Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen (general)

This week’s guest is Sekeithia, and she is the epitome of “making noise.” I came to know her through TikTok and was immediately drawn to her way of being herself on social media and encouraging others to do the same. She often shares openly about her mental health journey, sobriety, self-care, and is a motivator to her community of followers.  

Making noise is about a lot of different things, and it is often about looking at life’s challenges as invitations to show up in your life. In this episode we discuss shining bright when others are trying to dim your light, mental health and self-care, and learning to trust yourself.  Be sure to follow Sekeithia over on TikTok. And remember, this episode (and all of the others in this series) are on video. Head over to YouTube to watch!

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Sekeithia shares about her mental health journey with bipolar disorder, suicide attempts, and drug abuse. “Mental health was not a conversation we had around the dinner table.”  (4:20)
  • What her mental health self-care looks like today. (10:21)
  • Sekeithia shares about a time she ignored her intuition and had to learn a hard lesson, and how that changed going forward. “Intuition is about trusting yourself.” (14:30)
  • How the question, “Why do you always feel the need to be the brightest in the room?,” dimmed her light and how she began to shine again. (24:35)
  • How Sekeithia defines self-confidence. (29:10)
  • We dive into shadow work: what it is and how it helps. (32:40)

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Rachel DeAlto returns to the show this week, as part of the 8-episode special series, to talk about communicating, even if it scares you. I’m convinced that life is a series of awkward conversations and situations after another. However, armed with strategies and knowledge, it can be a little bit less scary. 

Rachel DeAlto is a relationship expert, coach, media personality, and speaker. She is the author of “relatable: How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere (Even if It Scares You).”  Rachel has also been featured on a multitude of media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood Live, and Fox News. She has also given three TEDx talks including Being Authentic in a Filtered World which is featured on TED.com.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Rachel describes the difference between nervousness and social anxiety. [7:34]
  • She shares some of what is wrong with the way we are communicating. [12:01]
  • How you can begin to feel less socially awkward. [19:49]
  • Some ways to approach building self-confidence. [21:46]
  • Rachel shares how she sees women making themselves small (figuratively, not literally). [28:16]

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We’re halfway through the Make Some Noise special series! I’m speaking with some amazing women about how they make noise in their life. Sara Dean joins me this week to discuss our definitions of self-confidence, the importance of self-trust, and the role intuition plays in decision-making. 

Sara is a friend and colleague; and I admire her self-confidence, tenacity, and resilience. Her biggest passion is helping women own their space. She is the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast, which has been featured in 5 categories of iTunes New & Noteworthy for almost 2 years now and is rapidly approaching one million downloads.

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Sara talks about confidence, how she defines it, and how she might instill confidence in another woman. (6:30)
  • Self-trust is a big part of self-confidence. Sara shares how she determined self-trust was important to focus on. (24:15)
  • The role intuition plays when making big decisions. (35:12)
  • I talk about mindset in Make Some Noise, more specifically about creating stories in our minds that serve us instead of narratives that bring us down. Sara shares the type of mindset work that has helped her. [44:04] 
  • Using life's challenges as invitations to show up. [48:44]

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I have a very special bonus episode for you today because today is the publication day (aka birthday) of my third book, Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength. 🎉

As my book is released to the world, I've been thinking a lot about legacy. As an author and with this book in particular, the dedication is to my daughter, Sydney and my mother and to her mother and her mother and her mother.

I dedicated it to them because they are the most important women in my life and part of my legacy. And I’ve been thinking about what I am going to leave behind when I’m no longer earthside.

The biggest, most important thing that we put meaning on is our own life. What's it all for? I think that the reason that we are here and the biggest part of our legacy is the relationships that we have with the people in our life.

I've told you all the story about when my life completely fell apart in 2006. And it was the first time I had so much clarity amidst all the drama. And I thought, how did I get here? And then a realization that this was not where I was meant to be. 

That was the moment I decided to change my life. It was not linear. It was not perfect. It was 15 years ago and there's been a lot of ups and downs. There's been a lot of hard conversations with myself and with other people. And I can tell you most definitely that I've truly never been more grateful for anything in my life because it takes intention and total consciousness to make changes.

It is things like speaking your mind, owning your strength, making noise, speaking up for yourself. 

It’s giving an opinion and learning how to set boundaries. 

Making noise is understanding what your values are and acting on them. 

It’s getting help for any addictions that you have.

It’s going to therapy and getting really honest with yourself and your therapist. 

Making noise is doing any kind of trauma therapy that you might need digging into your family of origin, looking at the habits and behaviors that you have, and getting really curious about them, instead of beating yourself up about them.

I mostly talk to women and write books for them, so all of that is an act of making noise. Women's empowerment is an act of rebellion because we are pushing up against the cultural norms, standards, programming, and socialization that we've all received. Learning, growing, and the relationships we create along the way are part of the legacy we leave. 

I am so excited to share the release of Make Some Noise with this wonderful community. It’s time to make some noise, speak your mind, and own your strength. 

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When I decided to create a special series to celebrate my third book, Make Some Noise, I knew Jess King needed to be a part of it. And, y’all I had so many questions to ask Jess, based around topics in my book. Her answers did not disappoint! So yes, this week, Jess King, joins me to talk about asking for what you want, making pleasure a priority, and resilience.

Jess is a charismatic Peloton instructor with boundless energy and a passion for movement. With a background in dance, performance and fitness, Jess grew up down South and moved to NYC to commit to a career in wellness. Jess’s self-proclaimed sassy and spicy personality make her Bike and Tread classes uplifting and full of exciting surprises. Jess is committed to helping people heal from the inside out, and she believes that this community is the perfect place to start that journey. Her focus is to partner with motivated individuals looking to transform their lives — and together, they burn.

✨ By the way, you can watch this episode on YouTube. Head over here to check it out! Or if audio is your preference, listen on this page or on your favorite podcast listening app. I’d love to hear what you think about this series so far - let me know over on Instagram @heyandreaowen.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Asking for what you want as a woman, and Jess’s take on the topic. How Jess makes pleasure a priority in her life. (8:15)
  • Self-confidence and the knowledge that you are not going to get what you want by being a “Yes,” person. (26:46)
  • Jess shares her experience with being shamed by men in her life for her free and expressive behavior as a teenager in the South. (28:47)
  • An exercise that will help women take up space physically. (41:38)

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Kat Kim joins me this week to talk about personal power and divine confidence, how to discover your secret desires, and how to reclaim your self-confidence. I am thrilled to have her as part of the Make Some Noise celebratory series! Kat is a Spiritual Teacher, Leadership Coach, and founder of The School of Divine Confidence, an online school that offers spiritual training and confidence coaching to rising women leaders and change-makers across the world.

By the way, all eight episodes in this special series are on video too! Head on over to YouTube to watch my interview with Kat. Subscribe to my YouTube channel to be notified when the next interview airs. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Kat shares her journey from a crack addict, convicted drug offender to spiritual teacher and leadership coach.
  • Why Kat defines personal power as divine confidence.
  • Advice for women who are struggling with self-confidence and spiritual work. 
  • Internalized patriarchal myths about what it means to be a “good woman” and how Kat worked to untangle them like “I have to be thin to be accepted.” 
  • How Kat helps women find their secret, burning desires. 
  • Shame can help you find self-confidence. 

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Welcome to the first episode in a special Make Some Noise series where I speak with eight, handpicked women who are making noise in their lives, taking up space, and shining brightly. I created this series as a way to celebrate the release of my third book, Make Some Noise (coming out August 31st...BUT you can pre-order now!), and a celebration of women. I am ready to share these conversations with you to help empower you to make some noise in your life.  

Susan Hyatt helps me kick off the series with a conversation about women’s empowerment through economic means, owning your power, and asking for what you want. Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life & Business Coach, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and the queen of helping women create what they crave in life.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Susan answers the question, “Was there a time in your life where you realized you weren’t asking for what you wanted, and if so, how did you change that?” (9:54)
  • What happens when women start to push back on the invisible workload. (15:09)
  • We talk about money and power, including Susan’s definition of power, and how women can help themselves be more comfortable with their own power. (18:57)
  • How women hold themselves back from making more money.  (23:59)
  • Susan has dealt with a lot of mean girls since she put herself out there so much, and we know this is due to women’s insecurities and internalized misogyny. Susan shares her thoughts on her experience and talks about what we can do to disrupt our own internalized sexism and misogyny. (33:49)
  • Last, but certainly not least, we talk about pleasure, specifically what stands in the way the most for women to embrace their pleasure more. (42:53)

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I have a fun and fascinating topic this week: Cosmic Health. Jennifer Racioppi joins me to share her knowledge on this topic and share how the celestial cycles impact your ever-changing sense of self. Jennifer is a certified Duke Integrative Medicine Health Coach, a holistic health counselor, a Positive Psychology coach, and an astrologer. She is also the author of the book, aptly titled: Cosmic Health: Unlock Your Healing Magic with Astrology, Positive Psychology, and Integrative Wellness. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Jennifer’s personal health and wellness journey; which began with an endometrial cancer diagnosis at the age of nineteen and onset of parachute menopause shortly thereafter. (7:50)
  • Being in sync with circadian, monthly, and annual rhythms is important for well-being. (23:57)
  • Why rituals are an important part of cosmic health. (30:32)

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This week I am talking about career transition and direction with Ashley Stahl. Ashley is a counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the bestselling book, You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you’re excited about and aligned with.  

We cover a wide range of topics relating to career, including why people get stuck or feel stuck in their jobs, the top ten career skill sets, and why you should do what you are, instead of what you love.   Ashley ends our conversation with a mic drop quote, one of which we could all be reminded of, “Who you are, always wins.” 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Why people get so stuck in their career and commonplace directive of “follow your passion” (8:59)
  • What Ashley means when she says, “Don’t do what you love, do what you are.” (11:58)
  • The importance of being adaptable in today’s workforce.
  • The top 10 core skill sets and why you need to know which one you possess. (14:09)
  • How to figure out your core values and why these values matter for your career. (16:14)
  • Advice for people who are in careers they love, but the organization’s leadership is less than desirable. (27:58)
  • Ashley shares her thoughts about the 9-5 work schedule seen in the U.S. and how it may not be in service for everyone. (34:02)
  • The myths people buy into in their careers. (36:43)

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Marc Brackett is on the show this week. I heard him on Brené Brown’s podcast, then devoured his work, and knew I needed to have him on the show.  He is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University. His research focuses on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and both academic and workplace performance. You are going to love this conversation and learn so much. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Why it’s essential to focus on feelings. (7:02)
  • The role emotions play in learning, decision making, and workplace performance. (9:46)
  • What we should be teaching children about emotional intelligence. (15:29)
  • The difference between emotional regulation and emotional intelligence. (23:05)
  • The Mood Meter App: what it is and how it can be used. (28:32)

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Britt Frank is back! I received so much positive feedback from her first appearance on the show about healing from narcissistic and traumatic relationships, I knew we needed to continue the conversation. For those new to Britt, she is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the “Science of Stuck.” Britt's work empowers people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. 

I still had so many questions for Britt, so in this episode, we dive deeper into our conversation about narcissistic relationships, what trauma is and is not, and how to break free from narcissistic abuse or trauma. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The difference between narcissism and a narcissist. 
  • Once someone has identified they are in a relationship with a narcissist - Britt breaks down how to decide whether they should stay or go. 
  • Narcissism is an attachment disorder and stems from childhood - the best way to prevent children from becoming narcissists is to pay attention to them. 
  • Trauma is brain indigestion. 
  • Britt Frank’s opinion on forgiveness. “Anytime we jump to forgiveness at the expense of our own truth, we gaslight ourselves.”
  • Once you are aware of what is happening, Britt offers some ways to cope and break free from narcissistic abuse or trauma.

✨By the way, pre-orders for my next book, Make Some Noise, are open! Grab Your Free Bonuses - including a free webinar on self-confidence coming up on August 5th.
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This week Marc and Angel Chernoff join me on the podcast. They are professional coaches, full-time students of life, and admirers of the human spirit, and have been recognized by Forbes as having "one of the most popular personal development blogs." 

Marc and Angel are also the authors of two books that share over 1000 things people can do to live a happy and successful life. One of the things I love about their books (and our conversation) is that they take some really big topics and simplify them into practical and implementable things we can do in order to be better humans and make the world a better place. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The inspiration behind Marc and Angel’s book, 1000+ Little Things Happy, Successful People Do.
  • Why Marc and Angel say their route into personal development was out of necessity. 
  • What made them decide to write a book about relationships. 
  • Marc and Angel answer the question, “What do I do to get my partner to be interested in personal development as much as I am?” 
  • Advice for someone who feels hopeless or helpless due to life’s circumstances. 
  • Why their book, 1000+ Little Habits of Happy, Successful Relationships, is great for single people too. 
  • Some strategies you can employ when you are feeling burnt out. 
  • Practical ways you can get back to happy and simplify your life. 

PS: We’re looking for your stories about how you’ve made noise in your life. It can be tangible stories like how you transitioned from one job to another or internal work - such as how your self-confidence grew over a number of years. Listeners, you are such a major part of this show and I want to honor your voices and stories. We need to hear more women’s stories. Head over to AndreaOwen.com/Talk to share yours with us.

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Rae McDaniel is on the show and I’m really excited for you to listen to my conversation with them. We talked about how to be a better ally to the transgender and non-binary community. Plus, Rae has the most fascinating upbringing story which they shared during our time together. 

Rae McDaniel is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. Our conversation was interesting and informative. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Rae’s upbringing by parents who were Christian-missionary puppeteers (I had so many questions!). (4:17)
  • Their experience coming out as queer in an unsupportive environment. (7:34)
  • How the narrative that gender transition has to include suffering and anxiety is damaging to transgender and cisgender folks alike. (12:19)
  • Rae’s perspective about anti-transgender and anti-nonbinary laws being pushed in legislation today. (16:54)
  • What it means to be a good ally to the transgender and nonbinary community, plus trans-affirming language and the gender spectrum. (25:00)
  • What to do (and not do) when someone comes out to you. (34:10)
  • Advice for parents who suspect their child might be trans or nonbinary or their child has come out to them, and their feeling a bit lost. (36:15)

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This week I’m coaching Hannah, a twenty-five year-old who recently transitioned from working in a non-profit to Corporate America. She came to me for some coaching and insight around issues of wrestling with perfectionism and her battles with negative self-talk. We talked through different scenarios and by the end of our time together, Hannah said our conversation was a “self-awareness wake up call”. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Hannah describes her feeling of being stuck and lack of motivation. 
  • We discuss the idea that the lack of motivation she may be feeling is due to burnout. 
  • The importance of female friendships and how they can be a huge part of a path towards self-care.
  • Recognizing there are seasons of your life where you simply aren’t motivated and that’s okay. 
  • Encouragement to get curious when something is pushing you in a certain direction or belief.

