how the celestial cycles impact your ever-changing sense of self. Jennifer is a certified Duke Integrative Medicine Health Coach, a holistic health counselor, a Positive Psychology coach, and an astrologer. She is also the author of the book, aptly titled: Cosmic Health: Unlock Your Healing Magic with Astrology, Positive Psychology, and Integrative Wellness. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Jennifer’s personal health and wellness journey; which began with an endometrial cancer diagnosis at the age of nineteen and onset of parachute menopause shortly thereafter. (7:50)
  • Being in sync with circadian, monthly, and annual rhythms is important for well-being. (23:57)
  • Why rituals are an important part of cosmic health. (30:32)

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This week I am talking about career transition and direction with Ashley Stahl. Ashley is a counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the bestselling book, You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you’re excited about and aligned with.  

We cover a wide range of topics relating to career, including why people get stuck or feel stuck in their jobs, the top ten career skill sets, and why you should do what you are, instead of what you love.   Ashley ends our conversation with a mic drop quote, one of which we could all be reminded of, “Who you are, always wins.” 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Why people get so stuck in their career and commonplace directive of “follow your passion” (8:59)
  • What Ashley means when she says, “Don’t do what you love, do what you are.” (11:58)
  • The importance of being adaptable in today’s workforce.
  • The top 10 core skill sets and why you need to know which one you possess. (14:09)
  • How to figure out your core values and why these values matter for your career. (16:14)
  • Advice for people who are in careers they love, but the organization’s leadership is less than desirable. (27:58)
  • Ashley shares her thoughts about the 9-5 work schedule seen in the U.S. and how it may not be in service for everyone. (34:02)
  • The myths people buy into in their careers. (36:43)

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Marc Brackett is on the show this week. I heard him on Brené Brown’s podcast, then devoured his work, and knew I needed to have him on the show.  He is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University. His research focuses on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and both academic and workplace performance. You are going to love this conversation and learn so much. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Why it’s essential to focus on feelings. (7:02)
  • The role emotions play in learning, decision making, and workplace performance. (9:46)
  • What we should be teaching children about emotional intelligence. (15:29)
  • The difference between emotional regulation and emotional intelligence. (23:05)
  • The Mood Meter App: what it is and how it can be used. (28:32)

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Britt Frank is back! I received so much positive feedback from her first appearance on the show about healing from narcissistic and traumatic relationships, I knew we needed to continue the conversation. For those new to Britt, she is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the “Science of Stuck.” Britt's work empowers people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. 

I still had so many questions for Britt, so in this episode, we dive deeper into our conversation about narcissistic relationships, what trauma is and is not, and how to break free from narcissistic abuse or trauma. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The difference between narcissism and a narcissist. 
  • Once someone has identified they are in a relationship with a narcissist - Britt breaks down how to decide whether they should stay or go. 
  • Narcissism is an attachment disorder and stems from childhood - the best way to prevent children from becoming narcissists is to pay attention to them. 
  • Trauma is brain indigestion. 
  • Britt Frank’s opinion on forgiveness. “Anytime we jump to forgiveness at the expense of our own truth, we gaslight ourselves.”
  • Once you are aware of what is happening, Britt offers some ways to cope and break free from narcissistic abuse or trauma.

✨By the way, pre-orders for my next book, Make Some Noise, are open! Grab Your Free Bonuses - including a free webinar on self-confidence coming up on August 5th.
Get all the details at AndreaOwen.com/noise

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This week Marc and Angel Chernoff join me on the podcast. They are professional coaches, full-time students of life, and admirers of the human spirit, and have been recognized by Forbes as having "one of the most popular personal development blogs." 

Marc and Angel are also the authors of two books that share over 1000 things people can do to live a happy and successful life. One of the things I love about their books (and our conversation) is that they take some really big topics and simplify them into practical and implementable things we can do in order to be better humans and make the world a better place. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The inspiration behind Marc and Angel’s book, 1000+ Little Things Happy, Successful People Do.
  • Why Marc and Angel say their route into personal development was out of necessity. 
  • What made them decide to write a book about relationships. 
  • Marc and Angel answer the question, “What do I do to get my partner to be interested in personal development as much as I am?” 
  • Advice for someone who feels hopeless or helpless due to life’s circumstances. 
  • Why their book, 1000+ Little Habits of Happy, Successful Relationships, is great for single people too. 
  • Some strategies you can employ when you are feeling burnt out. 
  • Practical ways you can get back to happy and simplify your life. 

PS: We’re looking for your stories about how you’ve made noise in your life. It can be tangible stories like how you transitioned from one job to another or internal work - such as how your self-confidence grew over a number of years. Listeners, you are such a major part of this show and I want to honor your voices and stories. We need to hear more women’s stories. Head over to AndreaOwen.com/Talk to share yours with us.

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Rae McDaniel is on the show and I’m really excited for you to listen to my conversation with them. We talked about how to be a better ally to the transgender and non-binary community. Plus, Rae has the most fascinating upbringing story which they shared during our time together. 