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This week, I am exploring childhood trauma and how it is at the root of many of the issues that plague us in our adult lives. Riana Milne joins us; she’s a therapist who’s been helping individuals attract and keep emotionally healthy love for over 21 years. 

Riana shares the top ten traumas we experience in childhood and how those traumas impact us. This episode is not about blaming or shaming-- instead, it’s about understanding why we’ve adopted certain coping behaviors and offer strategies towards healing.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Riana walks us through her Childhood Trauma Checklist - identifying 10 traumas experienced in our young lives. (5:17)
  • How childhood trauma shows up in love relationships. (29:54)
  • The typical timeline for getting trauma out of the brain and body. (37:57)
  • Mindset for success - a two-part healing process. (37:59)
  • Five things in an emotionally healthy, evolved, and conscientiously aware relationship. (42:05)

I know you’ll find this episode enlightening and perhaps see some of yourself. If you want to dig further, Raina has a free ebook called Attract Healthy Love Now (also great if you’re already in a relationship!). 

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Erin King is here, y’all! Erin is a best-selling author, 3x entrepreneur, and the CEO of the Socialite Agency.  She’s helped clients ranging from The Academy Awards in Hollywood to The United States Navy at the Pentagon communicate more compellingly using her award-winning PUB method.  If you gravitate towards my energy and the things I teach about (thank you, by the way) - you are going to love Erin!

In this episode we talk about her new book, You're Kind of a Big Deal: Level Up By Unlocking Your Audacity, and how to take bold action. We also talk about the role patriarchy plays in oppressing women’s confidence and how, instead, we can harness Big Deal Energy (the feminine version of Big ‘D’ Energy) to live an audacious life. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Erin shared her experience pitching her then company, PMS (a tampon delivery service) to a room full of men. (6:30)
  • Leveling up in your personal and professional life takes much more than just confidence and courage… it takes something bigger, bolder and grittier: AUDACITY.   (23:55)
  • Some ways you can begin to activate your audacity to level up. (31:45)
  • Big ‘D’ energy aka Big Deal Energy: knowing you have what it takes. (35:59)

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Gabrielle Bernstein is on the show this week. For over fifteen years, Gabrielle has been transforming lives—including her own. She is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, having penned eight books including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and the latest, her first Audible Original, You Are the Guru.

She joined me to discuss some of the tools and practices she uses to relieve anxiety and restore energy, including EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and cord-cutting meditation. I love it when conversations organically move in their own direction and this one did not disappoint. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Cord-cutting meditation - what it is and how it can be used to help someone get some closure. (6:10)
  • Gabby walks people through the steps of judgment detox using a technique called Emotional Freedom Technique. (11:04)
  • Methods or tools for relieving anxiety. (17:07)
  • Postpartum depression, time and place for psychiatric support, and why you can’t spiritually override it. Get medicated support to get back to safeline and feel safe enough to live. (20:07)
  • Manifesting is not about getting things, it is about feeling good. (22:55)

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Kute Blackson is back on the show this week. He joins me for a conversation about surrender, and as many of you may know, surrender is a favorite topic of mine.  That is why when I learned about his new book, The Magic of Surrender, I knew I needed to have him back.

Kute shares how to unravel human tendencies to control the outcome and instead, be willing to be open to life’s possibilities. He is author of the national bestselling book You.Are.The.One. and is widely considered the next generation leader in the field of personal development. I hope you enjoy our conversation.

“The path of surrender, rather than trying to figure out life at every step, is to allow ourselves to be guided by life.” Kute Blackson

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Why Kute wrote The Magic of Surrender and what he learned about surrendering through watching his mother battle and succumb to cancer. (6:38)
  • Stay open and curious when things don’t work out - that is the beauty of surrender. (14:57)
  • How can one be an activist, act from a place of freedom, and still practice surrendering. (20:49)
  • Giving up the need to know everything and embrace the unknown. (30:18)
  • How you can begin to practice surrender. (34:01)
  • Part of surrendering is showing up and believing that something bigger is possible for you. (43:06)

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I am on cloud 9 this week because I am revealing the title of my third book, set to be released on August 31st, 2021. And while the book comes out in late August - the celebration starts now. 🎉

In this episode, I share some BTS (behind the scenes) about the title, as well as, read some excerpts from the book. I also share how you can claim book bonuses if you pre-order (yes, you can pre-order now!), be a part of my upcoming book club (led by me), and win a signed copy of my previous books. 

I cannot wait to officially “birth” my next book baby into the world. Of course, they say not to personify your work because you end up holding it too close to your heart. But it's really hard not to do when it is a labor of love. I can't wait for you to read it and I’m grateful to be able to guide you on your path to making noise in your life. 

P.S. I would LOVE, love, love it if shared about my upcoming book! The easiest way is to re-share my social media posts. Thank you!

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This week I have another coaching session episode. Kylie, a Canadian living in the Netherlands, joins me to explore procrastination around decision making, embracing your sense of adventure even when it’s scary, and where to turn for accountability and support. 

 

My goal for these coaching episodes is that you, along with Kylie, will leave the session with lots of tools in your toolbox to grow, flourish, and be your best self; be proud of the woman you are and take that leap.  

 

In this episode you’ll hear:

 

  • Kylie opened up about her difficulty making decisions and sticking to them. (7:46)
  • What would happen if you embraced the ‘throw caution to the wind’ side of you and lived in the moment? (12:01)
  • Tapping into Kylie’s younger self and her perspective on risk-taking. (17:00)
  • Some ways to get the creative ideas out, accountability, and support. (29:02)
  • We explore what happens when we create standards that feel unattainable. Andrea says, “Never wait for perfection or confidence to fall into your lap…” (42:07)
  • An action-taking update from Kylie. (50:38)

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This week I explore the topics of diet culture, body image, and intersectional feminism with guest, Summer Innanen. Summer is a professionally trained coach specializing in body image, self-worth, and confidence. She is the best-selling author of Body Image Remix and creator of You, On Fire – the online group coaching program dedicated to helping people get free from body shame and live life on their own terms. She is also the host of Eat The Rules, a podcast dedicated to anti-dieting, body image, and intersectional feminism.

Personally, I succumbed to diet culture for decades and have been going through a process of unlearning all of the internalized messages that never served me. Extricating oneself from diet culture is a unique journey for every woman. To echo Summer’s words, “Acceptance is not a destination, it’s an ongoing practice of meeting yourself where you are at and where you need to be.” 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • A brief definition of diet culture and what it revolves around (various layers of oppression). (8:24)
  • For women, worrying about body image is a universal condition and is rooted in internalized misogyny. (12:10)
  • Summer talks about how the way to feel better in your body isn’t about “liking the way you look” and how this can make it harder for us to accept ourselves. (14:14)
  • The importance of knowing the truth about weight science. (23:04)
  • Summer’s response to the assumption that if you accept your body, you're "giving up" and not going to "take care of yourself". (25:27)
  • We can reject diet culture and go on to do amazing things. (32:40)
  • "Tools of avoidance," dieting and fixating on our bodies. (36:00)
  • How diet culture is related to patriarchy and white supremacy. (48:09)

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Julie Parker is back on the show! We jump right into the deep end and talk about embracing the parts of yourself you don’t necessarily like, aka your shadow side, and why anyone would want to love their fears. Julie Parker is the Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy where she passionately trains heart-centered people to become life coaches. 

I had a list of questions prepared for Julie and we covered a few. However, when we recorded this conversation, it was in the midst of the Rachel Hollis debacle. So we veered off into a conversation about what it means to be a sacred leader and the role leadership plays within women empowerment and personal development. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Julie talks about “embracing your shadows,”  the parts of us that we don’t necessarily like and holding us back and looking at these parts compassionately and learning from them. (9:22)
  • The importance of keeping a level of curiosity and tapping into it. (13:51)
  • How to love your fears and why someone would want to love them. (20:53)
  • Julie’s experience with people-pleasing and how she came to an understanding about it. (21:18)
  • You can’t talk or think out of the way the stories you make up. (28:52)
  • Julie’s book Priestess and the topic of sacred leadership. (33:58)
  • What it means to be a sacred leader and the role sacred leadership plays within women's empowerment and personal development. (36:31)

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Terri Cole is back on the show! Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. And, has experience in many topics, including codependency and boundaries. In this episode, she joins me to talk about boundaries and her new book, Boundary Boss: The Essential to Talk True, And (Finally) Live Free.  

Terri busts common myths about boundaries, as well as the beliefs bestowed on us of what a woman should be and how it plays into having disordered boundaries: “It is more important to be perceived as nice, then perceived as authentic.” According to Terri, that is a setup for a boundary disaster.  

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • “You teach what you need to learn.” Why Terri decided to write a book about boundaries. (6:58)
  • The art of drawing boundaries with ease and grace does not mean creating conflict. (9:50)
  • Having a unique “Boundary Blueprint,” and common themes Terri sees in her work. (10:49)
  • The biggest myths around setting and enforcing good boundaries. (15:09)
  • How good boundaries can help enhance relationships. (19:09)
  • How boundaries have been tested for people over the last year and how can we use this time to recalibrate. (35:00)
  • A step you can take to stand in your boundary when someone is extremely unhappy with it. (42:30)

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People evolve and change, right? Well, guess what...this podcast is evolving and changing too! Your Kick-Ass Life has been my baby since 2010, and the name of this podcast since 2013. Because a lot has transpired since that time, I felt it was time to make a change. In this episode, I wanted to share a little bit about what the new name, Make Some Noise, means and why I decided to make the shift. 

Making noise is about speaking up, shining bright, and asking for what you want. It’s about disrupting the narrative about the “box” of conformity we were all taught to fit into. It’s about taking action BEFORE you’re ready in order to build your confidence muscle. All of this and women’s empowerment is an act of rebellion; an act of making noise. 

Now for those of you a bit uncomfortable with change - things will mostly remain the same around here. I’ll continue to bring you interviews, coaching sessions, conversations about shit that matters with unqualified people, and occasional solo episodes.

And here is a sneak peek of what is to come: 

🎉 The title and cover reveal of my new book is coming in May. 

🎉 A new special podcast series that is all about motivating you wherever you are in your life is coming in June. 

🎉 And finally, beginning August 11th I’m doing a special series with a select group of women who come on the show to talk specifically about what it means to make some noise and how to do more of it. 

I want to leave you with a question to think about, today:  How are you making noise in your life? Are you going after your goals and dreams? Are you looking at areas of your life you want to change? Are you setting boundaries? Choosing radical self-care? Disrupting systems of oppression? Interrupting things like misogyny and sexism? Using your voice by voting?  

The way you make noise in your life is yours, it’s unique to you, and I’m so happy to guide you in empowering yourself. Ready? Let’s go. 

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This week I have one of the OG’s of the coaching industry on the show, Andrea J. Lee. Andrea joins me to discuss verbal abuse from the perspective of the abuser and being vulnerable enough to sit in that intensity in order to make a change. We also explore how to be bold and kind in a world full of injustice and misgivings. I am excited to share our conversation with you.

Plus, after 8 years and almost 400 episodes, the podcast is getting a new name! The unveiling is coming tomorrow. So keep an eye on the podcast feed for the official announcement. 🎉

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Andrea J. Lee explains what she means when she describes herself as a futurist with her finger on the pulse of the human spirit. She also explains her experience as “A Canadian-born Taiwanese, cis-gender woman (she/her) who has been brought up with white privilege inside the model minority myth.” (6:06)
  • Andrea J. Lee offers a different perspective on emotional abuse through her digital newsletter - how do you not become the thing you suffered and not become an oppressor yourself. (10:15)
  • How Andrea J. Lee realized she was being verbally abusive to her husband and why she decided to share publically about her experience. (17:35)
  • Being vulnerable and why vulnerability might be held against someone. (19:57)
  • If we are not willing to fully experience the pain we are going through, if we can’t sit in that intensity, we are not going to make a change. (28:53)
  • “It’s possible to be fierce, outraged, bold, and go for your goals while also being kind.” Andrea J. Lee shares some ways to do this when you see injustices happening that anger you. (35:35)

http://yourkickasslife.com/383

 

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You may or may not have seen the latest incident on social media from mega influencer, Rachel Hollis. I made a video talking about my thoughts; mostly because this is an important piece of the women’s empowerment industry. 

If you’re unaware of what happened, there are links below, and I highly encourage you to watch the links posted, as there are women who’ve broken down why her actions are so harmful. 

You can either watch the video or listen to the podcast episode. *Please note that in the podcast episode, I do give a few minutes of my additional thoughts. 

Watch the video here: https://yourkickasslife.com/empowering-women/my-thoughts-on-rachel-hollis-and-womens-empowerment/

Important links:
The video I’m referencing
Trudi Lebron on RH, Leadership, and What We’re Really Doing: live podcast
Jam Gamble on Instagram
Austin Channing Brown on the problem with white feminism
Weeze Doran on Instagram
Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall

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Coaching sessions are back! This week I am coaching Melissa, a production company owner from Southern California, about boundaries within her personal and professional life, as well as, knowing clearly what she wants and asking for it. 

If you are new to the coaching episode format, my style is a mix between traditional coaching and intuitive consulting. And yes, more coaching session episodes will be coming. Also, keep an eye out for some changes on the podcast too. Don’t worry, I am not going anywhere! But, the show is getting a new name and some other fun adjustments. Announcements will be coming next week!

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Clearly knowing what you want and asking for it. (6:48)
  • Establishing boundaries at work and at home, and enforcing them. (8:35)
  • Betting on yourself and not waiting for confidence to move forward. (24:15)
  • Determining what you will or won’t tolerate in relationships. (31:36)
  • A kick-ass update from Melissa, plus some of her biggest takeaways from our coaching session. (43:16)

http://yourkickasslife.com/382

 

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Joining me to discuss mental health, as well as, my journey through somatic therapy is my dearest friend, Amy Smith. This isn’t an expert-on-expert episode; instead, it’s two friends talking about a topic from a place of curiosity. 

Here’s some background as to why I wanted to bring you this episode: Last week, Mia Hemstad joined me on the podcast (episode 380). She vulnerably shared the story of her suicidal ideation and major depressive disorder. And, I shared a little bit about my journey too. I wanted to share more of my story, so I decided, this week, to bring you a Conversation About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • My breaking point - what led me to a point of complete anxiety and terror. (7:16)
  • About my FaceTime call to Amy, where I opened up about thoughts of suicide ideation. (7:31)
  • How having a friend there to listen, comforted me. (17:03)
  • Amy’s experience being on the other end of that phone call and how she was able to compartmentalize what was happening. (18:23)
  • My somatic therapy journey and how it helped me work through trauma. (26:24)
  • Some thoughts about being supportive to a friend going through a mental crisis. (49:14)

http://yourkickasslife.com/381

 

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This week Mia Hemstad, mental health advocate and social justice activist, joins me for a discussion about major depressive disorder, the intersection between mental health and politics, and how women can make themselves a priority by doing one small thing a day. 

Mia and I had recorded this episode several months ago. I was waiting to release it for various reasons (which I share in this episode). Like many, I saw the recent interview with Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, where Meghan shared her story of suicide ideation. During my conversation with Mia, she shared her own story of suicide ideation, as did I. Therefore, I felt it was important to share this episode now. It’s relevant and after the year we’ve experienced, an important one to discuss. I hope this episode is helpful to you. 

  • How Mia became a mental health advocate and social justice activist out of necessity. “Mental health and politics are connected.” (6:34)
  • How women can make themselves a priority by doing one small thing a day to nourish themselves.  And, a reminder from Mia that, “Healing is not a checklist.” (15:56)
  • Mia’s major depressive disorder and suicidal ideation story.(26:48)
  • How to handle overwhelming emotions. (46:32)

http://yourkickasslife.com/380

 

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What do henna, legacy, and living unapologetically all have in common? They are just some of the facets that make up Chelsea Stevenson’s work. Chelsea joins me this week for a conversation about the power in legacy. 

Chelsea is a professional henna artist, business strategist, and homeschooling mother of three. During our time together, we discussed a variety of topics including her motivation for building a table rather than taking a seat at an existing one, and honoring your values. She offered poignant takeaways, including this one, “The decisions we make, the actions we take, and the words we say are powerful. And, we have to own how they impact the world around us.”

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • A brief history of henna and its use as a medium to create art. (4:47)
  • Why Chelsea’s motivation is to build her own table instead of taking a seat at a table that already exists. (7:26)
  • The power in the legacy we leave and why it is important. (8:23)
  • Living unapologetically and honoring your values. (21:58)
  • How Chelsea went from a social worker to a Hennapreneur. (26:56)
  • Struggling with negative self-talk and negativity bias. (33:05)
  • Steps to stand in your authority and position yourself as the artist/entrepreneur/changemaker you want to be in this world. (36:55)

http://yourkickasslife.com/379

 

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🎉✍ Join Amy Ahlers and I live on Wednesday, March 16th, for a free writing workshop: Top 10 Kick-Ass Tips to Get Your Writing Project Started and Complete.  If you want to write a book, self-publish one, go the traditional route of publishing, or are simply curious about what it takes to launch your next writing project, join us. For all the details and to register, go here. We hope to see you on the 16th! ✍ 🎉 

Speaking of Amy Ahlers, she returns to the show this week to talk about the imposter complex and the inner-critic. Plus, we share some of the ways our inner-mean girl shows up during the creation of our writing projects and some of the strategies we employ to calm her down.

Amy is a Master Women’s Leadership and Life Coach, keynote speaker, and best-selling author. She is on a mission to stop women from self-bullying and being hard on themselves so they can make their greatest possible contribution. Enjoy our conversation! 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How imposter complex shows up for women who want to start something new or complete a big project. (3:56)
  • Some ways in which we handle our own imposter complex, including how we change the narrative. (6:39)
  • Experiencing upper limit problems and how we deal. (10:13)
  • Amy answers the question, “Is writing a book for everyone?” (23:30)
  • What we love and do not love about writing. (27:33)

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Heather Chauvin is back on the show! Our conversation answers the question, “What is worth your time and energy?” Heather is a leadership coach who helps ambitious, overwhelmed women conquer their fears and become leaders at work and home. She is also the author of the book, Dying to Be a Good Mother

We examine what is truly worthy of your time, discuss emotional regulation and Heather’s Red/Yellow/Green zone methodology. Finally, we explore the topic of managing your energy and surrendering to guilt.  

“You’ve got to feel the discomfort in order to feel the good stuff.” ~ Heather Chauvin

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How Heather’s grandmother inspired her ‘shit or get off the pot’ moment, and led her to write her first book, Dying to Be a Good Mother. (9:52)
  • Heather shares her Stage-4 Cancer diagnosis journey. (10:27)
  • The “million-dollar minute” concept. “If every sixty seconds of your life is worth one million dollars - are you satisfied with your investment?” (22:23)
  • The Red, Yellow, and Green Zones and how they can be used in your life and at work. (28:30)
  • Energetic time management is reverse engineering of how you want to feel. (33:31)
  • A conversation about guilt: “Who benefits from you feeling guilty?” (36:04)

http://yourkickasslife.com/377

 

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I have one of my favorite people back on the show, Samantha Bennett! Sam is an artist, writer, poet, actress, and creativity/productivity, specialist. She is also a dear friend. She re-joins me to talk about a variety of personal development topics, including friendships, the concept of re-parenting yourself, and how to handle disappointment.  

Sam is the creator of The Organized Artist Company, dedicated to helping tens of thousands of creative people get unstuck, helping them to focus and move forward on their goals. This episode is very much a ‘greatest hits’ compilation between Sam and me. We hope you enjoy it! 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Handling life’s disappointments and giving yourself grace. “Disappointment is taking score too soon.” (10:40)
  • Some helpful strategies for re-parenting yourself. (15:59)
  • Sam helps us to think about productivity in a different way. (19:13)
  • Nothing is more important than your transformation. (31:46)
  • The one thing that determines the quality of your life. (35:44)

http://yourkickasslife.com/376

 

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Have you ever been in a situation where you had to be something you didn’t intend to be? Maybe it was taking care of aging parents, or you were thrust into single-motherhood. That is what this week’s guest refers to as an Accidental Alpha Woman. Author and Master Certified Coach, Karen Wright, joins me to talk about being the accidental alpha woman, how to reconnect with the real you, and create a life that has more ease.

We also discuss what it means to be strong as a woman, dealing with judgment, and not making yourself small at the expense of others' comfort. I hope you enjoy our conversation. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How Karen’s personal experience inspired her to write, “The Accidental Alpha Woman,” plus she explains what an Accidental Alpha Woman is. (4:16)
  • The importance of identifying your values and how that can help define what is important to you in a relationship. (11:00)
  • The reason women feel the need to “carry the world on their shoulders” and be strong. (12:09)
  • How to reconnect with the real “you” and create a life that has greater community, ease, and fun using the R.E.C.E.I.V.E framework. (25:22)
  • Why it’s important for women to find their voice. (28:33)
  • Internalized misogyny and the alpha woman. (33:52)

Book Giveaway! We are giving away two copies of Karen Wright’s book, Accidental Alpha Woman. Listen to this episode for all the details! 

http://yourkickasslife.com/375

 

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I’ve talked about burnout many times on this podcast and I’m no stranger to it. In fact, in 2020, I took an 8-month break from Instagram partly due to burnout. So I wanted to have an expert on to talk specifically about this topic. Joining me to explore this widespread issue is two-time TEDx speaker, Joanna Denton. In 2014, after two burnouts in five years, Joanna decided to leave the tax world behind and change her life completely. Today, she's a speaking and executive coach for thought leaders, business executives, and entrepreneurs. 

Burnout is something many women struggle with - no matter their life’s circumstances and is more prevalent than we actually think. Together, Joanna and I discuss the different phases of burnout, the lessons Joanna learned from her journey back from it, and how to ask for help when you are feeling mentally or physically burnt out. 

  • Why it is so difficult for leaders to talk about burnout, and what can we do to make it easier. (6:20)
  • The difference between depression and burnout. (8:00)
  • Joanna’s burnout journey and how her life improved as a result of her burnouts. (12:18)
  • The biggest lessons Joanna learned during her journey back from burnout. (17:22)
  • Joanna’s book “The Different Truth", what the title means and how it encourages readers to start a conversation about choices and step into a new truth. (37:08)
  • Asking for help and being vulnerable. (45:47)

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Why are women perceived (or misunderstood) as angry? And, what can we do about it? That's just one of the many topics covered during my conversation with Leslie Lyons. Leslie is Founder of Bombshell Movement Studio in Chicago (a sensual movement studio), host of the Beyond the Pole: Tales from the CEO podcast, and a sales and leadership coach for female entrepreneurs. 

Together we also discuss embracing your “too muchness,” using your quiet strength to speak up, and exploring women’s empowerment in some nontraditional ways. We also have a very candid conversation about Christianity.

“The work of feminism, at the heart of it is liberation, and liberation starts with using your voice.” Leslie Lyons

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Leslie’s personal story of how she came to her work as a leadership coach and owner of a sensual movement studio in Chicago.
  • Anger’s purpose and why women are perceived (and misunderstood) as angry and what we can do about it.
  • How a woman can embrace her ‘too-muchness’ “You weren’t put on this Earth to blend into the background.” 
  • Unshakeable leadership - what it is and some ways women can harness it.
  • We discuss Christianity, self-awareness, and how our spirituality evolved over time. 

http://yourkickasslife.com/373

 

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Hard conversations, resilience, and boundaries are some of the cornerstones of personal development. And, they happen to be some of the topics covered during this week’s show. Joining me to discuss all things personal development is my guest (and dear friend), Fawn Germer. Fawn is the best-selling author of nine books, including an Oprah Book. She is one of America's top women's leadership speakers and is the top-ranked woman on the prestigious Global Guru's List of best leadership and motivational speakers worldwide.

Together we discuss enduring great loss, coping with grief, and why boundaries are essential. When I think of one word to sum up our conversation, it is resilience. As Fawn so perfectly stated, “Every shitstorm ends.” And as her mother once told her, “It doesn’t matter what happens to you, it matters what you do with it.” 

🚨 Book Giveaway! 🚨 Tune in to hear how you can win a free copy of Fawn’s latest book, Coming Back! How to Win the Job You Want When You've Lost the Job You Need.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How a Google search which included the words, “Life Coach + Bullshit,” led to our long-lasting friendship. (4:32)
  • Why Fawn dislikes motivational speakers, even though she is one! Plus, her journey to becoming a motivational speaker and author. (7:00)
  • How Fawn endured a year of extreme loss - and why she says, “Every shitstorm ends.” (23:14)
  • The fastest way to stop a downward spiral. (28:01)
  • Uncomfortable conversations and how to make peace with them. (33:04)

http://yourkickasslife.com/372

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Laura Cathcart Robbins is back on the show this week! She joins me for an essential conversation about racism, how the lack of conversations about race can be scarring for children, and the pain and trauma of race relations between black and white women. Laura is a freelance culture writer and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room. I am thrilled to have her back on the show!

And just to be clear: If we are going to make the world a better place and make ourselves better humans, we must continue to have conversations about race and do the work. Because when we are talking about women’s empowerment, we’re talking about feminism, and when we’re talking about feminism, we’re talking about patriarchy; and when we’re talking about patriarchy, we’re talking about white supremacy. It’s all connected. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • What white parents should be teaching their children about racism. (5:06)
  • Why black women find it hard to trust white women. “Some of us are dealing with unprecedented grief. We are broken with pain and unvalidated anger.”(20:12)
  • Laura offers an intimate glimpse into her interracial relationship and how the murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and Ahmaud Arbery affected it. (36:10)

http://yourkickasslife.com/371

 

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Happy Wednesday! It’s been a full week since we watched or listened in horror as rioters breached the U.S. Capitol. In this episode, I have a quick chat (before our interview) with Jessica Sharp, my personal friend, and DEI consultant. As I’ve conveyed before, personal development and social justice work are directly connected, so Jessica and I discuss our thoughts on, “This isn’t who we are” (referring to the U.S.) and more.   

Switching gears, when it comes to personal development and behaviors like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and over-achieving - the goal isn’t eradicating them. Instead, it’s recognizing when these behaviors jump into the driver’s seat and learning to draw on tools to help maneuver the road ahead. This week, Martina Barnes joins me to talk about these behaviors, how to recognize when they are taking over our “life bus,” and how to harness your reliable personal power. 

Martina G. Barnes is an experienced psychotherapist, life fulfillment coach, and master intuitive who helps high-achieving women transform the areas in their lives where they lack reliable personal power. She teaches women practical ways to shift how they show up for themselves and express Reliable Personal Power in every area of their lives.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Recognizing that personal development work and social justice work are interwoven. (5:16)
  • Common default behaviors women struggle with such as perfectionism, control, and people-pleasing and how Martina applies those behaviors to what she calls the “Life Bus” analogy. (20:00)
  • What blocks high-achieving women from having Reliable Personal Power. (25:20)
  • Not wanting to be perceived a certain way (ie: a bitch or aggressive, when standing up for yourself). (27:25)
  • Opening ourselves to deeper intimacy and friendships - courage brings so many beautiful rewards.  (34:10)
  • How trauma impacts connection to your intuition. (42:16)

http://yourkickasslife.com/370

 

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Last year was a year where many had a lot to carry. As we enter 2021, all of that heaviness won’t magically go away. But, as the new year approached I got to thinking about the new year and goals. I wanted to talk about it, but not in the usual ‘’Let's talk about goals, yahoo!” kind of way. So, Charlie Gilkey is back on the show! He offers a unique perspective on self-help, goals, and productivity.  

Charlie helps people start finishing the stuff that matters. He's the founder of Productive Flourishing, author of the book Start Finishing (2019) and The Small Business Lifecycle (2012), and host of the Productive Flourishing podcast. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • As we step into a new year, Charlie offers some ways you can be more present in your life. (7:35)
  • How and why you should identify your genius when it comes to tackling goals. Plus, why you should pay attention to the linguistics you use around your goals. (13:18)
  • How supporters, a support system, or a success pack can help you move forward with intention. (17:39)
  • Three strategies for tackling your plans and goals in order to finish strong. (40:48)

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There are many facets of personal development that can stand to adopt a level of discipline, similar to the discipline required by professional athletes. My guest, Dre Baldwin, is a former professional basketball player who built a publishing empire and authored an impressive 27 books. He has an interesting perspective on discipline, which is the focal point of this week’s episode.