Rae McDaniel is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. Our conversation was interesting and informative. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Rae’s upbringing by parents who were Christian-missionary puppeteers (I had so many questions!). (4:17)
  • Their experience coming out as queer in an unsupportive environment. (7:34)
  • How the narrative that gender transition has to include suffering and anxiety is damaging to transgender and cisgender folks alike. (12:19)
  • Rae’s perspective about anti-transgender and anti-nonbinary laws being pushed in legislation today. (16:54)
  • What it means to be a good ally to the transgender and nonbinary community, plus trans-affirming language and the gender spectrum. (25:00)
  • What to do (and not do) when someone comes out to you. (34:10)
  • Advice for parents who suspect their child might be trans or nonbinary or their child has come out to them, and their feeling a bit lost. (36:15)

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This week I’m coaching Hannah, a twenty-five year-old who recently transitioned from working in a non-profit to Corporate America. She came to me for some coaching and insight around issues of wrestling with perfectionism and her battles with negative self-talk. We talked through different scenarios and by the end of our time together, Hannah said our conversation was a “self-awareness wake up call”. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Hannah describes her feeling of being stuck and lack of motivation. 
  • We discuss the idea that the lack of motivation she may be feeling is due to burnout. 
  • The importance of female friendships and how they can be a huge part of a path towards self-care.
  • Recognizing there are seasons of your life where you simply aren’t motivated and that’s okay. 
  • Encouragement to get curious when something is pushing you in a certain direction or belief.

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This week, I am exploring childhood trauma and how it is at the root of many of the issues that plague us in our adult lives. Riana Milne joins us; she’s a therapist who’s been helping individuals attract and keep emotionally healthy love for over 21 years. 

Riana shares the top ten traumas we experience in childhood and how those traumas impact us. This episode is not about blaming or shaming-- instead, it’s about understanding why we’ve adopted certain coping behaviors and offer strategies towards healing.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Riana walks us through her Childhood Trauma Checklist - identifying 10 traumas experienced in our young lives. (5:17)
  • How childhood trauma shows up in love relationships. (29:54)
  • The typical timeline for getting trauma out of the brain and body. (37:57)
  • Mindset for success - a two-part healing process. (37:59)
  • Five things in an emotionally healthy, evolved, and conscientiously aware relationship. (42:05)

I know you’ll find this episode enlightening and perhaps see some of yourself. If you want to dig further, Raina has a free ebook called Attract Healthy Love Now (also great if you’re already in a relationship!). 

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Erin King is here, y’all! Erin is a best-selling author, 3x entrepreneur, and the CEO of the Socialite Agency.  She’s helped clients ranging from The Academy Awards in Hollywood to The United States Navy at the Pentagon communicate more compellingly using her award-winning PUB method.  If you gravitate towards my energy and the things I teach about (thank you, by the way) - you are going to love Erin!

In this episode we talk about her new book, You're Kind of a Big Deal: Level Up By Unlocking Your Audacity, and how to take bold action. We also talk about the role patriarchy plays in oppressing women’s confidence and how, instead, we can harness Big Deal Energy (the feminine version of Big ‘D’ Energy) to live an audacious life. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Erin shared her experience pitching her then company, PMS (a tampon delivery service) to a room full of men. (6:30)
  • Leveling up in your personal and professional life takes much more than just confidence and courage… it takes something bigger, bolder and grittier: AUDACITY.   (23:55)
  • Some ways you can begin to activate your audacity to level up. (31:45)
  • Big ‘D’ energy aka Big Deal Energy: knowing you have what it takes. (35:59)

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Gabrielle Bernstein is on the show this week. For over fifteen years, Gabrielle has been transforming lives—including her own. She is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, having penned eight books including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and the latest, her first Audible Original, You Are the Guru.

She joined me to discuss some of the tools and practices she uses to relieve anxiety and restore energy, including EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and cord-cutting meditation. I love it when conversations organically move in their own direction and this one did not disappoint. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Cord-cutting meditation - what it is and how it can be used to help someone get some closure. (6:10)
  • Gabby walks people through the steps of judgment detox using a technique called Emotional Freedom Technique. (11:04)
  • Methods or tools for relieving anxiety. (17:07)
  • Postpartum depression, time and place for psychiatric support, and why you can’t spiritually override it. Get medicated support to get back to safeline and feel safe enough to live. (20:07)
  • Manifesting is not about getting things, it is about feeling good. (22:55)

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Kute Blackson is back on the show this week. He joins me for a conversation about surrender, and as many of you may know, surrender is a favorite topic of mine.  That is why when I learned about his new book, The Magic of Surrender, I knew I needed to have him back.

Kute shares how to unravel human tendencies to control the outcome and instead, be willing to be open to life’s possibilities. He is author of the national bestselling book You.Are.The.One. and is widely considered the next generation leader in the field of personal development. I hope you enjoy our conversation.

“The path of surrender, rather than trying to figure out life at every step, is to allow ourselves to be guided by life.” Kute Blackson

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Why Kute wrote The Magic of Surrender and what he learned about surrendering through watching his mother battle and succumb to cancer. (6:38)
  • Stay open and curious when things don’t work out - that is the beauty of surrender. (14:57)
  • How can one be an activist, act from a place of freedom, and still practice surrendering. (20:49)
  • Giving up the need to know everything and embrace the unknown. (30:18)
  • How you can begin to practice surrender. (34:01)
  • Part of surrendering is showing up and believing that something bigger is possible for you. (43:06)

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I am on cloud 9 this week because I am revealing the title of my third book, set to be released on August 31st, 2021. And while the book comes out in late August - the celebration starts now. 🎉

In this episode, I share some BTS (behind the scenes) about the title, as well as, read some excerpts from the book. I also share how you can claim book bonuses if you pre-order (yes, you can pre-order now!), be a part of my upcoming book club (led by me), and win a signed copy of my previous books. 

I cannot wait to officially “birth” my next book baby into the world. Of course, they say not to personify your work because you end up holding it too close to your heart. But it's really hard not to do when it is a labor of love. I can't wait for you to read it and I’m grateful to be able to guide you on your path to making noise in your life. 

P.S. I would LOVE, love, love it if shared about my upcoming book! The easiest way is to re-share my social media posts. Thank you!

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This week I have another coaching session episode. Kylie, a Canadian living in the Netherlands, joins me to explore procrastination around decision making, embracing your sense of adventure even when it’s scary, and where to turn for accountability and support. 

 

My goal for these coaching episodes is that you, along with Kylie, will leave the session with lots of tools in your toolbox to grow, flourish, and be your best self; be proud of the woman you are and take that leap.  

 

In this episode you’ll hear:

 

  • Kylie opened up about her difficulty making decisions and sticking to them. (7:46)
  • What would happen if you embraced the ‘throw caution to the wind’ side of you and lived in the moment? (12:01)
  • Tapping into Kylie’s younger self and her perspective on risk-taking. (17:00)
  • Some ways to get the creative ideas out, accountability, and support. (29:02)
  • We explore what happens when we create standards that feel unattainable. Andrea says, “Never wait for perfection or confidence to fall into your lap…” (42:07)
  • An action-taking update from Kylie. (50:38)

http://andreaowen.com/388

 

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This week I explore the topics of diet culture, body image, and intersectional feminism with guest, Summer Innanen. Summer is a professionally trained coach specializing in body image, self-worth, and confidence. She is the best-selling author of Body Image Remix and creator of You, On Fire – the online group coaching program dedicated to helping people get free from body shame and live life on their own terms. She is also the host of Eat The Rules, a podcast dedicated to anti-dieting, body image, and intersectional feminism.

Personally, I succumbed to diet culture for decades and have been going through a process of unlearning all of the internalized messages that never served me. Extricating oneself from diet culture is a unique journey for every woman. To echo Summer’s words, “Acceptance is not a destination, it’s an ongoing practice of meeting yourself where you are at and where you need to be.” 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • A brief definition of diet culture and what it revolves around (various layers of oppression). (8:24)
  • For women, worrying about body image is a universal condition and is rooted in internalized misogyny. (12:10)
  • Summer talks about how the way to feel better in your body isn’t about “liking the way you look” and how this can make it harder for us to accept ourselves. (14:14)
  • The importance of knowing the truth about weight science. (23:04)
  • Summer’s response to the assumption that if you accept your body, you're "giving up" and not going to "take care of yourself". (25:27)
  • We can reject diet culture and go on to do amazing things. (32:40)
  • "Tools of avoidance," dieting and fixating on our bodies. (36:00)
  • How diet culture is related to patriarchy and white supremacy. (48:09)

http://andreaowen.com/387

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Julie Parker is back on the show! We jump right into the deep end and talk about embracing the parts of yourself you don’t necessarily like, aka your shadow side, and why anyone would want to love their fears. Julie Parker is the Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy where she passionately trains heart-centered people to become life coaches. 

I had a list of questions prepared for Julie and we covered a few. However, when we recorded this conversation, it was in the midst of the Rachel Hollis debacle. So we veered off into a conversation about what it means to be a sacred leader and the role leadership plays within women empowerment and personal development. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Julie talks about “embracing your shadows,”  the parts of us that we don’t necessarily like and holding us back and looking at these parts compassionately and learning from them. (9:22)
  • The importance of keeping a level of curiosity and tapping into it. (13:51)
  • How to love your fears and why someone would want to love them. (20:53)
  • Julie’s experience with people-pleasing and how she came to an understanding about it. (21:18)
  • You can’t talk or think out of the way the stories you make up. (28:52)
  • Julie’s book Priestess and the topic of sacred leadership. (33:58)
  • What it means to be a sacred leader and the role sacred leadership plays within women's empowerment and personal development. (36:31)

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Terri Cole is back on the show! Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. And, has experience in many topics, including codependency and boundaries. In this episode, she joins me to talk about boundaries and her new book, Boundary Boss: The Essential to Talk True, And (Finally) Live Free.  

Terri busts common myths about boundaries, as well as the beliefs bestowed on us of what a woman should be and how it plays into having disordered boundaries: “It is more important to be perceived as nice, then perceived as authentic.” According to Terri, that is a setup for a boundary disaster.  