As someone who mildly recoils at the word discipline, I was fascinated and eager for my conversation with Dre. When I think about a goal I want to achieve (whether it’s personal or professional), I make a mental list of all the things I need to do in order to complete the goal. And sometimes, y’all, just the idea of the discipline needed to succeed, it’s exhausting.

Dre and I explore many areas of discipline, from how it affects success, how it helps to create confidence and builds mental toughness for everyday life. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The four pillars of Dre’s "Work On Your Game" philosophy and how you can use it in your everyday life. (9:13)
  • Why discipline is an important aspect of success. (11:02)
  • How discipline creates confidence. (18:34)
  • Creating mental toughness for business and life. (24:46)
  • Taking personal initiative for your career and business: information is great, but you need to take initiative and do something with it.  (34:05)
  • The energy you put out is the energy you get back. (37:02)

http://yourkickasslife.com/368

 

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It’s no secret we are living in complicated times. Sometimes going back to the basics to focus on the present can be incredibly helpful. This week, Laura Cathcart Robbins, speaker, and host of the podcast, The Only One In The Room, joins me to talk about turning shitty situations into amazing opportunities. 

Laura went viral when she wrote an article about being the only Black woman in the room at an Elizabeth Gilbert and Cheryl Strayed writing event.  She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School’s nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion.

Together we discussed her experience being ‘othered’, as well as, how sharing that experience encouraged people from all ethnicities, races, genders, and abilities to speak out and feel connected with one another. She also offered a transparent look into her life as a mother and addict, going into treatment, wrestling with shame, and how she is coping today. She is a true wordsmith in both her writing and in her speaking. I hope you enjoy our conversation. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Laura shares her experience as the only one in the room at a retreat hosted by Liz Gilbert and Cheryl Strayed. (5:00)
  • How the retreats changed after Laura’s article went viral and some of the lessons she learned from the entire experience. (11:25)
  • Laura talks openly about being a mom in recovery from addiction. (22:08)
  • Words of encouragement for living in these trying times. (42:25)

http://yourkickasslife.com/367

 

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We’ve all experienced some form of grief over the last several months; grieving our life before COVID, people we’ve lost and more. Joining me for a deep and transformative conversation about grief is acclaimed grief educator, Christina Rasmussen. Christina is also the author of Second Firsts and Where Did You Go? and host of The Dear Life Podcast.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Christina describes grief as a catalyst for redefining entry. She shares about her philosophy on grief and the process of reentry or returning to life. (5:13)
  • Invisible losses: any experience that broke your heart and how they dictate the narrative of your life. (10:39)
  • Grief, COVID-19, and being triggered by invisible losses. (20:43)
  • How to know when you are ready to do life reentry work. (24:48)
  • Does reentry or returning to life mean you won’t experience waves of grief? (26:58)
  • The phases of reentry or returning to life. (36:47)

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Over the last few months, I’ve been exploring various personal development modalities with my guests. Another area that has been of interest to me is hypnotherapy. To explore this topic and discuss how we can utilize hypnotherapy to transform our subconscious mind is my bestie, Amy E. Smith. Amy is a certified and credentialed confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. She is also a certified hypnotherapist who aids hundreds of women in stepping into their authentic power and craft the lives they desire.

Together we discuss various methods that can help you analyze and address the state of your subconscious mind, including emotional freedom technique (EFT), dreams and what they mean, as well as what your handwriting can tell you.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • From a lay person’s perspective, Amy describes hypnotherapy.  (12:38)
  • How the conscious and subconscious work and what it has to do with the inner critic. (19:35)
  • EFT: what it is and how it can help. (26:03)
  • Handwriting analysis and what it has to do with the subconscious. Plus, how Amy uses this modality in her work. (27:59)
  • How analyzing your dreams can help you solve problems. (37:58)

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There are multiple ways to heal, and you know I love to give you many avenues. This week we are exploring the topic of internal family systems and how this modality can be a powerful lens of healing. Rebecca Ching, our unofficial resident therapist returns to the show to help us understand more about this type of healing. 

Rebecca is a psychotherapist, trauma-informed leadership coach, and host of the Unburdened Leader podcast. She helps established leaders, entrepreneurs and business owners navigate the curveballs of life + leadership without sacrificing their health, important relationships, and their business bottom line. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Rebecca shared an in-depth explanation of internal family systems (IFS). (4:47)
  • There are many ways to heal and staying curious about the various methods.(19:04)
  • With IFS all parts are welcome. No judgment. (27:00)
  • Trusting your practitioner and how to break away from a clinician you no longer trust. (30:31)
  • How someone might resolve a common conflict using IFS. (38:40)
  • This is a lifelong practice, it’s not one and done. (47:56)

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How can you have more tools to become the best version of yourself? Well, today we are going to find out how Human Design can help you get there. Erin Claire Jones is a guide, coach, and speaker who uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals and companies step into their work and their lives as their truest selves and to their highest potential.

Human Design was a new topic to me and I had so many questions for Erin! Together, we explored the different Human Design types, ways of making decisions, strategies, and more. Erin even read my Human Design chart and shared some specific insight into my true self. She provided practical tools and suggestions so you can integrate them into your own life too, plus how you can learn about your own Human Design. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Erin describes Human Design and how understanding your design gives you permission to be who you are. (4:12)
  • Human Design can help you in your day-to-day life, Erin explains how. (8:33)
  • The five different types of Human Design. (11:07)
  • The different ways of making decisions using your inner authority. (21:58)
  • Using Human Design as a tool for high performance and understanding what aspects of your design are getting you off track. (26:53)
  • Some strategies to help overcome dark spots or shadows in your life. (28:43)
  • How women can use Human Design to make full-bodied choices. (37:30)

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Are you a woman who has trouble listening to their intuition and has unresolved trauma? This week, Lara Riggio joins me to discuss using energy work to heal from trauma. She says that moving these emotions through the body is key and explains how energy healing versus talk therapy can help. 

Lara is an Energy Intuitive. Her videos, classes, and sessions have helped tens of thousands discover and heal the mind/body, ancestral, and past life blocks that sabotage health and happiness. Enjoy our conversation. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • I start the episode off by sharing the strategies I use to combat anxiety thought-spirals. (2:39)
  • How Lara helps clients create a safe space to work through unresolved trauma. (10:38)
  • Using energy healing to address trauma and how it helps you to retrain your reaction to it. (13:29)
  • Some tell-tale signs someone needs to seek out a trauma therapist. (19:45)
  • Reprogramming your response to triggers. Being present to the feelings you are feeling and teaching yourself to keep yourself safe. (34:16)
  • What is happening biologically when you are triggered. (29:40)
  • Making decisions with greater clarity during times of anxiety. (37:59)

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Ancestors and ancestral healing is a topic I’ve been really curious about lately. And with many topics that pique my interest, I found an expert to bring onto the show to discuss it further. This week, Ash Johns, an international spiritual life coach, and ancestral healer, joins me to discuss ancestral healing, an interesting aspect of personal development.  

Ash Johns is also a conscious business strategist, speaker, and creator of ​Creating Queendoms™, a holistic healing and business development program for visionary femm-preneurs and healers ready to create (or nurture) empires in alignment with their soul's purpose, contribute to healing the world and cultivate generational wealth through their deepest dreams and desires. 

  • Ash starts off with an intention setting practice and then explains how she came to be a spiritual life coach and ancestral healer. (10:02)
  • Ancestral healing and why is it important to our lives. (20:00)
  • The role of a Psychosynthesis Coach and how Ash approaches the work she does. (23:56)
  • The intersection between courage and compassion with your ancestry. (35:00)
  • Some considerations before choosing a spiritual life coach or healer. (37:40)
  • Small steps a woman can take towards their own ancestral healing. (43:52)
  • Energy channeling and clearing - what is it and how it helps. (46:20)
  • Ash’s thoughts on the spirituality of witchcraft. (50:00)

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Finding joy when a difficult relationship ends is possible. This week, Liza Harper, a life redesigner, joins me to talk about finding joy and clarity through relationships and life’s transitions. She’s a life and divorce coach who seeks to empower women to unleash their desires. 

We discuss some ways you can infuse joy into your life. Liza opens up about the personal development work she did for herself and how it led her to do the work she does today.  Plus, we explored fear, shame, and stigma surrounding failing relationships.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How Liza helps her clients find joy in the next chapter of their lives. (5:02)
  • Why it always works out when you bet on yourself. (14:42)
  • Ignoring your intuition during a difficult past relationship. (26:02)
  • Fear and shame women may experience following a relationship with a narcissist. (35:04)

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It’s no secret that this year has been challenging and many have been put into situations where they need to have tough conversations. In fact, many problems can be solved when two people can have a thoughtful, mature, and healthy conversation. Yet, having tough conversations or simple communication was never taught to most of us in school; we don’t know how to do it. This week, Alexandra Jamieson returns to the podcast to discuss how to have game-changing conversations. 

Alexandra is the co-author of Radical Alignment, a book about how to have tough conversations at work and at home. In this episode, Alex helps us learn the steps needed to show up as your best self, regardless of how the conversation turns out. 

  • How a communication workshop for couples inspired Alex and her husband, Bob, to write their book, Radical Alignment. (22:00)
  • How we fall into traps of bad communication. (10:00)
  • Why the common culprit in miscommunication is the missing conversation. (18:16)
  • You can create team psychological safety with equal speaking time. (25:00)
  • The 4 steps in the All-In Method, including declaring the topic of conversation. (24:27)
  • How to invite someone to an emotional or high-stakes conversation. (40:00)

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“Narcissism” seems to be a buzzword these days and I wanted to have an expert on who can give us the low-down. According to trauma therapist, Britt Frank, everyone has shades of narcissism. She goes on to say that high-level narcissism is an addiction to self-protection by any means necessary. And for those who have experienced a relationship with a narcissist, it is a traumatic experience. 

In this week’s episode, Britt joins me to discuss how to heal from traumatic relationships, including those in which narcissistic abuse is present. Britt is also a teacher and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • What is a narcissist and how does someone know they may be in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist? (6:33)
  • Britt’s goal is “dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK”. She shares what she means by that. (13:34)
  • Dealing with trauma: Some signs or patterns which signal someone should deal with their trauma. (16:07)
  • Why someone may get physically addicted to their narcissist and experience withdrawals. (22:27)
  • How someone can begin to heal from a narcissistic relationship. (27:03)
  • Mother wounds and grieving our childhoods (the things we didn’t get) or other parts of our lives. (31:04)
  • How COVID has affected Britt’s work, including the collective processing of COVID trauma. (38:13)

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I am doing something I have never done in any podcast episode. For the first time, I am bringing you an interview I did on another podcast, where someone interviewed me. My dear friend Rebecca Ching has a podcast called The Unburdened Leader. It was such a fantastic conversation and I am so grateful that she said, “Yes,” when I asked her if I could air it for my listeners.

We talked about a lot of hard things, including grief and addiction.  On 9/27, I celebrated nine years of sobriety and recovery from alcoholism. It is something we talked about in this particular episode. I share how commitment to my values helped me maintain my continued healing and sobriety and how grief nearly brought me out of recovery. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • My addiction to alcohol and what it symbolized.
  • Why I needed to understand and heal my traumas in order to fully unburden the last of my addictions.
  • Perfection, control, and overachieving worked until it didn’t. Drinking worked for a while until it didn’t. 
  • The role community plays in my sobriety.
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Dr. Alexandra Katehakis is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Founder of Center for Healthy Sex and she joins me to discuss the topic of healing from love addiction. While love addiction may not be something affecting your life where you need to seek treatment, it could be something to look at in terms of some unhealthy coping mechanisms affecting your life.

We discuss what love addiction is, the root cause (which stems from father abandonment), and what the steps to healing look like. Dr. Alex offers amazing insight and advice about what it means to be a love addict and how to step into recovery. I hope this episode is helpful to you, in some way. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • What is love addiction? And how it differs between men and women. (5:59)
  • Women struggle with a concept called ‘mother hunger’ and therefore it is crucial for women to find support from other women in order to heal from sex or love addiction. (12:33)
  • The root cause of love addiction. (14:45)
  • There comes a point when we realize we are hurting ourselves, plus why going into the pain (withdrawal) is how we can heal. (18:22)
  • What sobriety looks like for love addicts and some of the first steps someone can take to heal. (22:03)
  • How to assert healthy boundaries for more equal relationships. (35:11)

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This September is the 10th year anniversary of Your Kick-Ass Life! Over the years, the YKAL team has evolved and grown. In this episode, Liz Applegate, our lead coach here at YKAL, joins me for a conversation about shit that matters. 

We are talking about aging, perimenopause, and depression. One of the reasons I wanted to have a conversation about these topics was to shine a light on some of the ways they can show up in one’s life, especially in 2020, and the curveball we’ve been thrown this year. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Liz shares her history with depression and antidepressants and how she gave herself permission to seek mental health help. (8:30)
  • I share my experience of how a discussion with my therapist about burnout turned into one about high functioning depression. (19:33)
  • Our thoughts and feelings (and struggle) on being middle-aged. (22:08)
  • What we think about navigating perimenopause. (34:25)

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Happiness. It’s 2020 and I have a feeling that many of us could use a dose of that. Right? Well, you’re in luck because Kim Strobel, happiness coach, joins me to talk about how to be happier. Happiness isn’t always born from unicorns and rainbows. In fact, you’ll hear how Kim’s happiness coaching was born out of her own trauma, darkness, and suffering. 

Together we discuss toxic positivity, why turning off negative feelings isn’t helpful, and the importance of putting your happiness first. Kim also shares some of the happiness habits we can practice in order to increase happiness levels. Finally, we also explore the Arena of Bigness, what it means, and how to step into the Arena with courage and do really hard things. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Kim opens up about her struggle with mental illness and what that looks like in her life now. (5:20)
  • Why today’s culture of positivity and the conventional formula for happiness is wrong. (21:30)
  • Putting your happiness and wellbeing at the forefront is of the utmost importance. (23:54)
  • We all have a set baseline happiness default. Kim talks about how we can work to retrain the brain to feel happy even when struggling through tough times. (26:47)
  • How somebody who feels as though they are living a small life can step out of that and into the Arena of Bigness. (42:08)

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This week on the YKAL podcast we’re talking about resilience and intuition. To help me unpack this topic is my guest, Dr. Andrea Pennington. She is an integrative physician, acupuncturist, meditation teacher, #1 international bestselling author, and TEDx speaker.