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • “You teach what you need to learn.” Why Terri decided to write a book about boundaries. (6:58)
  • The art of drawing boundaries with ease and grace does not mean creating conflict. (9:50)
  • Having a unique “Boundary Blueprint,” and common themes Terri sees in her work. (10:49)
  • The biggest myths around setting and enforcing good boundaries. (15:09)
  • How good boundaries can help enhance relationships. (19:09)
  • How boundaries have been tested for people over the last year and how can we use this time to recalibrate. (35:00)
  • A step you can take to stand in your boundary when someone is extremely unhappy with it. (42:30)

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People evolve and change, right? Well, guess what...this podcast is evolving and changing too! Your Kick-Ass Life has been my baby since 2010, and the name of this podcast since 2013. Because a lot has transpired since that time, I felt it was time to make a change. In this episode, I wanted to share a little bit about what the new name, Make Some Noise, means and why I decided to make the shift. 

Making noise is about speaking up, shining bright, and asking for what you want. It’s about disrupting the narrative about the “box” of conformity we were all taught to fit into. It’s about taking action BEFORE you’re ready in order to build your confidence muscle. All of this and women’s empowerment is an act of rebellion; an act of making noise. 

Now for those of you a bit uncomfortable with change - things will mostly remain the same around here. I’ll continue to bring you interviews, coaching sessions, conversations about shit that matters with unqualified people, and occasional solo episodes.

And here is a sneak peek of what is to come: 

🎉 The title and cover reveal of my new book is coming in May. 

🎉 A new special podcast series that is all about motivating you wherever you are in your life is coming in June. 

🎉 And finally, beginning August 11th I’m doing a special series with a select group of women who come on the show to talk specifically about what it means to make some noise and how to do more of it. 

I want to leave you with a question to think about, today:  How are you making noise in your life? Are you going after your goals and dreams? Are you looking at areas of your life you want to change? Are you setting boundaries? Choosing radical self-care? Disrupting systems of oppression? Interrupting things like misogyny and sexism? Using your voice by voting?  

The way you make noise in your life is yours, it’s unique to you, and I’m so happy to guide you in empowering yourself. Ready? Let’s go. 

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This week I have one of the OG’s of the coaching industry on the show, Andrea J. Lee. Andrea joins me to discuss verbal abuse from the perspective of the abuser and being vulnerable enough to sit in that intensity in order to make a change. We also explore how to be bold and kind in a world full of injustice and misgivings. I am excited to share our conversation with you.

Plus, after 8 years and almost 400 episodes, the podcast is getting a new name! The unveiling is coming tomorrow. So keep an eye on the podcast feed for the official announcement. 🎉

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Andrea J. Lee explains what she means when she describes herself as a futurist with her finger on the pulse of the human spirit. She also explains her experience as “A Canadian-born Taiwanese, cis-gender woman (she/her) who has been brought up with white privilege inside the model minority myth.” (6:06)
  • Andrea J. Lee offers a different perspective on emotional abuse through her digital newsletter - how do you not become the thing you suffered and not become an oppressor yourself. (10:15)
  • How Andrea J. Lee realized she was being verbally abusive to her husband and why she decided to share publically about her experience. (17:35)
  • Being vulnerable and why vulnerability might be held against someone. (19:57)
  • If we are not willing to fully experience the pain we are going through, if we can’t sit in that intensity, we are not going to make a change. (28:53)
  • “It’s possible to be fierce, outraged, bold, and go for your goals while also being kind.” Andrea J. Lee shares some ways to do this when you see injustices happening that anger you. (35:35)

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You may or may not have seen the latest incident on social media from mega influencer, Rachel Hollis. I made a video talking about my thoughts; mostly because this is an important piece of the women’s empowerment industry. 

If you’re unaware of what happened, there are links below, and I highly encourage you to watch the links posted, as there are women who’ve broken down why her actions are so harmful. 

You can either watch the video or listen to the podcast episode. *Please note that in the podcast episode, I do give a few minutes of my additional thoughts. 

Watch the video here: https://yourkickasslife.com/empowering-women/my-thoughts-on-rachel-hollis-and-womens-empowerment/

Important links:
The video I’m referencing
Trudi Lebron on RH, Leadership, and What We’re Really Doing: live podcast
Jam Gamble on Instagram
Austin Channing Brown on the problem with white feminism
Weeze Doran on Instagram
Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall

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Coaching sessions are back! This week I am coaching Melissa, a production company owner from Southern California, about boundaries within her personal and professional life, as well as, knowing clearly what she wants and asking for it. 

If you are new to the coaching episode format, my style is a mix between traditional coaching and intuitive consulting. And yes, more coaching session episodes will be coming. Also, keep an eye out for some changes on the podcast too. Don’t worry, I am not going anywhere! But, the show is getting a new name and some other fun adjustments. Announcements will be coming next week!

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Clearly knowing what you want and asking for it. (6:48)
  • Establishing boundaries at work and at home, and enforcing them. (8:35)
  • Betting on yourself and not waiting for confidence to move forward. (24:15)
  • Determining what you will or won’t tolerate in relationships. (31:36)
  • A kick-ass update from Melissa, plus some of her biggest takeaways from our coaching session. (43:16)

http://yourkickasslife.com/382

 

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Joining me to discuss mental health, as well as, my journey through somatic therapy is my dearest friend, Amy Smith. This isn’t an expert-on-expert episode; instead, it’s two friends talking about a topic from a place of curiosity. 