Together Dr. Andrea and I discuss what it means to be resilient, how tolerating stress is not the same thing as being resilient, and how self-care plays a key role in resilience. Plus, she shares what it means to learn who you really are, how to share your personal story, and listening to your intuition.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Dr. Andrea shares her story of debilitating imposter syndrome and how it led her to do the work she is doing today. (9:18)
  • What it means to be resilient and some traits of resilient people. (11:30)
  • Tolerating stress is not the same as being resilient. (14:20)
  • In order to embrace who you are, you must first need to learn who you are. (17:49)
  • Dr. Andrea shares about her own struggle with depression and how music has been such an influence and help. (24:09)
  • The power in sharing your personal story and how you can start sharing yours. (36:01)

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Are you a woman who struggles with asking for what you want at work? This week we are talking about some of the things that hold women back in the workplace with guest, Sara Laschever! Sara is an authority on the challenges that shape women’s lives at work. She is the co-author, with Linda Babcock, of Women Don’t Ask, the groundbreaking study that first focused public attention on the forces preventing women from negotiating on their own behalf. I stumbled upon Sara’s work while doing research for my third book and I was fascinated. I am thrilled to have her on the show!

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Some common obstacles women confront in the workplace and some ways in which they can overcome them. (5:35)
  • The impact of subconscious biases on women in the workplace. (13:07)
  • Direct or controlling behavior in men at work will often go unremarked, yet with women, we tend to mark it. (18:12)
  • Some ways in which women can go through the process of evaluating their talents and target what will make their personal and professional lives more fulfilling. (19:31)
  • Why most women find it hard to negotiate their salaries or ask for the things they want. Plus, some small steps they can take towards asking for what they really want.(22:22)
  • Has the culture of work changed? I asked Sara if the struggle with negotiations is more of a Baby Boomer, Gen X, Millennial, or Gen Z generation problem? Listen in to hear her answer. (30:59)

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When it comes to personal development, positivity and cheering people on is great. And…if we really want to support and love women, we have to also make room for the difficult stuff, for the traumas and the “shadow side”. That is where this week’s guest, Christine Gutierrez’s work really comes in. Christine returns to the YKAL podcast and together we discuss honoring your pain, going to the darkness in order to get to the light and living in a world where your light side and dark side can co-exist. 

Christine is a Latina licensed psychothera​pist, life coach and expert in love addiction, trauma, abuse, and self- esteem. She is the author of the upcoming book, I am Diosa: A Journey to Healing Deep, Loving Yourself, and Coming Back to Your Soul. I hope you enjoy our conversation.

  • Who is Diosa and what being Diosa is all about. (4:06)
  • Christine’s book is broken up into three parts: The darkness, the light and the integration. She explains why she chose to write it in this way. (9:34)
  • Why it is important to explore your emotional triggers. (14:26)
  • How to know if you’ve experienced trauma. (16:03)
  • Repairing your intuition after trauma and how to heal. (20:00)
  • Why Christine walks people through a meditation journey to help them visualize their first memories of anger or sadness. (27:38)

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This week on the show we are talking about emotions, which my guest, Sherianna Boyle, has a specific methodology to work through them. I was “emotionally illiterate” for a really long time, which led to lots of numbing out, so I love learning different tools to process them!  

 

Sherianna Boyle is an international Emotional Detox Coach®, author of eight books, including her most recent Emotional Detox and Emotional Detox for Anxiety. Emotions are so much to carry sometimes. But as Sherianna said during our time together, “Emotions are not the problem, it’s our reaction to them.” She helps us understand emotions, how to process them, and honor them. 

 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How emotions support a kick-ass life. (3:26)
  • Sherianna shares how she was drawn to work as an Emotional Detox Coach®. (6:32)
  • Emotional detox for anxiety and what it means. (7:35)
  • All emotions are good when you process them. There is no negative emotion. (11:25)
  • The Emotional Detox philosophy and how it applies to triggering experiences. (15:00)
  • How Sherianna works with people who are disconnected from their feelings. (24:39)
  • What to do if you carry core beliefs that you are the holder of others emotions. (30:00)
  • We discuss surrendering and how it differs from letting go. (38:33)

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Work is the number one place we make friendships as adults, according to Shasta Nelson. So why not focus on friendships where we are most of the time? Well, Shasta is back on the podcast this week to talk about this topic, one she is an expert in, friendships.

Her newest book is all about friendships at work. And, this is definitely an interesting time for workplace friendships, with many working from home or working in the office but with socially distant restrictions. We can all use a little help with our relationships whether they are our personal relationships or friendships at work. I am happy to share our conversation with you.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • The three things needed in a healthy relationship: consistency, vulnerability, and positivity. (5:43)
  • Why having a best friend at work improves employee experience and organizational success. (9:31)
  • How to handle the coworker friend who sucks the energy out of you and how to reduce the impact of their toxicity.  (12:04)
  • #RelationshipGoals at work - do you have to be friends with everyone? (13:42)
  • Workplace boundaries and your responsibility around them. (18:17)
  • What to do or say when you are working with someone who indulges in office gossip. (21:33)
  • Leveraging your former professional friendships to help you during a job search. (27:47)

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This week on the YKAL podcast, my guest is Leah Campbell Badertscher. She is a former attorney turned artist and Master Life coach for world-class performers and leaders in the arts, business, and movements in positive change for the social good.

During our conversation, Leah asks simply, “What are you giving up if you don’t go for it?” And that is the question she pondered after graduating law school. In this episode, she shares openly her battle with her inner-critic and how she pushed forward to pursue an artistic career. Her story of wanting to follow a specific path, but experiencing push back from self-talk is common. My hope is that if you see some of yourself in Leah’s story, you will be inspired to take action in your life. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Leah shares her journey from law career to artist. (4:14)
  • Why it is important to not dismiss your intuition and instead listen to what you really want. (11:13)
  • Leah talks about the battle with her inner critic and how she kept going. (24:58)
  • How Leah learned to lean into self-trust. (35:30)
  • Some of the pros and cons of the creative process. (41:26)

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Today I have a Conversation About Shit That Matters With Unqualified People (CASTMWUP as we call it over here). But, this time my guest/friend is qualified to talk about today’s topic on diversity and inclusion. CASTMWUP episodes are less interviews and more conversations between friends. 

I assume people who listen to my podcast are those willing to engage in this conversation about race. I am not a race educator, but Jessica Sharp is. She has a Master’s of Public Affairs from the University of Missouri and is currently a student at William James College where she is obtaining a Doctorate in Leadership Psychology. Her work experience includes work in the non-profit sector and work in diversity & inclusion. My hope is that white women listen to Black voices who are race-educators, especially Black women. Because none of us are free until we’re all free. 

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Leesa Renee Hall has helped over 33,000 leaders explore their unconscious biases using her signature process called Explore Biases Now. Author of ten books, Leesa was known as a technology pioneer before turning her attention to disrupting the misinformation hardcoded deep in the mind. I am thrilled to be able to share our important conversation with you this week! 

Today Leesa and I discuss reflective writing and self-reflection as an investment in your own life and your own healing. We explore the topic of stumbling bravely through understanding and processing our humanity. And, finally, we discuss how to stay in the work of unpacking your unconscious biases so you stand with and not for, black, indigenous, and people of color. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Leesa shares how she transitioned from working in tech to questioning her legacy and then moving to help others explore and unpack their unconscious biases. (3:33)
  • By developing a habit around self-reflection, you begin to accept the nuances and complexities within yourself. (11:00)
  • Why there is a disconnect between what we believe versus how we behave. (19:00)
  • Leesa’s work with introverted, highly-sensitive people. (23:07)
  • What happens to your nervous system when unpacking unconscious biases. (27:11)
  • How to begin unpacking your unconscious biases, some first steps you can take. (43:00)
  • Why perfectionism is a tool of white supremacy. (46:53)

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Today, I bring you a YKAL Coaching session. Katie is a proud introvert and physical therapist in Nevada. She came to me because she has a desire to reduce her work capacity so she can focus on following her passions and interests. Together we discuss what she’s been struggling with and why she has been having such a difficult time changing the trajectory of her job. We also uncover some of Katie’s fears such as being seen as imperfect or non-knowledgeable in her field. 

I encourage you to listen to the entire episode because Katie’s update was really interesting. As we say in coaching, a lot of the healing happens in between sessions. And as you will hear, such was the case for Katie. 

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When I met this week’s guest, I knew I needed to have her on the show, just based on her enthusiasm alone. Emily Francis is the host of the radio show All About Healing and author of the new book, Whole Body Healing: Create Your Own Path to Physical, Emotional, Energetic, and Spiritual Wellness. One of the reasons I’m pumped to introduce you to her is because I’ve never had a guest on the show who does the kind of work that Emily does. 

Today we discuss how body memory leads us to carry pain, releasing your body of emotions, and leaning into joy and gratitude. I learned so much from our time together and I hope you do too! 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • About muscle memory and why we carry pain where we do. Muscle memory is very much like mental memory. Our bodies remember. (11:01)
  • Some ways the body communicates its emotions - aka the body’s somatic languages. (22:00)
  • The importance of working with the body for the release of emotions, like grief or anxiety. (29:00)
  • How we can use tissue memory for healing. (31:00)
  • Listening to your own body - aka the body scan. (43:36)

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How does the enneagram relate to personal development? Well, today we find out. Jessica Denise Dickson is a life empowerment Enneagram coach (and Black mermaid) who believes that when Black women heal, the world heals. She joins me to talk about the enneagram as a transformative tool for personal development. 

I can’t tell you how excited I am about this topic and guest-- as I’ve wanted to have someone on for eons. Today, we discuss what the enneagram is, how it can help you become more self-aware, and help you address your blind spots. We also discuss what the enneagram has to offer during this time of global pandemic and global reckoning with systems of oppression. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • There are a lot of ideas about the enneagram - Jessica breaks down what it is and what it is not. (3:59)
  • How the enneagram can help with self-awareness and empathy. (10:38)
  • Learning your type can be a personal and private experience, as well as, one of validation. (14:20)
  • For systems to change, it comes from doing the work. Jessica shares some information about her course for people who identify as white. (29:31)
  • Enneagram and relationships - there are no rules for making it work between different enneagram types. (37:27)
  • Conflict resolution through the lens of the enneagram. (42:58)

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This week I am sharing my conversation with Mike Robbins. Mike Robbins is a speaker and author of five books, including, Bring Your Whole Self to Work and We're All in This Together. I had a bunch of questions ready to ask Mike about his newest book. But our conversation went in an entirely different direction. And for that, I am grateful.

In this episode, Mike and I discussed the value and importance of talking about race, white privilege, and why being vulnerable is so important, now more than ever. Being vulnerable forces us to ask of others and of ourselves, “Can I trust you with my time, my space, and my voice?” The world is divided - vulnerability is just one way we can begin to open up to talk about and take action for social justice, equality, and civil change.  

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Mike’s idea and journey for his book, We’re All In This Together. 
  • When he realized we are not all in this together. 
  • Mike’s experience with understanding what white privilege means. 
  • Acknowledging how our conversation is an example of centering whiteness. 
  • One entry point to anti-racism can be helpful is if white people call forward other white people. 
  • The importance of being vulnerable. 

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This week I have an episode featuring Makenna Held. Makenna is someone who is wise beyond her years. She is a writer, educator, and serial entrepreneur. While she's most known for being ‘the woman who bought Julia Child’s house’, that is one of the least interesting things about her. Her business, personal, and leadership coaching is committed to exploring paradigms of the human condition including liberation, human potential, obliterating capitalism's hold on our souls, and the essence of suffering. 

Today, Makenna and I discuss the inheritance of whiteness by white people and why it is our job, (as white people), to unpack and dismantle it. We also discuss putting the focus on the value you provide to people rather than putting the focus on the value of money, how to begin to dismantle the patriarchy, and sitting with the uncomfortable in with personal growth. This episode is a perfect reminder that it’s never too late to make a change. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • What Makenna means by “Whiteness is a sickness white people carry.” (5:00)
  • Obliterating capitalism's hold on our souls and putting the focus on the value you provide, instead. (12:30)
  • Where to start: dismantling the patriarchy or patriarchal structures. (18:03)
  • Human design and why it is so important for women to trust their intuition. (32:12)
  • How the concepts of cooking tie into personal development. (38:00)

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Before we jump into this week's episode, I want to direct your attention to what I mention in the first few minutes of the show. If you've followed me for some time, you know that I have a firm belief that as a white person, it's not okay to teach personal development and wellness without addressing and breaking down your own unconscious biases, as well as speaking up about it. No one is free until we are all free and we must use our privilege for good. 
 
I want to make it clear what I believe in both personally and professionally, where I'm at right now, and what's in store here at YKAL. The email I mention that's coming has already been written and you can find it HERE.

Have you ever considered the deeper meaning behind personal development and the self-help industry as a whole? This episode with guest Andréa Ranae is guaranteed to get you thinking (and talking), and what she talks about affects everyone, not just coaches or someone in the self-help industry.

Andréa is a coach herself who wrote a blog post last summer titled, Why the Self-Help Industry Isn’t Changing The World, which went viral and has been shared thousands of times since. She believes there is a disconnect between our own industry and the work of social justice, and even offers a Coaching As Activism Program to her clients.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Why did her post really strike a nerve with coaches and healers alike? (5 minutes and 15 seconds)
  •  The reasons why the work of changing the world doesn’t stop at an individual (8:15)
  • Why the lessons of the Law of Attraction are laden with privilege - if you are not systematically oppressed (8:51)
  • Why focus on your identity but not how we have been impacted by dehumanizing messages about women? (16:39)
  • How limiting beliefs are instilled in you and why you have to “name it to tame it!” (19:46)

As Andréa shares, “do-gooders” of the world often don’t want to bring “politics” and the stuff that’s happening around us into their work, but it’s something we can hide from. Her opinion is that self-love and self-care will not change the world, and I’m interested to hear from you about your thoughts on our conversation!

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Talia Pollock is on the show this week! Talia Pollock is the author of Party In Your Plants, speaker, storyteller, plant-based chef, TV personality, and health and empowerment coach. I was a guest on Talia’s podcast, Party in My Plants, last year. She has a fantastic sense of humor, and we hit off well. Talia has a unique and refreshing approach when it comes to being healthy. 