Here’s some background as to why I wanted to bring you this episode: Last week, Mia Hemstad joined me on the podcast (episode 380). She vulnerably shared the story of her suicidal ideation and major depressive disorder. And, I shared a little bit about my journey too. I wanted to share more of my story, so I decided, this week, to bring you a Conversation About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • My breaking point - what led me to a point of complete anxiety and terror. (7:16)
  • About my FaceTime call to Amy, where I opened up about thoughts of suicide ideation. (7:31)
  • How having a friend there to listen, comforted me. (17:03)
  • Amy’s experience being on the other end of that phone call and how she was able to compartmentalize what was happening. (18:23)
  • My somatic therapy journey and how it helped me work through trauma. (26:24)
  • Some thoughts about being supportive to a friend going through a mental crisis. (49:14)

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This week Mia Hemstad, mental health advocate and social justice activist, joins me for a discussion about major depressive disorder, the intersection between mental health and politics, and how women can make themselves a priority by doing one small thing a day. 

Mia and I had recorded this episode several months ago. I was waiting to release it for various reasons (which I share in this episode). Like many, I saw the recent interview with Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, where Meghan shared her story of suicide ideation. During my conversation with Mia, she shared her own story of suicide ideation, as did I. Therefore, I felt it was important to share this episode now. It’s relevant and after the year we’ve experienced, an important one to discuss. I hope this episode is helpful to you. 

  • How Mia became a mental health advocate and social justice activist out of necessity. “Mental health and politics are connected.” (6:34)
  • How women can make themselves a priority by doing one small thing a day to nourish themselves.  And, a reminder from Mia that, “Healing is not a checklist.” (15:56)
  • Mia’s major depressive disorder and suicidal ideation story.(26:48)
  • How to handle overwhelming emotions. (46:32)

http://yourkickasslife.com/380

 

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What do henna, legacy, and living unapologetically all have in common? They are just some of the facets that make up Chelsea Stevenson’s work. Chelsea joins me this week for a conversation about the power in legacy. 

Chelsea is a professional henna artist, business strategist, and homeschooling mother of three. During our time together, we discussed a variety of topics including her motivation for building a table rather than taking a seat at an existing one, and honoring your values. She offered poignant takeaways, including this one, “The decisions we make, the actions we take, and the words we say are powerful. And, we have to own how they impact the world around us.”

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • A brief history of henna and its use as a medium to create art. (4:47)
  • Why Chelsea’s motivation is to build her own table instead of taking a seat at a table that already exists. (7:26)
  • The power in the legacy we leave and why it is important. (8:23)
  • Living unapologetically and honoring your values. (21:58)
  • How Chelsea went from a social worker to a Hennapreneur. (26:56)
  • Struggling with negative self-talk and negativity bias. (33:05)
  • Steps to stand in your authority and position yourself as the artist/entrepreneur/changemaker you want to be in this world. (36:55)

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🎉✍ Join Amy Ahlers and I live on Wednesday, March 16th, for a free writing workshop: Top 10 Kick-Ass Tips to Get Your Writing Project Started and Complete.  If you want to write a book, self-publish one, go the traditional route of publishing, or are simply curious about what it takes to launch your next writing project, join us. For all the details and to register, go here. We hope to see you on the 16th! ✍ 🎉 

Speaking of Amy Ahlers, she returns to the show this week to talk about the imposter complex and the inner-critic. Plus, we share some of the ways our inner-mean girl shows up during the creation of our writing projects and some of the strategies we employ to calm her down.

Amy is a Master Women’s Leadership and Life Coach, keynote speaker, and best-selling author. She is on a mission to stop women from self-bullying and being hard on themselves so they can make their greatest possible contribution. Enjoy our conversation! 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How imposter complex shows up for women who want to start something new or complete a big project. (3:56)
  • Some ways in which we handle our own imposter complex, including how we change the narrative. (6:39)
  • Experiencing upper limit problems and how we deal. (10:13)
  • Amy answers the question, “Is writing a book for everyone?” (23:30)
  • What we love and do not love about writing. (27:33)

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Heather Chauvin is back on the show! Our conversation answers the question, “What is worth your time and energy?” Heather is a leadership coach who helps ambitious, overwhelmed women conquer their fears and become leaders at work and home. She is also the author of the book, Dying to Be a Good Mother

We examine what is truly worthy of your time, discuss emotional regulation and Heather’s Red/Yellow/Green zone methodology. Finally, we explore the topic of managing your energy and surrendering to guilt.  

“You’ve got to feel the discomfort in order to feel the good stuff.” ~ Heather Chauvin

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How Heather’s grandmother inspired her ‘shit or get off the pot’ moment, and led her to write her first book, Dying to Be a Good Mother. (9:52)
  • Heather shares her Stage-4 Cancer diagnosis journey. (10:27)
  • The “million-dollar minute” concept. “If every sixty seconds of your life is worth one million dollars - are you satisfied with your investment?” (22:23)
  • The Red, Yellow, and Green Zones and how they can be used in your life and at work. (28:30)
  • Energetic time management is reverse engineering of how you want to feel. (33:31)
  • A conversation about guilt: “Who benefits from you feeling guilty?” (36:04)

http://yourkickasslife.com/377

 

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I have one of my favorite people back on the show, Samantha Bennett! Sam is an artist, writer, poet, actress, and creativity/productivity, specialist. She is also a dear friend. She re-joins me to talk about a variety of personal development topics, including friendships, the concept of re-parenting yourself, and how to handle disappointment.  