Today, Talia offers ways to take the hell out of being healthy. In Talia’s words, the world doesn’t need more recipes. Instead, she believes we need more courage, confidence, and boldness to take action and make the right choices for our health.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Healthy eating, yeah, it kind of sucks. Talia offers some ways to take the hell out of being healthy. (7:36)
  • Why energy is the main benefit of eating plants. (15:48)
  • How Talia’s work is intended to help, people thrive outside the kitchen. (17:57)
  • Confidence is the missing piece for executing our healthy lifestyle. (23:49)
  • What surprises Talia the most about the women she works when she takes them through this journey. (29:05)

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Dr. Samantha Brody, author of Overcoming Overwhelm: Dismantle Your Stress From the Inside Out, is on the show this week. And y’all, who doesn’t deal with overwhelm, right? When she reached out to be on the podcast and told me the title of her book, I thought, “Hell yes, when can we speak?!” Samantha is a licensed naturopathic physician and acupuncturist, and the founder of Evergreen Natural Health Center.

Together we discuss what it means to be overwhelmed, how our values can help reduce overwhelm, and how our subconscious beliefs might be undercutting our goals. Finally, Dr. Samantha shares what food and our food choices have to do with feeling overwhelmed.

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • What women do to try to combat overwhelm that isn’t working. (7:51)
  • How your values affect overwhelm, how they help you vet your choices, and reduce overwhelm. (9:38)
  • Subconscious beliefs and how they might be derailing your goals. (16:52)
  • The “overwhelm inventory,” what it is and how it helps. (26:21)
  • What food has to do with overwhelm. (31:01)

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Alexia Vernon is on the YKAL podcast this week! Alexia is a sought-after speaking and leadership coach to female (and male) executives, entrepreneurs, media personalities, and change makers who want to spread their ideas, positively impact people’s lives, grow their businesses, and advance their thought leadership. Alexia and I have an amazing conversation about visibility and using your voice. I am super pumped to bring you our conversation.

Together we discuss how most problems can be solved with hard conversations. Alexia shares some of her thoughts and advice on how to have tough conversations, what to do when a conversation goes wrong, and how to turn toxic conversations around. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Using communication to move you to take action (7:04)
  • How to find their voice in high-stake situations when there is a lot of fear (11:12)
  • What to do if communication goes wrong (17:54)
  • Alexia’s experience with online bullying during a Facebook ad campaign (25:00)
  • How to turn toxic conversations around with compassion and empathy (41:26)

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This week I have Cara Alwill Leyba on the show! Cara is a long overdue guest, and I am thrilled to introduce you to her.  She is a New York City-based creative entrepreneur who encourages women to live their most effervescent lives, celebrates themselves every day, and make their happiness a priority. I love having other guest experts on my show with similar messaging who can offer their unique spin. There's always a new perspective, tool, or strategy to learn. 

In this episode, Cara and I discuss some of the ways women can show up for themselves, how to learn from past experiences, and how to give yourself time to daydream. She also reminds us to ask, “What is the best-case scenario?” instead of, “What if I fail?” Last, she shares her perspective on failure: specifically, that failure is a possibility, but why you should do it anyway.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Why choosing yourself is so important (9:00)
  • How Cara actually got to the point of ‘choosing herself’ (10:00)
  • Why women have the capacity to give themselves a permission slip and don’t need to seek approval from others (14:00)
  • Spending as much time with yourself is the best way to get the answer you need (18:00)
  • Viewing rejection as redirection - it’s an opportunity to look at yourself and ask, “How am I going to handle this?” (20:00)
  • Speak kindly to yourself and think optimistically about your dreams (29:25)

Cara Alwill Leyba is a New York City-based creative entrepreneur who encourages women to live their most effervescent lives, celebrate themselves every day, and make their happiness a priority. She is a best selling personal development author, mentor to women entrepreneurs, and creator of The Champagne Diet blog. Over 6 million listeners worldwide tune in to Cara’s podcast Style Your Mind each week for powerful conversations and a mega-dose of inspiration.

Cara is the author of 9 best selling books, including the worldwide sensation Girl Code, that have inspired women around the world to step into their power and fulfill their potential. Cara’s books have been translated into multiple languages like Russian, Chinese, Portuguese, Mongolian, and Vietnamese. Her message continues to transcend cultures and break barriers for women across the globe.

Cara’s stylish and edgy approach to personal development has attracted thousands of women to attend her workshops and events. She has been featured in Forbes, Glamour, Shape, Entrepreneur, Success, Cosmo, Marie Claire, and many others.

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I don’t very often write about or talk on the podcast specifically to coaches. Personal development is my game, BUT, I know there is a decent amount of you that listen to the podcast as well as those of you who are interested in pursuing this profession.  

First, the world needs more great coaches. This pandemic has whispered in all of our ears how precious and fragile life is, that no one gets out of here alive, and the time to live our lives is NOW. 

Second, many newer coaches might be worried their business isn’t viable right now. You may believe that life coaching is a luxury afforded to few. But, just like there are many ways to coach, there are many ways to offer value and help your clients and audience.    

And before I jump in, we do offer consulting here (both with me and my team), click here if you’re interested

Here are ten things I highly recommend doing if you are in the beginning stages of your coaching business, and many of those hold true even if you’re a seasoned coach. 

  1. Get training. Since the coaching industry is currently unregulated, anyone can call themselves a coach, hang a shingle outside and be open for business. And I know some good coaches who have no training, only years of experience. However, coaching requires specific skills that matter for your clients. Plus, clients tend to bring emotional and heavy topics to sessions, and an untrained coach can end up causing more harm than good. So, please, get trained. 
  2. Get support. Building a coaching business is like building any business, you can’t do it with zero dollars and zero support. I’ve talked to people who’ve got their training and think it’s like moving from one job to another. You just quit your other job and start life coaching, right? No. Coaching is not a business, it’s a skill. You still need to build your practice. You are going to have overhead and need time to build, so have savings, a business loan, or a partner with income that can help (and is clear on the fact that they are supporting your business).
  3. Make goals but be flexible. Like anything, make goals. You don’t necessarily need a traditional “business plan”, but you need something in terms of goals and not just fly by the seat of your pants. How many clients do you want or need? Do you want to build your audience to offer group coaching? Speaking? Write it down like you would any other goals. And if you find out you don’t like or aren't good at one aspect, pivot and try other things. Once you make goals and plans you don’t have to marry them. 
  4. Have a mastermind ALWAYS. This is a group of people who are doing things similar to you (not necessarily coaches, but it’s good to put together that group). I’ve been in a mastermind continuously for the last decade. The people in the group have changed over time (the last one I’ve been in has been together for about 3 or 4 years), but the support I’ve received in these groups has been invaluable. You can’t build a business and maintain your mental and emotional health alone. 
  5. In the beginning, have a niche. And always be clear on your messaging. Like any business, in order for people to buy from you, they need to know what problem it is that you solve. Have you ever purchased anything when unclear about what problem you’re having solved by your purchase? Have sore muscles? Buy a massage. Bald tires that are unsafe? Buy new tires. Have marriage problems? Buy time with a therapist. No one pays for a life coach unless they are clear on the problem they are having in their life that they want someone to help them solve. (I go into more depth on the podcast episode on this one as to why my niche now is much more broad than it used to be.)
  6. Tell everyone what you do. Life coaching is still a new-ish service, so if you want people to know not only that you do it, but what it is, tell everyone. Tell your hairstylist, your dog groomer, people you start chatting with in line at Starbucks, everyone.
  7. Hold the vision. Your vision may waver. It may get really hard and you’ll want to quit. Your parents or other family members might tell you you’re crazy for leaving your steady paycheck. Also, I hate to break it to you, unless you LOVE building businesses, your coach training will have been the fun part, and now the real work begins. But, one of my favorite questions to ask myself is to fill in the blank, “Wouldn't it be awesome if…” Wouldn’t it be awesome if I had a full practice and had a waiting list? Wouldn’t it be awesome if I had a best-selling book? Wouldn’t it be awesome if I got paid 5-figures to speak on stages?” In other words, keep dreaming and hold on to those dreams. 
  8. Have a model but be flexible. Like any business, you’ll have a business model. Mine has continued to change continuously over the last decade. You might have a funnel, you might not. You might do lots of free sessions to get clients, you might not. You might offer group coaching, you might not. There is no perfect model (and people who tell you that are just trying to get you to buy their model). The only perfect model is one that works for you that you’ve experimented with and honed over time. 
  9. Do your personal growth work. You can have all the business acumen in the world, an MBA and have been taught by the most successful business people on the planet. And that will take you far. But, if you aren’t working on yourself, none of that really matters. Owning your own business will bring up self-worth stuff, inner-critic, comparison, exhaustion, overwhelm, life balance issues, family role issues, you name it. If you don’t work on those, they’ll just stick around and keep you stuck.  Also, you can’t take your clients further than you’re willing to go in your own life. Sure, you can coach them through anything, but if you’re stuck on a topic they bring because it’s the exact same thing you’re stuck on, it’s extremely hard to self manage. Do you own work for you, and because you want to be a role model for your clients. In other words, walk your talk. 
  10. Be consistent, persistent, and persevere. Slow and steady wins the race. If you’re in it for the long game-- which you probably are-- don’t be fooled by stories that you hear of a brand new coach who made 1 million in revenue in their first year (which if they did, I’d bet all my money they spent $800,000 in ads, business coaches, and other help to get there). This business is just like other businesses, it takes time and consistency to build and nurture. 

If you’re a coach and you feel like you need support-- we offer consulting, as well as coaching packages. We can help you with nailing down your messaging, figuring out what’s the best way for you to market yourself, and even if you want to write a book or start a podcast, we can help with that too. Click here to read more and apply

Plus, if you’re like, “Wow, I should probably work on my fear of visibility or my nasty inner-critic so I can really get my coaching business off the ground”, we're epic at helping people do that too. (Andrea facilitates specific deep, transformational work here, or you can look at a shorter package here.)

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Today I have an interesting episode for you. When Robert Kandell approached me to be on my podcast, I was like, “Wait, whaatttt, who is this guy?” I started looking into his work and he also sent me a copy of his book; I knew I had to have him on the show. He is known as “The Modern Mantor,” is an interpersonal communications and relationship expert, speaker, and podcaster. He is also the author of the book, unHidden: Book for Men and Those Confused By Them

 

Most of the listeners of this podcast are women...but obviously you have men in your lives - whether it be father, brothers, friends, or spouses. And sometimes it can be complicated. Robert and I discuss the different ways in which we can be better communicators with each other, how practicing telling the truth can build stronger relationships, and where and why men tend to hide from their own truths.

 

In this episode you will hear:

 

  • Where men tend to hide and why they hide, plus Robert shares some brain science and explains some of the reasons why men (and women) don’t do the work. (5:18)
  • How Burning Man and an orgy led Robert to a new path in life and relationships. (10:32)
  • The effects of withholding your truth from your intimate partners. (14:58)
  • We are trained to be mediocre communicators, Robert shares one way men and women can have better communication. (19:31)
  • The #MeToo movement was a huge wakeup call to society that the toxic habits of men and women supporting those men can no longer hold up and how the movement has affected men. (25:18)
  • The imbalance of personal development between women and their male companions (whether it be partner, brother, etc). (29:21)

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Jennifer Louden is a pioneer in the life coaching industry and author of the upcoming book, Why Bother?. I don’t know about you, but I think the title and topic of her book are incredibly timely. As we watch world events unfold, many are probably thinking things like, “Why bother to do that project right now?” Or “Why bother speaking up about the things I believe in?” Why bother?

Together, Jennifer and I discuss her new book and all of the implications of asking the question, “Why bother?” We talk about why it is essential to sit in the grey area of inquiry and curiosity, even when it’s incredibly uncomfortable. And, we explore the idea of desire and the importance of letting desire flow without knowing how it’s going to turn out.

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • How the writing of a failed memoir led Jennifer to write Why Bother? (10:00)
  • One of the ways “Why bother?” comes visiting (18:18)
  • As we face an unprecedented climate crisis, how asking, “why bother?” helps us address that (19:00)
  • Jennifer shares her six-step process for turning to the bright side of “why bother?” (24:03)
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Amy Ahlers returns to the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! She has been a life coach for many, many years and is a dear friend of mine. She is a master women’s leadership and life coach, keynote speaker, and the bestselling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves and Reform Your Inner Mean Girl. Amy is on a mission to STOP women from self-bullying and being so darn hard on themselves so they can make their greatest possible contribution.

Today we talk about managing your inner mean girl during times of crisis, such as what we’re all going through right now. Together we discuss the idea of leaning into the depth of what is really important to you currently— which could be napping or jumping into a passion project. What is your soul’s message? We also chat about writing and how it can be a powerful tool for healing. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: why Amy decided to co-author the book (5:00)
  • Don’t let your inner mean girl beat you up about what you are doing or not during this time of crisis (7:00)
  • The stress response and the antidote to the stress response; the relaxation response (9:00)
  • Common lies women tell themselves like, “It’s too late for me.” (12:00)
  • The many different ways to journal and how Amy’s practice of writing a letter to her inner wisdom (30:00)

Don’t forget to sign up for our free community call, Top 10 Kick-Ass tips to Get Your Project Started, Done or Out the door which will be held on April 22nd at 3 pm Eastern time. You’ll walk away with concrete tools so that you can create new awareness, heal some old stuff that’s been hanging around, and/or finish that novel or blog you’ve been putting off for years. 

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This week’s guest is a certified life coach, Liz Applegate. I’ve been wanting to introduce you to Liz because she is my lead coach here at Your Kick-Ass Life! (I so rarely use exclamation marks, so please know, this is very exciting!)  She was hand-selected to assist me with my private coaching clients and I could not be more thrilled to have someone as fantastic as a coach as she is on my team. She is a certified Courageous Living Coach and has been called an inner-critic whisperer by many of her clients.

One of the reasons I wanted to bring Liz onto the show was to speak on the topic of breaking the good girl rules, which is one of her areas of expertise. She explains that these rules are those in which keep grown women playing small. In this episode, we talk about what it actually means to play small, why we move through life unaware of our tolerations, and how we can work to let our innate gifts shine. We also talk about one of Liz’s deepest passions, creating connections with other women. I am super pumped to bring this episode to you today. I hope you enjoy it!

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Liz’s introduction into the world of coaching, first through being life coached and then transitioning to becoming a life coach herself, in 2015. (6:00)
  • What Liz means when she says, ‘breaking the good girl rules’ 
  • How Liz helps women get to the place of being their biggest/best self
  • Breaking limiting beliefs: what they are and how to break them
  • Creating connections with other women (29:00)

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This episode is a mixed bag of topics! First, I talk about how exhausted you might be, and not understand why. Most of us are emotionally and mentally exhausted, so if you need a nap, this is why. 

Next, I move on to values. Values are still important, even though you’re probably not living your life like you were the last time you did values work.I give an assignment in this section of the episode and talk about how the real work happens in the dark. 

I then move into some advice for other life coaches (I know there are a lot of you who listen!). 

About halfway through the episode, I speak to other life coaches, wellness people, and those of you that run online businesses. I’ve seen some people comment that life coaches and healers should stop promoting their services during this crisis, and I’ve got some things to say about this. In a nutshell, if you’re a coach or healer, don’t stop promoting your business because that would essentially be shutting down your business and that won’t help the economy. 

At the same time (and this is for everyone)-- be present as to what’s happening right now. Communicate about it. Be of service as best you can and know your limits and capacity. 

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I’ve known Sam Bennet for many years now. She’s a writer, speaker, actor, and creativity-productivity specialist as well as the author of the best-selling books, Get It Done and Start Right Where You Are. Sam is the creator of the Organized Artist Company where she helps creative individuals get unstuck and move forward with their goals. She is such a joy and she gives the best advice when I need to hear it.

In this episode, Sam and I discuss procrastination and overwhelm. She reminds us that other people can’t make us feel overwhelmed, it’s a feeling we put onto ourselves. And, she shares some ways to reclaim our power. As Sam said, “When you are doing something you like, in the way you like to do it, it’s not so hard to get stuff done.” 

In this episode you’ll hear:

 

  • What if you let this thing (whatever that thing is for you) be as big as it wants to be? (8:22)
  • Overwhelm and procrastination are BIG words and used to describe many things (10:39)
  • Setting worthy goals and how one can achieve them; plus the ‘groan’ zone (14:56)
  • Some action steps to use your imagination for good (20:50)
  • The eye-opening thing Sam does when she sees people doing things in which she disapproves (30:10)
  • A 5-minute art exercise you can do to help you work through your feelings (32:19)
  • The difference between being creative and being artistic (39:33)

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I want to start this episode by telling you about two resources you may or may not know about. The United Way Emergency Relief Fund is there to help, click here to check it out and apply locally if you are in need. And if you have extra, you can help by donating here

Glennon Doyle, along with her sister, run Together Rising, a non-profit that helps people in need. If you can donate, click here, if you need help, contact contact@togetherrising.org. 

You may or may not know Brandon Stanton of Humans of New York. He posted something on Instagram last week that made me pause and think. 

What I want to focus on is the part where he’s talking about our behavior. 

Of course, our first instinct is to protect ourselves, our children, and our families. That’s normal, human behavior and if we didn’t have this instinct, we wouldn't all be here now. So if you’re beating yourself up for panic buying, or for not having reached out to anyone yet, try to practice self-compassion and let’s move on. 

I’m hoping by the time this episode reaches you, the dust has mostly settled. And by “dust mostly settled”, I mean the shock has worn off, you’ve figured out what your situation is right now, you understand we all need to take this day by day, and if you’re not there yet, you’re working towards a place of surrender. 

And if that’s the case, may we all be able to think about our behavior. Listen in to this episode as I break this down more for you and talk about how to be your best self during this time. I also get into GRIEF, as this might be something you’re dismissing without knowing how important it is. 

Lastly, on April 7th, I’m hosting a free Book CLub Q & A. If you’ve read 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life and/or How to Stop Feeling Like Shit, you don’t want to miss this! Bring your questions if you have them, and even if you don’t, I can guarantee you’ll learn something from the other women who bring their questions. Click HERE to sign up

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Last week I sent out two episodes to help you cope through these uncertain times. You can find them here and here. I’ll be airing another one later this week. But, today, I wanted to put out a regular interview. While we are overwhelmed with heightened anxiety and unsure of what will come next, many may be looking for a reprieve; just 45 minutes to focus on something else. Anything else. I hope this episode is that for you. 

I recorded this particular interview several months ago, with guest Regena Thomashauer (a.k.a. “Mama Gena”). I am such a fan of her work and of her, as a person! She is a teacher, mother, founder, and CEO of the School of Womanly Arts. She has authored four popular books, including her newest New York Times Bestseller, Pussy: A Reclamation

In this episode, we discuss why women should reclaim the use of the word pussy, developing sex appeal and exploring pleasure, and the importance of allowing yourself to feel a full range of emotions. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Why women should use the word “pussy”, and why many women don’t want to (5:12)
  • A woman who owns her pussy owns her life (18:00)
  • Some ways women can begin to develop their own sex appeal and how to take it back (19:00)
  • How women can start to experience a full range of emotions (33:00)

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Well, first and foremost, I hope you are well, taking care of yourself, and taking care of your loved ones and community if you can. During these uncertain times, that’s the main thing we all need to focus on. 

Before I get into what’s on this extra-bonus episode this week, I wanted to urge you to take social distancing very seriously. If you haven’t played the Social Distancing Game, I urge you to go to this website and play around with the numbers. This is great to do with kids too. It shows you the math on what happens (in other words, how many people will die) if we wait to do social distancing, or if we just have a few friends over who aren’t sick, etc. Yes, people still need to work in order to make money. And yes, it breaks my heart that so many people in the service industry and other industries will take a huge hit during this time. If we work together in our communities, we can help those people recover, and if we practice social distancing we can collectively hit the brakes on this virus and less people will die. 

On Wednesday I sent out a podcast episode where I talked about knowing your boundaries in terms of news and other media. By no means is this the time for spiritual bypassing, but being glued to the news is likely not helpful either. Consume what you need to, take appropriate action, and take breaks. 

I also gave a few more ideas on how to cope, and today I’m back with more. In this episode I’m talking about your physical health (exercise can be your best medicine right now!), your spiritual, and now that I think about it, your mental and emotional health too. All of this is being tested for us, so it’s incredibly important to do your best to stay on top of it. 

In this episode, I also talk about trying to find something to ground you-- a symbol you might see on a fairly regular basis that you can use as a reminder to practice gratitude and/or to remind you to focus on what you CAN control right now. 

I close out the show talking about how eventually, maybe not right now, but eventually this will teach us all something. If you’re in a place to look and listen for that, that’s great. If you’re just barely trying to keep it together, your lessons will come later. 

Lastly, I’m putting together a playlist on Spotify of songs to help get us through this time. Please send me your song suggestions! Once we have a good playlist I’ll send the link out. You can reply to this email or DM me on Instagram. Please tell me the song AND artist. 

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Originally I had an interview set to go out to you today, but since the world had other plans, we’ve adjusted. 

I want to start out by saying the health and safety of you and your family is what’s MOST important right now. In this podcast episode, I’m going to be talking about how coronavirus is potentially impacting your life, so I just want to make sure you know in case you’re at your limit with what you can take in. Of course, my spin is always positive as I try to inspire you and give you tools to cope, and at the same time, our reality is what it is. 

In this show, I offer a handful of tools to take care of yourself during this time. You know I’m mildly obsessed with coping mechanisms, and right now our coping mechanisms are being put to the test. 

Also, I plan to do two podcast episodes a week at least for a few weeks to help you manage your life while we all try to navigate this new reality. 

Xoxo, 
Andrea

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This week we dive into another coaching episode, this time with a woman named Rebecca. She is a speech pathologist living in the NYC area. She has been through The Mentorship Masterclass with me and continues to do the work; because the work never stops.  

In this episode, Rebecca opens up about her struggles with self-doubt. She shares her experiences with procrastinating on some tasks that are very meaningful to a big project in her life. You’ll hear us talk through some of her issues and decide upon some exercises she can use to work through them. 

In this episode you’ll hear: 

  • Rebecca shares her challenges and fears around starting her own business (4:55)
  • Her struggles with feeling like she is ‘not doing enough’ (6:45)
  • The fear of being judged and unwanted identities (6:56)
  • Self-sabotage, comfort zones, and the fear of outshining (16:06)
  • A kick-ass update from Rebecca (45:36)

If you’re a regular podcast listener and resonate with what I tell you there and are wanting something a little more...maybe you want more than just the information and you want to actually implement the things I tell you here and in my books, The Mentorship is for you. You’ll walk away with science-based tools to have more confidence, more self-trust, better relationships, better communication (did someone say boundaries!?), so much more self-awareness and you don’t have to travel! Applications close soon, so check it out here

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This week on the show we’re hearing from podcast listeners! I know you like to hear stories from women in the YKAL community once in awhile, so I’ve brought you a few of them. You might hear some of yourself in their stories! 

All of these women share their journey from being a podcast listener and self-help book reader, to diving in deeper. Dana, Kelly, and Millie have gone through my signature program, The Mentorship Masterclass, and I hope you’re inspired when you hear what they’ve gained in their lives. 

First you’ll hear from Dana, who came into The Mentorship from all the way in Australia. She opens by telling us how she was feeling stuck, without a purpose, and having a bit of an identity crisis. You’ll hear her mention how the values work has shaped her and how she still relies on self-compassion that was emphasized in the program. 

Then we hear from Kelly, who had reached mid-life and just didn’t know where to start, but knew she needed to start somewhere. She also mentions how the values work has helped her over the last almost year since The Mentorship ended, and something I LOVED to hear her say, that the tools have stuck with her and she still uses them.

Lastly, we hear from Millie, who heard a podcast just like this one where she related so much to what they women I had on shared. Mostly around the topic of shame and she knew it was “the next frontier” she needed to work on. She mentions she remembers me saying, “If you only remember ONE thing I have taught you in this program, please have it be the steps of shame resilience!” Then proceeds to name them which you’ll hear makes me DELIGHTED! 

One thing you’ll notice is that ALL three women talk about the shared humanity among the participants and how much the group dynamic alone was a big part of the process in a positive way. 

We’re currently accepting applications for the next round of The Mentorship Masterclass, you can read all about it here and apply. We’d love to chat to see if it’s a fit for you.

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I have another Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People for you. This week my friend, Nicole Whiting, joins me to talk about some of the life lessons we’ve learned from challenging times (including divorce, suicide, and love addiction). By the way, Nicole is my lead facilitator for the next iteration of Mentorship Masterclass

I met Nicole last year and we became fast friends. During a road trip together, we opened up about some of our deepest, darkest secrets. Yeah, just your usual road trip conversational fare, right? 👀 

After that conversation with Nicole, I realized just how much she has been through and what an incredible human she is, now on the other side of it. So I thought she would be the perfect person to join me for a conversation about shit that matters, in this case, about the complexities of life.  

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Andrea shares her personal story of heartbreak, infidelity, and divorce and how she got through it (4:49)
  • The traumatic event that changed the entire trajectory of Nicole’s life, and how she thought she had healed until she actually started doing the work (12:17)
  • When Andrea’s self-work started, following her massive love addiction and finding her worth in relationships (21:02)
  • Nicole’s experience with people-pleasing behaviors and finally deciding to take a stand and heal (26:07)
  • Shit still happens to life coaches, so it is important to commit to grievances, practice resilience, and use the tools you have; all things we cover in The Mentorship (39:59)

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This week on the podcast I turned the mic on after a moment of feeling inspired and riffed for about 30 minutes or so about the fear of shining too bright. 

Every once in a while I feel like there’s a podcast episode I REALLY want you to hear, and this is one of them. 

Because I honest to goodness think we all struggle here. Our culture tells us not to shine too bright. Don’t draw too much attention to yourself, don’t brag, don’t take credit or praise or compliments, don’t take up too much space, don’t shine too much because you’ll make others uncomfortable and you’ll just look bad. 

Even if we don’t consciously think these things, these core beliefs can be embedded in our DNA. Our mothers and our mother’s mothers were taught this too. 

So, I break it down in the episode, plus give you some strategies to help you unlearn this and start shining. 

BECAUSE WE NEED MORE OF YOUR SHININESS. 🌟🔥🌟

P.S. If this episode speaks to you, I invite you to check out The Mentorship. Our fear of outshining comes from deep-rooted shame, more specifically our desire to avoid shame. The Mentorship teaches you the steps of shame resilience, among many other tools to implement in your life to be the best version of yourself you can be.

P. P. S. Podcast art this week is one of my favorite pictures of my daughter and me trying on hats. There she is in all her shiny glory. Multicolored skirt, striped leggings, and Hello Kitty cowboy boots.

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Jeanette LeBlanc is back on the YKAL podcast!  She is the author of You Are Not Too Much: Love Notes of Heartache, Redemption, and Reclamation. Through her work, her writing, and today’s conversation, she offers a different take on how to reclaim your wants, needs, and desires. 

(We’re doing a GIVEAWAY of Jeanette’s book, so make sure you listen to know how to win a copy!)

Women often will put up with suffering or bullshit before deciding to walk away from a crappy situation. It takes a wild amount of courage to step into a life transition. Jeanette believes, “Sometimes our stories are the only things that can save us.”

In this episode, we talk about acknowledging (and honoring) our deep revelations and having the willingness to step into them with radical honesty. Of course, there may be circumstances where you can’t step into your truth and Jeanette shares how her work gives voice to those who are unable to speak out. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • Jeanette’s desire to be in a place of truth and transparency and her journey to get there (5:00)
  • Sharing your truth for the first time is the first and most important step (14:03)
  • Why it is important to acknowledge there is risk to speak your truth and why Jeanette sees her work as the voice for those who can’t (21:00)
  • Jeanette shares an alter ego exercise to help you step into your truest self (31:16)

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This week I have another coaching episode for you, on the topic of money. A few months ago Melanie joined me for a two-part coaching session on money and self-worth. But, the topic of money varies widely, from person to person.  In fact, the topic of money is always nuanced and deeply personal. 

In this episode, Erica, who was in my signature program, Mentorship Masterclass, joins me to talk about her beliefs about money.  I have a feeling many will relate to what she has to say about how she feels about money and how she wants to change her mindset about it. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Erica shares her issues with limiting beliefs around money, as well as her shopping and spending habits (7:00)
  • Redirecting your thoughts and feelings about money (10:00)
  • Some of the stories we make up about people whose finances appear to be in tip-top shape (13:20)
  • We explore the question, “What if having the urge to spend is actually okay?” (19:00)
  • Accepting the process, understanding behaviors and realizing that personal development work is almost never linear (27:00)
  • A kick-ass update from Erica about shifting her beliefs around money, complete with a photo of her money crown project (see below)! (43:35)

http://yourkickasslife.com/319

 

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This week I welcome Dr. Valerie Rein to the YKAL podcast. Dr. Valerie discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the collective, inherited trauma of oppression. She is also the author of Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment.  