Sam is the creator of The Organized Artist Company, dedicated to helping tens of thousands of creative people get unstuck, helping them to focus and move forward on their goals. This episode is very much a ‘greatest hits’ compilation between Sam and me. We hope you enjoy it! 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Handling life’s disappointments and giving yourself grace. “Disappointment is taking score too soon.” (10:40)
  • Some helpful strategies for re-parenting yourself. (15:59)
  • Sam helps us to think about productivity in a different way. (19:13)
  • Nothing is more important than your transformation. (31:46)
  • The one thing that determines the quality of your life. (35:44)

http://yourkickasslife.com/376

 

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Have you ever been in a situation where you had to be something you didn’t intend to be? Maybe it was taking care of aging parents, or you were thrust into single-motherhood. That is what this week’s guest refers to as an Accidental Alpha Woman. Author and Master Certified Coach, Karen Wright, joins me to talk about being the accidental alpha woman, how to reconnect with the real you, and create a life that has more ease.

We also discuss what it means to be strong as a woman, dealing with judgment, and not making yourself small at the expense of others' comfort. I hope you enjoy our conversation. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How Karen’s personal experience inspired her to write, “The Accidental Alpha Woman,” plus she explains what an Accidental Alpha Woman is. (4:16)
  • The importance of identifying your values and how that can help define what is important to you in a relationship. (11:00)
  • The reason women feel the need to “carry the world on their shoulders” and be strong. (12:09)
  • How to reconnect with the real “you” and create a life that has greater community, ease, and fun using the R.E.C.E.I.V.E framework. (25:22)
  • Why it’s important for women to find their voice. (28:33)
  • Internalized misogyny and the alpha woman. (33:52)

Book Giveaway! We are giving away two copies of Karen Wright’s book, Accidental Alpha Woman. Listen to this episode for all the details! 

http://yourkickasslife.com/375

 

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I’ve talked about burnout many times on this podcast and I’m no stranger to it. In fact, in 2020, I took an 8-month break from Instagram partly due to burnout. So I wanted to have an expert on to talk specifically about this topic. Joining me to explore this widespread issue is two-time TEDx speaker, Joanna Denton. In 2014, after two burnouts in five years, Joanna decided to leave the tax world behind and change her life completely. Today, she's a speaking and executive coach for thought leaders, business executives, and entrepreneurs. 

Burnout is something many women struggle with - no matter their life’s circumstances and is more prevalent than we actually think. Together, Joanna and I discuss the different phases of burnout, the lessons Joanna learned from her journey back from it, and how to ask for help when you are feeling mentally or physically burnt out. 

  • Why it is so difficult for leaders to talk about burnout, and what can we do to make it easier. (6:20)
  • The difference between depression and burnout. (8:00)
  • Joanna’s burnout journey and how her life improved as a result of her burnouts. (12:18)
  • The biggest lessons Joanna learned during her journey back from burnout. (17:22)
  • Joanna’s book “The Different Truth", what the title means and how it encourages readers to start a conversation about choices and step into a new truth. (37:08)
  • Asking for help and being vulnerable. (45:47)

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Why are women perceived (or misunderstood) as angry? And, what can we do about it? That's just one of the many topics covered during my conversation with Leslie Lyons. Leslie is Founder of Bombshell Movement Studio in Chicago (a sensual movement studio), host of the Beyond the Pole: Tales from the CEO podcast, and a sales and leadership coach for female entrepreneurs. 

Together we also discuss embracing your “too muchness,” using your quiet strength to speak up, and exploring women’s empowerment in some nontraditional ways. We also have a very candid conversation about Christianity.

“The work of feminism, at the heart of it is liberation, and liberation starts with using your voice.” Leslie Lyons

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Leslie’s personal story of how she came to her work as a leadership coach and owner of a sensual movement studio in Chicago.
  • Anger’s purpose and why women are perceived (and misunderstood) as angry and what we can do about it.
  • How a woman can embrace her ‘too-muchness’ “You weren’t put on this Earth to blend into the background.” 
  • Unshakeable leadership - what it is and some ways women can harness it.
  • We discuss Christianity, self-awareness, and how our spirituality evolved over time. 

http://yourkickasslife.com/373

 

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Hard conversations, resilience, and boundaries are some of the cornerstones of personal development. And, they happen to be some of the topics covered during this week’s show. Joining me to discuss all things personal development is my guest (and dear friend), Fawn Germer. Fawn is the best-selling author of nine books, including an Oprah Book. She is one of America's top women's leadership speakers and is the top-ranked woman on the prestigious Global Guru's List of best leadership and motivational speakers worldwide.