I met Dr. Valerie at an event late last year. I serendipitously sat at her table and as she was talking about her work and her book, I was enamored. In fact, I invited her onto the podcast on the spot. Her work is important, interesting, and backed by science.

When it comes to the patriarchy, as women, there is a deeper issue going on then the blame game. We are not going to heal by pointing fingers. My conversation with Dr. Valerie is just one step of many that will help move women towards healing from the patriarchy. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • How Dr. Valerie discovered PSD and how her search began with asking the question, “What is wrong with me?” (5:00)
  • Oppression is traumatic and it is deep in our DNA (10:04)
  • Patriarchy does not equal men and men do not equal patriarchy, patriarchy is a system that has been oppressive and disempowering to women (14:00)
  • PSD is the invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment and trauma defenses: mind, body, and action (15:00)
  • Some of the symptoms or circumstances of PSD (and yes, we all have it) (19:00)
  • Dr. Valerie’s message to men and how to bring them into the conversation and still take care of ourselves (32:06)

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At the end of 2019, Facebook memories told me I posted this 10 years ago...

I found it so interesting that I’d posted this (I don’t at all remember what was going on that day), as the decade that was approaching did end up being a decade of tremendous change for me. 

Seeing this prompted me to think about the entire decade and do a “decade in review”. I thought I would share it with you in hopes that you see some of yourself in this and gain some insight from some of my own life lessons. 

In the episode, I start with January 2010, when I had a 2-year-old and a 4-month-old, was finishing up my life coaching certification hours, and blogging under liveyourideallife.com. 

There were two moves across the United States, two book deals, sobriety, discovering our son had special needs, playing roller derby, my dad dying, and more. 

You’ll hear about the thing that truly threw me for a loop, and prompted a withdrawal and what that looked like for me. 

Ending the decade with an offer I couldn’t refuse. 

I close the episode with some life lessons I’ve learned on being a working mom, aging, and what it means to be happy. 

I hope you tune in and do your own decade in review! 

Lastly, applications are opening in February for the Mentorship Masterclass, my signature program. Head over to get on the list to be the first to be notified.  

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It’s been a minute since I brought you an episode of Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. If you’ve been hanging on to the edge of your seat waiting for the next one to appear in your podcast feed, well, today is your lucky day. Conversations About Shit That Matters is back! If you are new to this series, it features candid conversations with my real-life friends about stuff that happens in everyday life. This is not an episode that offers expert advice, tools or tips. Instead, my friends (who may be experts in other fields) and I come on to talk, explore, and share about specific topics affecting our lives and the world in which we live. 

This week, returning guest Kate Anthony joins me to talk about anxiety and depression. We’ve both struggled with anxiety, and Kate with depression. In this episode, we share our experiences and how we navigate these challenges in our own lives. We do also share some of the strategies we employ in our own self-care regimens. But please note, we are not licensed professionals around this topic. I really hope you enjoy this conversation! 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Our experiences with anxiety in childhood and our teen years (7:16)
  • Kate shares her experience with depression and about when her depression and anxiety began to manifest (23:00)
  • My story about how I was diagnosed with severe generalized anxiety disorder and how I felt so betrayed by my own body (25:00)
  • Anxiety and depression medication that helped us and some of the side effects we had (27:00)
  • Our self-care practices and strategies for navigating anxiety and depression (36:01)

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Last week I sent out an email telling you all that January 2nd was the second birthday for How to Stop Feeling Like Shit. Over 170,000 copies sold and more than half of those are the audiobook version. It fills my heart with immense gratitude knowing that so many of you have read or listened to HTSFLS. In this podcast episode, I go over what shame has to do with all of the 14 habits I write about in the book. From Isolating and numbing out, to perfectionism and overachieving, it all has to do with shame. 

I go on to talk more specifically about some in regards to all the habits. In talking about this book for the last two years, I heard which behaviors resonated the most with all of you. Tune in to the episode to see which ones! 

The thing is, the real work happens when we take action. Reading books and listening to podcasts is fantastic, and the thing that’s going to allow you to have the most momentum and see the biggest results is when you take what you read or listen to and integrate it into your life. 

As I mention in the episode, as a gift you, you can download the PDF version of all the “hard questions” from the chapters in HTSFLS below. 

Resources mentioned in this episode:
How To Stop Feeling Like Shit
Episode 312: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening with Jessica Graham
Listen and Subscribe to Not Another Self-Help Podcast

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This week on the podcast, I am re-broadcasting my conversation with Keith McArthur because NEW YEAR NEW YOU, right? Keith is the author of the book, “Winning Resolutions: Achieve Your Biggest Goals and Wildest Dreams Once and For All.” He’s also the creator of My Instruction Manual, a website, podcast and book series providing high-quality personal development and content. I’ve been on Keith’s podcast twice and know him to be an amazing interviewer. 

So, about a year ago, I released an episode called, “New Year New You” (ep 262), in which I said, loud and clear, that you do not need a morning routine or for that matter, any routine that doesn’t fit your lifestyle. But yet, I also realize that the new year can be overwhelming for many. That’s why I invited Keith to the show to talk about ways to calm the New Year overwhelm, help shift our mindset around goal setting, and share what he knows about our environment and how it can affect goal achieving. Plus, he shares what values, shame and commitment have to do with it all.  

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • Why we put so much pressure on ourselves at the start of a new year and how shame comes into play (11:49)
  • Keith’s take on the “New Year, New You” mentality (13:27)
  • The biggest mistake people make when creating a goal or resolution. Plus, some science-based strategies for achieving your biggest, baddest goals (16:19)
  • How an accountability partner can help you with goals and the science behind finding the right accountability partner (25:03)
  • Some ways to get back on track if you lose sight or abandon a goal, hint: think ahead!  (27:43)
  • Taking control of your environment and some ways to structure your environment for goal success (40:34)

Lastly, my new creative project with Amy Smith, Not Another Self-Help Podcast drops THIS FRIDAY, January 3rd! Please go take a listen, subscribe, and tell us what you think!  

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Announcement! Not Another Self-Help Podcast is coming! Amy and I need your personal development questions so hit us up here. Also, we’d be honored if you listened to our first two episodes which drop Friday, January 3rd! 

Two weeks ago was all about looking back on not just 2019, but the entire decade that’s ending. If you haven’t listened to that one, check out episode 309, plus there’s a free journaling PDF.

Let’s start with the basics: values and the way you speak to yourself.

Some people love to have a word of the year, and values work could be married together with that. I talk about values at length in How To Stop Feeling Like Shit, and I’ll give you a crash course here. This will be an important refresher for those of you who’ve done values work before. 

Think about a time in your life where you were proud of yourself. Maybe you took action on something you were afraid to do. Maybe you left a relationship, set a boundary with someone, told someone how you felt or went to a party where you didn’t know anyone. Think of that time. 

What was the value you were honoring then? It might have been courage for being brave enough to do something scary. Or, authenticity for showing up as your best self. Or honesty and integrity for speaking up about something that was important to you. Or, trust for trusting yourself enough to walk away from a situation you know wasn’t good for you. It might be ALL of those things, but what are the values that stand out to you the most? 

I’m thinking of the many clients I’ve had over the last decade and the brave things they’ve done. I had a client who had a strained relationship with her mother, who sat down, planned out everything she wanted to say to her mother and had the talk. Years of resentment, frustration, and hurt came together in a conversation she was proud of. She honored courage, honesty, and authenticity. 

I’ve had a few clients start new businesses and quit their jobs. Honoring meaningful work, creativity, and determination. 

I’m thinking of a client I had who had a difficult year-- the most difficult year of her life. So much loss and struggle...that time in her life she honored perseverance, self-trust, and optimism. 

So again, what values have you honored over the last decade? Sure, you’ve probably wanted to honor more of them, and maybe didn’t. Don’t dwell on those. Your mind may want to point out all the aspired values you have and didn’t do. That you wanted to be more courageous, that you wanted to focus more on your growth or have more balance in your life. For the sake of this exercise, let that go for now. 

The reason I want you to think of these values, to think about the behaviors you’ve done in the past that have made you proud of who you are, is because those are a key to looking ahead. If you’re proud of the courageous thing you did this year, and thinking about that feeling is gratifying, your next step is to think about how you can get more of that in your life in this year coming up. 

Let me remind you, that it’s typically never about the thing you do or want to do, it’s about the feeling you’ll get from having done it or the experience you’ll have while doing it. For example, when I write books, it’s not about the book. It’s about having written it, the pride I get in having done this BIG thing, and honoring my values along the way. 

Listen to today’s episode to hear more about the next important tool I want you to focus on in the new year, and that’s your self-talk. 

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As soon as I met this week’s guest, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. That is why I am thrilled to introduce you to Jessica Graham. She is a spiritual and sexual activist, author of the book, Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out, meditation teacher, and sex and intimacy guide. I first met Jessica when we had a chance meeting, in a cab, in Holland. I am so glad that the universe aligned and put us into each other’s orbit. 

At the time of our meeting, I had been feeling the pull to do some inner work around the areas of sex and sexuality. I knew I needed someone to help guide me. Jessica’s message resonated with me, we shared a lot of things in common, and to make a long story short, we’ve been working together since the Spring. She’s my sexuality doula and she’s been enormously helpful.

Today we talk about shame, the messaging we receive as a children about sex and sexuality, and what that all means. We also talk about the common struggle women face when it comes to their feelings around sex. Plus, Jessica shares how the combination of affirmation and mindfulness can help with sex and intimacy. My hope is that our conversation will encourage you to explore inner work around your own sexuality and spiritual awakening. 

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • About Jessica and her work, and how she is a sex coach who is more than a sex coach (13:00)
  • The struggles and shame around the topic of sex and sexuality (15:36)
  • What brought Jessica to her work as a sexuality, relationship, and self-love guide (19:52)
  • Sexuality inventory: what it is and what’s the purpose (23:00)
  • The most common struggle women face around sexuality and how Jessica helps with the desired outcome (30:00)
  • Why self-compassion is so important to any kind of personal development work (47:00)

Oh and by the way, to celebrate the launch of the new Your Kick-Ass Life website, we’re running a giveaway! It costs zero dollars to enter, we’ve made it ridiculously easy to enter (and you can enter more than once), and all you have to do is click HERE.

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When life hands you a bunch of BIG things all at once, they tend to take up a lot of energy, time and capacity in your life. And that’s what I’ve been dealing with lately. I even contemplated taking a break from the podcast this week, but then decided to just turn on the mic and talk about everything that is going on. I believe by sharing some of my experiences and how I am working through them is helpful (not only for me), but for you as well. 

Tune in to the episode as I talk about three big things that are happening in my personal and professional life, what I'm doing about self-care, plus the feelings that surround it (read: guilt) and what you can do for YOUR life if you can relate.

In this episode you’ll hear:

  • My heartbreaking experience with bringing a rescue dog home
  • Some book proposal news and waiting on a book deal
  • Reflecting on how can you slow down in your life and take a break, guilt-free

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This week Sydney Williams joins me on the show!  Sydney is a former collegiate athlete and competitive skydiver (and it was news to me this is a competitive sport!) who unexpectedly found herself on the receiving end of a Type 2 diabetes diagnosis while grappling with unresolved trauma from a decades-old sexual assault. So what did she do? She set out on a mission to turn her pain into power. Two hikes across Catalina Island and 80 miles later, she founded Hiking My Feelings to help others tap into the mind-body connection and healing power of nature that helped kick her self-limiting beliefs and disease into remission. 

In this episode, Sydney and I had a conversation about enduring hardships, the choices we make in the wake of them, and how we cope and make peace with our pain. We also talked about how Sydney’s hiking trips led her to appreciate her body, as well as, accepting and reversing her Type 2 Diabetes diagnosis. Her story is an incredible one. Our conversation was a beautiful one. I hope you’ll listen. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • What led Sydney to hike the Trans-Catalina Trail, completely unprepared, armed only with delusional self-confidence (5:21)
  • Some of the moments and lessons from her first backpacking trip (12:57)
  • Embracing her body just the way it is and taking deliberate action to make her social media feed a place to find positivity and inspiration (13:50)
  • Her Type 2 Diabetes diagnosis, how she handled it and what she did to reverse it (18:22)
  • What it means to unpack your trauma and how Sydney began to unpack her own following a sexual assault (29:03)
  • One step survivors of trauma can take to start the healing process (40:44)

http://yourkickasslife.com/310

 

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Where were you in November 2009? 

This time ten years ago I had a two-year-old, a newborn, was finishing up my coach training certification and was in the planning stages of launching Your Kick-Ass Life into the Universe. At that time writing books seemed like a far-away dream as I felt I had enough plates spinning (and was dropping more than a few). As I look back on the last ten years, it’s clear that a lot can happen in a decade. 

Yes, I’ve had a lot of success and I’m incredibly grateful for that. But, to be honest, the thing I’m the most grateful for and proud of is the internal growth I’ve done. The mental and emotional growth I’ve intentionally moved through. I couldn’t have had the other successes like writing and publishing books and business growth without doing my own work. 

And I see you. I see you, the woman who listens loyally every week to this podcast, and other personal development podcasts every week. The woman who goes to therapy, who maybe goes to trauma therapy even though she’s had a good week and really doesn’t want to go. Who has that hard conversation with her partner even though she’s afraid. 

The woman who’s taking a closer look at her drinking, or who’s decided to get sober, or stay sober. Who’s kept on going on this personal development journey even though her family teases her about it because they just don’t get it. 

The woman who’s separated or going through a divorce and it’s been the hardest year of her life. And she keeps just putting one foot in front of the other. Who’s struggled with her health or infertility, we see you, we see all of you. 

The woman who’s lost a parent, or a friend, or her beloved pet. 

And no matter what you’re going through, no matter what your year has looked like, I know if you’re listening to this, you ARE on your way, you’re still on your journey to your best life. 

So, this is the last month of the D E C A D E. Let’s take a look back on it. 

Tune into this episode as I ask you powerful questions about where you’ve been, what you’ve learned, and what you want to take with you into the next decade.  There is a special journaling worksheet to accompany this episode too. Be sure to grab yours at the link below!

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