Together we discuss enduring great loss, coping with grief, and why boundaries are essential. When I think of one word to sum up our conversation, it is resilience. As Fawn so perfectly stated, “Every shitstorm ends.” And as her mother once told her, “It doesn’t matter what happens to you, it matters what you do with it.” 

🚨 Book Giveaway! 🚨 Tune in to hear how you can win a free copy of Fawn’s latest book, Coming Back! How to Win the Job You Want When You've Lost the Job You Need.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How a Google search which included the words, “Life Coach + Bullshit,” led to our long-lasting friendship. (4:32)
  • Why Fawn dislikes motivational speakers, even though she is one! Plus, her journey to becoming a motivational speaker and author. (7:00)
  • How Fawn endured a year of extreme loss - and why she says, “Every shitstorm ends.” (23:14)
  • The fastest way to stop a downward spiral. (28:01)
  • Uncomfortable conversations and how to make peace with them. (33:04)

http://yourkickasslife.com/372

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Laura Cathcart Robbins is back on the show this week! She joins me for an essential conversation about racism, how the lack of conversations about race can be scarring for children, and the pain and trauma of race relations between black and white women. Laura is a freelance culture writer and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room. I am thrilled to have her back on the show!

And just to be clear: If we are going to make the world a better place and make ourselves better humans, we must continue to have conversations about race and do the work. Because when we are talking about women’s empowerment, we’re talking about feminism, and when we’re talking about feminism, we’re talking about patriarchy; and when we’re talking about patriarchy, we’re talking about white supremacy. It’s all connected. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • What white parents should be teaching their children about racism. (5:06)
  • Why black women find it hard to trust white women. “Some of us are dealing with unprecedented grief. We are broken with pain and unvalidated anger.”(20:12)
  • Laura offers an intimate glimpse into her interracial relationship and how the murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and Ahmaud Arbery affected it. (36:10)

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Happy Wednesday! It’s been a full week since we watched or listened in horror as rioters breached the U.S. Capitol. In this episode, I have a quick chat (before our interview) with Jessica Sharp, my personal friend, and DEI consultant. As I’ve conveyed before, personal development and social justice work are directly connected, so Jessica and I discuss our thoughts on, “This isn’t who we are” (referring to the U.S.) and more.   

Switching gears, when it comes to personal development and behaviors like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and over-achieving - the goal isn’t eradicating them. Instead, it’s recognizing when these behaviors jump into the driver’s seat and learning to draw on tools to help maneuver the road ahead. This week, Martina Barnes joins me to talk about these behaviors, how to recognize when they are taking over our “life bus,” and how to harness your reliable personal power. 

Martina G. Barnes is an experienced psychotherapist, life fulfillment coach, and master intuitive who helps high-achieving women transform the areas in their lives where they lack reliable personal power. She teaches women practical ways to shift how they show up for themselves and express Reliable Personal Power in every area of their lives.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Recognizing that personal development work and social justice work are interwoven. (5:16)
  • Common default behaviors women struggle with such as perfectionism, control, and people-pleasing and how Martina applies those behaviors to what she calls the “Life Bus” analogy. (20:00)
  • What blocks high-achieving women from having Reliable Personal Power. (25:20)
  • Not wanting to be perceived a certain way (ie: a bitch or aggressive, when standing up for yourself). (27:25)
  • Opening ourselves to deeper intimacy and friendships - courage brings so many beautiful rewards.  (34:10)
  • How trauma impacts connection to your intuition. (42:16)

http://yourkickasslife.com/370

 

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Last year was a year where many had a lot to carry. As we enter 2021, all of that heaviness won’t magically go away. But, as the new year approached I got to thinking about the new year and goals. I wanted to talk about it, but not in the usual ‘’Let's talk about goals, yahoo!” kind of way. So, Charlie Gilkey is back on the show! He offers a unique perspective on self-help, goals, and productivity.  

Charlie helps people start finishing the stuff that matters. He's the founder of Productive Flourishing, author of the book Start Finishing (2019) and The Small Business Lifecycle (2012), and host of the Productive Flourishing podcast. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • As we step into a new year, Charlie offers some ways you can be more present in your life. (7:35)
  • How and why you should identify your genius when it comes to tackling goals. Plus, why you should pay attention to the linguistics you use around your goals. (13:18)
  • How supporters, a support system, or a success pack can help you move forward with intention. (17:39)
  • Three strategies for tackling your plans and goals in order to finish strong. (40:48)

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There are many facets of personal development that can stand to adopt a level of discipline, similar to the discipline required by professional athletes. My guest, Dre Baldwin, is a former professional basketball player who built a publishing empire and authored an impressive 27 books. He has an interesting perspective on discipline, which is the focal point of this week’s episode.

As someone who mildly recoils at the word discipline, I was fascinated and eager for my conversation with Dre. When I think about a goal I want to achieve (whether it’s personal or professional), I make a mental list of all the things I need to do in order to complete the goal. And sometimes, y’all, just the idea of the discipline needed to succeed, it’s exhausting.

Dre and I explore many areas of discipline, from how it affects success, how it helps to create confidence and builds mental toughness for everyday life. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The four pillars of Dre’s "Work On Your Game" philosophy and how you can use it in your everyday life. (9:13)
  • Why discipline is an important aspect of success. (11:02)
  • How discipline creates confidence. (18:34)
  • Creating mental toughness for business and life. (24:46)
  • Taking personal initiative for your career and business: information is great, but you need to take initiative and do something with it.  (34:05)
  • The energy you put out is the energy you get back. (37:02)

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It’s no secret we are living in complicated times. Sometimes going back to the basics to focus on the present can be incredibly helpful. This week, Laura Cathcart Robbins, speaker, and host of the podcast, The Only One In The Room, joins me to talk about turning shitty situations into amazing opportunities. 

Laura went viral when she wrote an article about being the only Black woman in the room at an Elizabeth Gilbert and Cheryl Strayed writing event.  She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School’s nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion.

Together we discussed her experience being ‘othered’, as well as, how sharing that experience encouraged people from all ethnicities, races, genders, and abilities to speak out and feel connected with one another. She also offered a transparent look into her life as a mother and addict, going into treatment, wrestling with shame, and how she is coping today. She is a true wordsmith in both her writing and in her speaking. I hope you enjoy our conversation. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Laura shares her experience as the only one in the room at a retreat hosted by Liz Gilbert and Cheryl Strayed. (5:00)
  • How the retreats changed after Laura’s article went viral and some of the lessons she learned from the entire experience. (11:25)
  • Laura talks openly about being a mom in recovery from addiction. (22:08)
  • Words of encouragement for living in these trying times. (42:25)

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We’ve all experienced some form of grief over the last several months; grieving our life before COVID, people we’ve lost and more. Joining me for a deep and transformative conversation about grief is acclaimed grief educator, Christina Rasmussen. Christina is also the author of Second Firsts and Where Did You Go? and host of The Dear Life Podcast.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Christina describes grief as a catalyst for redefining entry. She shares about her philosophy on grief and the process of reentry or returning to life. (5:13)
  • Invisible losses: any experience that broke your heart and how they dictate the narrative of your life. (10:39)
  • Grief, COVID-19, and being triggered by invisible losses. (20:43)
  • How to know when you are ready to do life reentry work. (24:48)
  • Does reentry or returning to life mean you won’t experience waves of grief? (26:58)
  • The phases of reentry or returning to life. (36:47)

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Over the last few months, I’ve been exploring various personal development modalities with my guests. Another area that has been of interest to me is hypnotherapy. To explore this topic and discuss how we can utilize hypnotherapy to transform our subconscious mind is my bestie, Amy E. Smith. Amy is a certified and credentialed confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. She is also a certified hypnotherapist who aids hundreds of women in stepping into their authentic power and craft the lives they desire.

Together we discuss various methods that can help you analyze and address the state of your subconscious mind, including emotional freedom technique (EFT), dreams and what they mean, as well as what your handwriting can tell you.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • From a lay person’s perspective, Amy describes hypnotherapy.  (12:38)
  • How the conscious and subconscious work and what it has to do with the inner critic. (19:35)
  • EFT: what it is and how it can help. (26:03)
  • Handwriting analysis and what it has to do with the subconscious. Plus, how Amy uses this modality in her work. (27:59)
  • How analyzing your dreams can help you solve problems. (37:58)

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There are multiple ways to heal, and you know I love to give you many avenues. This week we are exploring the topic of internal family systems and how this modality can be a powerful lens of healing. Rebecca Ching, our unofficial resident therapist returns to the show to help us understand more about this type of healing. 

Rebecca is a psychotherapist, trauma-informed leadership coach, and host of the Unburdened Leader podcast. She helps established leaders, entrepreneurs and business owners navigate the curveballs of life + leadership without sacrificing their health, important relationships, and their business bottom line. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Rebecca shared an in-depth explanation of internal family systems (IFS). (4:47)
  • There are many ways to heal and staying curious about the various methods.(19:04)
  • With IFS all parts are welcome. No judgment. (27:00)
  • Trusting your practitioner and how to break away from a clinician you no longer trust. (30:31)
  • How someone might resolve a common conflict using IFS. (38:40)
  • This is a lifelong practice, it’s not one and done. (47:56)

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How can you have more tools to become the best version of yourself? Well, today we are going to find out how Human Design can help you get there. Erin Claire Jones is a guide, coach, and speaker who uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals and companies step into their work and their lives as their truest selves and to their highest potential.

Human Design was a new topic to me and I had so many questions for Erin! Together, we explored the different Human Design types, ways of making decisions, strategies, and more. Erin even read my Human Design chart and shared some specific insight into my true self. She provided practical tools and suggestions so you can integrate them into your own life too, plus how you can learn about your own Human Design. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Erin describes Human Design and how understanding your design gives you permission to be who you are. (4:12)
  • Human Design can help you in your day-to-day life, Erin explains how. (8:33)
  • The five different types of Human Design. (11:07)
  • The different ways of making decisions using your inner authority. (21:58)
  • Using Human Design as a tool for high performance and understanding what aspects of your design are getting you off track. (26:53)
  • Some strategies to help overcome dark spots or shadows in your life. (28:43)
  • How women can use Human Design to make full-bodied choices. (37:30)

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